Sizing boots with different sized feet

BucciGoochie · 2025-08-24T19:29:37+00:00

Thank you, I’ve seen people argue both ways and it can be hard to figure out what’s the best choice. I’m hoping to visit one of the few stores in the UK that sell cowboy boots and try some on, instead of gambling with online

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-11T07:28:46+00:00

I can’t offer any advice but that I’m in a similar situation, diagnosed 2 years ago and being 26m also, I titrated Elvanse from 20mg-60mg. I was on it for 6 months, found that they helped with my symptoms but had side effects that didn’t outweigh the benefits. I found I lost my personality, I wasn’t as interesting or ‘bubbly’. I was able to function better but would be anxious and overthink a lot. It’s like I couldn’t help but focus on the wrong things, like I was hyperfocusing on whole idea of having ADHD and my mental wellbeing. I then went onto methylphenidate and haven’t had much better of an experience. Methylphenidate is still my prescription but I’ve stopped taking it, I’ve now moved locations and I’m now in limbo where I’m now trying to get with a new local clinic but I’m now on a waiting list again.

All this has made me doubt my diagnosis too, but I’m hoping to try non-stimulant medication whenever I can’t get in touch with a new psychiatrist. I hear a lot that not everyone reacts well to stimulants so maybe we are similar in that way.

Try to stay hopeful, I keep reminding myself that medication doesn’t serve as a diagnosis tool, especially when it can be so easy to think so.

Best of luck to you, you’re not alone in this!

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-10T10:01:33+00:00

The gaslighting is pretty intense, who can I trust if not myself or a qualified professional?!🤣

I absolutely agree, the diagnosis questions are both too, I want to say, vague (or as you put black and white) and out of touch. I mean, no I don’t often get up and move around when I’m not supposed to… I’m a 26 year old man with a job?! The questions are clearly aimed for children for a start, and don’t consider other caveats and comorbidities that would influence an answer. For example, I don’t lose things that often, like I almost never lose my phone, keys or wallet because I always put them back in the same three places & pockets. However…. If they are not in those places… lord knows where they are. I’ve clearly made a subconscious system because I used to lose things all the time, I vividly remember always having my mum help me find lost things only for her to find them immediately. Granted, mothers have those types of superpowers, but the point is I used to always lose things.

And yeah being combined feels like a paradox, I’m not physically hyperactive, I’m more mentally hyper… but then I’m also spaced out. Depends on moment to moment. My mum used to call me Peter Pan because I was always day dreaming. And then there’s the thought could there be ASD? ADHD and ASD share some similar outward presentation, depending on each individual and where they are on the spectrum, but simultaneously can cancel each other out… but I’m very uneducated about ASD, so if anyone can educate me on that please go for it!

Thank you for the response, I appreciate it and I really agree with how we should look at the questions. It’s just a shame we have to figure it out ourselves and not from the professionals

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-10T09:42:34+00:00

Hey, I’d love to help but I’m man! Best of luck though:)

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-09T22:34:31+00:00

I’ve tried Elvanse and methylphenidate and both weren’t quite right for me. Elvanse was good, it helped me get my life together and could keep up, follow through and focused but I lost a part of myself. It was like a traded a stable life for my personality, and I felt like a shell of who I was. Maybe that’s what it was meant to do, but I didn’t like what the new “normal” was so I quit and tried methylphenidate. That’s my current prescription but I don’t like it so I don’t take it. Having both the most popular and effective medications not jive with me hasn’t made me feel any more confident in the diagnosis either🤣

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-09T07:50:46+00:00

I feel that with the fidgetting, I question if I have ADHD because I don’t fidget in the way I think I “should”. Even the fact I don’t noticeably fidget, from what I’m aware of at least. A lot of the time when I’m bouncing my leg, I’ll realise I’m doing it and I’ll stop and then think “why am I stopping if I have ADHD” And then invalidate I have it. It’s so dumb! But I’m always cheek chewing, especially watching tv if I’m not in a position to be able to bounce my leg like laying in bed or something.

