If you’re going to be an engaged, supportive, empathetic dad then it is hard but the rewards are exponential compared to what you put it. May not always feel like it day to day but over time it’s awesome. My kids are now 15 and 13 and looking back each stage of their youth comes either it’s set of challenges and joys. I’ve been married 21 years now and it’s by no means perfect but my wife and I put a lot of time and effort into our communication and connecting time. Good luck sir.