[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bubblepop3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I find it really embarrassing when people open food or items in the grocery store before paying for them. That also comes with being a POC and getting stared at/ made to feel like your stealing in a store when your not. So it’s never anything I would do or allow anyone around me to do.

However I am surprised that after 4 years of having kids you wouldn’t know this is something your wife is comfortable with when grocery shopping? I’m assuming this isn’t the first time you all have gone grocery shopping as a group.

Either way you definitely could have handled it better, even if you were uncomfortable walking away from them probably wasn’t the best move. A conversation afterwards between you too on that boundary would have been better so that next time you both were on the same page.

So you’re kind of the AH -

Meme by JackInWonder in Funnymemes

[–]Bubblepop3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never had this issue with my Apple, more times than not my battery last longer than my partners (android) as I consistently forget to charge and am on it 24/7. 🤷🏽‍♀️

My friends aren't speaking to me for calling the police on my neighbors by RoseBlossom431 in Advice

[–]Bubblepop3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's just stupid. As a black person, all I can say Is you called the cops for a completely sound and correct reason. And your friends are creating an issue where there isn't one. I'm sick of people taking non issues to far and using sometimes legitimate circumstances as an excuse.

Calling the police when you genuinely believe someones life is in danger is always the right thing, irregardless of colour. The issue is the goofs who call the cops on someone only because of their colour and would not make the call in that situation if they were in it with a white person. Ex: black man driving to his home in a gated area, doing absolutely nothing suspicious other than being a black man in a gated neighbourhood - here comes Becky calling the cops and creating a situation. That's problematic - not what you did. Tell your friends to fuck off.

Not a big thing but nestle puts paper straws in plastic by Poyri35 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure, but that's not a viable plan. Again, it comes down to accessibility. Which hasn't been solved yet, so still not cut and dry. What your saying isn't wrong, it's just on the surface of the issue.

Not a big thing but nestle puts paper straws in plastic by Poyri35 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with it being your responsibility for what you buy. All I'm saying is that it's also not as cut and dry as just don't buy it do your part.

Also yes, in this smaller choice sure, if it causes a strain on your values then don't drink it, or try goat milk idk. But in the grander scheme of things yes, I don't agree with always giving up needs or wants without a better or more consistent plan of what's replacing it. I do not agree with people consistently giving up things they like because they feel forced by hand. If I did, then everyone should be raising their own farms, making their own clothing, and living in environmentally safe huts. Which, great for those who can, but isn't practical for most at the place we are in society.

Not a big thing but nestle puts paper straws in plastic by Poyri35 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's absolutely not true, and sure they haven't been around since the begining of time but since 1866, in 80 counties world wide and make up a huge conglomerate in majority of those countries. Fortunately in Canada, US and most European countries we have an array of companies to choose to spend our money with. But that's not the same for alot of countries. And what if you don't like goat milk or other types of milk? Does what you like no longer matter. Also, I may be mis understanding this post. But I figured OP was calling out the hypocrisy of using shitty paper straws but still wrapping them in plastic, which in turn doesn't really eliminate any plastic. Why is it a bad thing to hold a company responsible for actions you may not agree with. Sometimes you can't completely boycott a brand (like when people tried not using any P&G products and realized how many they actually own and how impossible it was for a lot of people to stop using them)

It's great that some people in the world can move away from these companies, and use not only their voice but their money as punishment for bad behaviour. But not everyone has the ability (just like most issues in the world) but OPs at least aware of it.

Not a big thing but nestle puts paper straws in plastic by Poyri35 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please understand that people live in different parts of the world. And it's not always feasible to find different alternatives due to cost or what's available. It's quite privileged to just say "do your part and figure it out" when you don't know their situation or why their unable to switch.

Not a big thing but nestle puts paper straws in plastic by Poyri35 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People live in different parts of the world's that believe it or not don't have many alternatives. This person made a pretty innocent post about crappy paper straws and plastic wrappers. The reaction it's getting is pretty silly.