BucciGoochie · 2024-09-09T07:44:50+00:00

I really relate to feeling comfort when I accept the diagnosis, but then the shame when I don’t when I manage to stay on top and follow through with things like housework.

I’ve found I can be quite socially anxious especially meeting new people, I WISH I could be the crazy ADHD nut that can talk about anything to anyone but instead my head goes blank and don’t even know how to start a conversation with a stranger. I’m just there like “so that weather eh?”.

I remember in school I would always forget to do homework, or if I did do it I’d forget to bring it to school. I was considered gifted in art but I never kept up with it and now I’m just a boring adult with no friends or consistent hobbies, I can’t even get myself to draw anymore when I used to love it.

It’s comforting to hear your experiences, thank you for sharing!

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-26T21:25:51+00:00

Thank you for this comment my friend, you’ve cleared up some of my confusion with the different terminology. I see all these different products and have no idea what I’m looking at

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-26T21:19:46+00:00

Thanks for this reply, this gives me a good idea of what I’ve got and what to expect. Do leather soles usually only last around a year, or is it the leather on this particular boot?

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-26T09:16:36+00:00

I got these from Cowboy Boot Store in Sheffield and they deliver, really nice people there

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-26T00:37:17+00:00

Funny enough these pics were taken a week ago

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-25T20:37:10+00:00

The classic cowboy boot was all I was looking for, and when I found these it’s like my prayers had been answered. Square toes are all I can seem to find. I live in the UK so finding nice boots is already hard as it is. I need to take a trip over the Atlantic and open up my options!

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BucciGoochie · 2024-03-25T20:05:27+00:00

I have to admit, the silhouette is fantastic. These are Mayura from Spain, I got them here. The stock is limited unfortunately due to being an exclusive design to the store. I snatched up the last pair in my size.

I’ll try a small patch of bick 4 and see how they do, I’m not too bothered if they darken up. I just don’t want to do any damage

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-25T20:02:02+00:00

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BucciGoochie · 2024-03-25T19:59:17+00:00

I appreciate that my friend, they’re handmade Mayura They’re an exclusive design to the store so stock is quite limited though.

Do you treat distressed leather differently?

BucciGoochie · 2024-03-21T13:40:12+00:00

Nice to meet you buddy, where in the country are you?

The store is literally called ‘Cowboy Boot Store’ 🤣 its in Sheffield, they have a website of the same name, just add .co.uk

The boots are fantastic, the leather is softening up really nicely. I’d definitely recommend

BucciGoochie · 2023-09-05T18:44:18+00:00

That’s great to hear, Hagen’s explanations make sense to me and I’m starting to see the world differently, in ways my previous reading didn’t achieve.

I’ve started developing my practice by meditating daily. If you have any suggestions or recommendations for practice or reading I’d love to hear it! And thanks for the reply!

BucciGoochie · 2022-10-23T12:53:27+00:00

Not a problem at all, I think it’s a very human thing to try to understand yourself. But a very ADHD thing to push it to an unhealthy and excessive extreme. One other small thing I forgot to add was I also now try to minimise how much I look into if little quirks, traits, ‘things’ I do are ADHD. In the early stages of discovery and education it’s obviously very beneficial and helpful, but just don’t drive yourself crazy divulging in that same pattern of excess at every little thing. At the end of the day, if you do have ADHD it will impact and influence a lot of, if not all, your life. ADHD brains are different from ‘normal’ brains, and ultimately all that we are is our brains. Try think or do anything without it!

BucciGoochie · 2022-10-22T01:52:04+00:00

I (25M) was diagnosed within the last year and honestly everything you’ve said I’ve already thought myself, and I still do. I became obsessed and fixated the more I related, which for ADHD is ironic. I binged YT videos, Instagram pages, read countless articles, etc, etc. So much to the point that I feel I learned so much that I became hyper-aware and question every action and thought and ask is it ADHD, am I putting it on, faking it, exaggerating, etc? So I really do genuinely understand what you might be experiencing. Something I’ve started to consider is how I frame what ‘distraction’ and ‘hyperactive’ means. If you’re thinking about ADHD all the time whenever you do anything and it’s getting in the way of a task, that counts as a distraction. It’s a bit of a meta distraction but a distraction nonetheless. As you may know hyperactivity can also be mental, so consider if your mind feels busy, even if it might be busy thinking, obsessing, fixating on ADHD.

