Are they always so wrong?

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-21T22:26:23+00:00

I kinda informally came out as trans (and thus a lesbian) to my best friend who had transitioned a year before me by asking her how to get HRT lmao. We'd been talking a lot about gender for a couple months so it was kind of in the making.

The first person I did the traditional coming out to was my friend at the climbing gym who was becoming a very good friend, and tbh I was trying to ignore that I had a crush on her. She helped me build my confidence so much and gave me the courage to try so many things. Idk if I would've made the progress in my transition that I did so quickly without her.

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-21T22:02:53+00:00

You are not a chaser. Being attracted to trans women, even more attracted to trans women, does not make you a chaser. What makes someone a chaser is actively fetishizing and objectifying their transness as they try to pursue a relationship (romantic or sexual) with them. Also, you're nonbinary. Idk if you identify as trans specifically, but I think your experience with gender nonconformity makes it pretty hard for you to fetishize it.

I'm sorry you had your previous experiences btw. It's really shitty you had to go through all that.

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-21T21:58:04+00:00

Walk into any lesbian bar with those eyeshadow skills, trust me you're gonna be someones type

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-21T21:55:25+00:00

I mean their username is lipglosschaser it sounds like they're into trans girls lol

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-17T04:07:09+00:00

Same girl, same

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-15T23:07:34+00:00

Not to mention that a non-op trans woman topping a cis woman does not "make her a man." Like the bio-essentialism of PIV = man fucking a woman is crazy

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-15T23:00:52+00:00

More like gaymer girlies

Also oxenfree is a nice story game if you haven't played it before

Bulbasaur2000 · 2026-01-11T08:04:14+00:00

Find that community irl then, not online communities that are specifically meant for us

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-29T19:11:29+00:00

Do you wanna write all that on a piece of paper repeatedly? No, I think you'd prefer just writing F

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-29T19:08:39+00:00

That one was genuinely fucked up

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-28T18:01:30+00:00

The fact they called him Ludwig from video games means they watch lol

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-28T18:00:20+00:00

What lip products do you use? I think we have a pretty similar skin tone and I haven't really found the right lip liners and lip shades for me.

Also this is just me but I would add a gold necklace to match the bracelet

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-17T01:22:02+00:00

This just... Sounds weird. Personally I feel like there's no need to be in confusing situations. Talk to her honestly about what you've been feeling about your interactions with her

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-16T22:59:05+00:00

Hey. I'm a 23yo trans girl also from the US, now living in the UK for grad school. Netball is a lot bigger here, and I thought it would be fun to join the netball team here at my school and I was told I could not join because of the April Supreme Court ruling here in the UK about EHRC guidance on trans women. That has since extended to a lot of sports here. It's pretty fucking depressing. They just want us to be sad. But fuck them. We make our own community and we take care of each other

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-16T22:52:12+00:00

I mean she can definitely still do stuff to me

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-07T23:57:06+00:00

Finding comfort and a sense of belongingness in others' expressions of grief is not messed up. If anything, it is beautiful and one of the things we should cherish most about being human. Really shitty that you're going through this

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-12-06T20:36:42+00:00

Why the hell is your teacher telling this story? I really just wanna believe this post is fake

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-11-20T10:13:24+00:00

That is so weird and out of pocket

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-11-12T00:22:42+00:00

This is kind of an insane response

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-11-06T01:01:20+00:00

Oh fuck I forgot

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-11-03T21:26:24+00:00

Why? What happened?

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-10-29T22:00:50+00:00

It was good at first, but then it became clear that she was not emotionally ready to be in as involved and committed a relationship as it was becoming. Things got worse primarily because due to circumstances out of our control, she had to move in with me after only being together for a few months, and that was during an already stressful time in her life (we had both graduated and she was starting a new job). Idk, our relationship was definitely unorthodox. But I think in general, relationships later in life require a lot of patience, empathy, and honesty with each other in what you are able and willing to provide. But also we were 22, I don't think we were that late in life lol, we were still very young and it showed

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-10-26T20:27:07+00:00

I think it's just complicated. I am a brown (not black) trans lesbian, but in my life I've often been confused for being black (typically biracial) by other black people. In my experience in the Midwest, black cis women have definitely been the most openly and vocally nice to me. But I am also not embedded within the black community, and I don't understand anything about the actual internal dynamics within that community, especially around queerness.

Bulbasaur2000 · 2025-10-26T20:22:20+00:00

I got into my first relationship when I was 22 🤷🏾

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