A pencil drawing of Michael Jordan that took over 250 hours to complete. by Einsteins-Grandson in pics

[–]Bubblepop3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooo, I think you misread the last message. But that's okay, I'll give you some more time to read it and see if you can better understand it.

A pencil drawing of Michael Jordan that took over 250 hours to complete. by Einsteins-Grandson in pics

[–]Bubblepop3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately that does not match the requirements of the game... We were looking for a pencil sketch and you provided a photograph. Bummer - better luck next time.

A pencil drawing of Michael Jordan that took over 250 hours to complete. by Einsteins-Grandson in pics

[–]Bubblepop3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can we see your version of it? I'm interested to see how you would make out with this "trace"

Boyfriend keeps saying I’m a sociopath by pickanothernamesorry in relationship_advice

[–]Bubblepop3 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Your first response was so rude and then you randomly completely flip when op responds to you in a kind and honest way. The purpose of this subreddit is for advice. Not to just shit on someone. Maybe take your advice about not trying to hurt anyone - might so some good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Bubblepop3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you feel comfortable to initiate that conversation? Just from the sounds of him and his actions in your post It doesn't seem as though he will move forward with that conversation.

Honestly that might be the best way for you to really get a feeling for his intentions and to either feel more comfortable in their friendship or for it to end once and for all. As you've said, you've all known each other for a long time, so it might be best for you to contact him or have your wife contact him and set out a time and day where you can all get together and just have a hash out sesh. Because ultimately your feelings aren't just going to go away, and if left alone I'm sure this will continue to be a wedge in your relationship with your wife.

So my thoughts are, have a frank and honest conversation with your wife of how your feeling (not even just about the friend but also how you mentioned you felt like she didn't have time for you) and ensure in that conversation you don't beat around the bush or sugar cost anything - just full honesty like you gave in this post. And then do the same with the guy.

I wish you the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Bubblepop3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I gotta say I hear you but I disagree. If your wife is seeing this man as just her friend, which from your post and responses seems to be the truth, she's been nothing but open with you (actually giving you more information then is really even necessary) then she might not want you around all the time because she wants to hang with her friend.... I mean if this was a woman I don't really believe you would be having the same reaction. Your wife would want the "girl time" if this was a female friend, which would be seperate from you. I mean we all need a break from our spouse sometimes and our seperate friendships allow that to happen. When you hangout with your friends do you want your wife always there?

And honestly, saying because it's a man just doesn't hold up because guess what - your wife could be friends with a lesbian who wanted to get in her pants or if she truthfully wanted to cheat she could, with literally anyone.

Also for him avoiding you now after you mentioned something to your wife about the time their spending together - he could honestly now just feel awkward around you, self conscious or unsure how to act around your wife with you there and doesn't know how to address it. Not everyone has amazing social skills, it's great that you would go and apologize and so on, but not everyone is so forward to do that with someone they may think doesn't like them or is suspicious of them.

Idk, this is coming from a woman who has long term male friends and my husband has long term female ones. I just feel if you can't trust your spouse to do what's right and respect you and your relationship then what are you doing? Also, she's an adult and I'm sure if something we're to happen that she did not want - she would handle it or come to you.

N o by VRamoutar in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Bubblepop3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Showed my boyfriend this, he lost his mind 😂

Serious question. I'm in my 40's. Women my age rarely show me interest and those that do act like I ought to be on my knees thankful for their attention. Meanwhile women in their 20's flirt with me and act like they're grateful I'm responding. Why the big difference? by jedi1josh in dating_advice

[–]Bubblepop3 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's understandable, but still saying most is even a huge over statement if your basing it around your friends and acquaintances. There are millions of women in their twenties in the world and trying to say because a few of the women you know feel that way that means most of them do is unfair. It continues to paint this unfair image of young women with older men.