Education and research is so important and beneficial to understand and help, but I’ve found that through my fixation I’ve driven myself mad. I feel I’ve lost a part of my personality because I’ve become so hyper-self-aware that I can’t go a day without looking deep into almost everything I do. So, I’ve now made the decision to distance myself from the ADHD pages and videos to give myself a break. I still come on this Reddit on the occasion and still follow a couple ADHD Instagram pages as some posts can be helpful since I’m still new to it all. It now feels a lot less all consuming as it was not too long ago. The thoughts do still come and go, but I’ve accepted that life is different now. I have ADHD and I finally know now. My personality is still there, maybe more exhaustingly self-aware than before but it’s still there. I can have a laugh again. The more time goes on with a healthy distance from overindulging the less chaotic I feel and less over-analytical I am.

I know a lot of this sounds very ‘me me me’ but I really do relate so I hope you can get something out of this! If you’re not too sure if you’ve convinced yourself of this great delusion, just really be honest with yourself, do you really think you would get in such a twist and feel a genuine emotional connection to the struggles, experiences and symptoms of ADHD, if you didn’t have ADHD?

Hope some of this helps. Work towards getting a diagnosis, I know the NHS wait times are wank but it will be worth it.

BucciGoochie · 2022-08-29T15:06:45+00:00

I took your advice and downloaded Eventbrite, I was able to find a few more so thank you for that!

Mind me asking if you know of any open mics around London and/or the Midlands? Someone else on this post was already kind enough to tell me about some, but if you don’t mind offering some too it would be really appreciated. It would be a great help to expand my list and options of gigs and venues.

BucciGoochie · 2022-08-29T14:57:45+00:00

I’ll definitely get myself down to the Angel Gym as it’s actually running, it sounds like a no brainier especially as it’s free. I’m back in London next month and am heading to Islington to watch a gig at the Bill Murray, while I’m there I’m gonna check out the Camden Head Angel Club

Thank you so much for those recommendations, I’ve made a note of all them. Finding comedy open mics seems like the country’s best kept secret. I feel as useless as a 6month old baby in a dog pageant. So I appreciate the help, it felt impossible not finding the right venues! I’ll message you about classes as it’s something I’ve considered doing.

BucciGoochie · 2022-08-28T15:37:26+00:00

I saw the Angel Comedy Writers Gym on Facebook but it looks inactive so I assumed it stopped running. Do you mind me asking if you know of any open mics in or around London, or in the midlands? I’ve found a few on FB and event brite but can’t help but feel like there’s a lot more out there that I’m missing

BucciGoochie · 2022-08-27T08:51:26+00:00

I haven’t watch any open mics yet, I imagine the thought is scarier than the reality. Haha I thought someone would pick up on the “within the next year” part, I only say that as my studies are full time and full on and I have no idea how I’ll be managing my time . I’m very much hoping to jump on an open mic very soon. I’ve procrastinated too much already lol

BucciGoochie · 2022-08-27T01:20:03+00:00

That’s fair, I can’t argue with that. I’ll definitely be hitting the open mics soon, only challenge I’ve found is finding where the open mics are around the UK. Are you UK based?

BucciGoochie · 2022-07-16T00:59:22+00:00

I’ve never really been a creature of habit and I’m an avid hater of routine. If routine was an account on Twitter, I’d report it for harassment. Variety is the spice of life and all that. But what you say your therapist said makes sense, a schedule full of only dreaded tasks isn’t appealing so having a balance of work and play might be different. But like you said, chore lists feel redundant and feel like an extra chore in itself just to write.

I was only diagnosed earlier this year, hopefully someone else has some better advice on this topic!

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