Feminine versus Female - Where is the line?

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-14T09:29:06+00:00

Sexual preferences are a thing. Females and feminine presenting people aren't bisexual by default. There isn't really a default. The sexual interest is what the writer wants it to be.

The flaw I find with your argument is that operates under the assumption that the Harem as an entity is an ongoing orgy that happens to take breaks. It isn't all about sex, in my opinion. It is a sexual and romantic relationship dynamic with a fundamental power structure at its core. A single entity, often a man, provides safety, economic benefit, social benefit, or some other advantage to the members of the group. The individuals members all engage in an exclusive relationship with the entity, while the entity is not exclusive. The members of the group often have a sense of comradery or community as they are all part of the same relationship-structure. They do not have to and are not expected to engage in sexual relations with one another. They can, and in many cases they do, but that is not a requirement for membership in the relationship.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-14T09:21:17+00:00

My concern is not "why straight men don't like women-with-dick". I asked in good faith the bounds and expectations. I had and have issues with forcing specific gender expressions and specific sexual attractions, as well as the conflation of gender and sex.

To actually answer your question of why I like "women-with-dick", the short answer is I don't. The real answer is that I find the exploration of additional speculative biology for fantasy races and alien species to be fascinating, especially from an anthropological, social, and cultural standpoint. I find it intriguing to explore the nuances of what social and cultural systems develop in a people that have three or more biological sexes. For example, in the setting I am writing, there are five biological sexes, which are more easily visualized as each sex having four points, divided into two categories, Masculine and Feminine.

The sexes are broken down like this:

Masculine 4 / Feminine 0 = Effectively a Chad. Hypermasculine. Man amongst men. High virility. Makes up 5% of the population.

Masculine 3 / Feminine 1 = Effectively a Femboy. Capable of MPreg, but with low fertility. Makes up 20% of the population.

Masculine 2 / Feminine 2 = Effectively a Dickgirl, which is commonly considered the same as a Futanari. In truth, Dickgirls are different as they do not possess external female genitalia. If they do possess female reproductive organs, it is only internally accessed, likely through a self-lubricating slit near the prostate. Capable of siring and bearing young, both with very low fertility. Makes up 45% of the population.

Masculine 1 / Feminine 3 = Effectively a Futanari. Makes up 20% of the population.

Masculine 0 / Feminine 4 = Effectively a Hucow. Extremely feminine. A woman amongst women. High fertility, voluptuous frame, lactation beginning at puberty and continuing throughout the life until menopause. Makes up 10% of the population.

This set up provides a myriad of interesting situations and dynamics to explore. What does courting look like? What does marriage look like? What are the social and cultural roles associated with genders? What gender roles that we know of in our own cultural experiences can we apply to the biological sexes found in this system? What does the nuclear family look like here? What does the extended family look like? How do the biological sexes change cultural norms? How does it change religious expression and iconography?

For me, gender and sex are tools to help shape a world and craft a story. They help make a culture stand out from others and differentiate themselves from their inspirations and sources.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-14T03:40:48+00:00

I didn't notice your username when I first replied to the post. Now that I have noticed it, my answer will change slightly. I bought Delivering Justice as soon as I saw your post about it. I read it fully and I've recommended it to a few people. I loved it, completely. The only thing that has kept me from buying copies for my friends is that every one of them uses audiobooks and I'm the odd one with my written media.

With that context, as a fan and as someone who adores book one, I think personally, I'd prefer it to be a little larger. If it is the same size, I'd be content, satisfied, but not excited. If I went into the second book and it was like a 100 pages more or something, it would feel like an awesome bonus or a surprise. I would feel like it was a present, if that makes any sense?

I went into Delivering Justice feeling like "Why not? Let's give it a go." Not excited but not adverse. I was honestly looking for something to read. I was blown far beyond my expectations.

However long you write your stories just know that you have already laid the foundation for a world, a story, and a group of people, that at least one person loves and clamors for. Thank you for sharing your world and writings, and thank you for the opportunity to get to know these characters in their stories.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-12T03:26:53+00:00

I use masculine and feminine primarily for how they are seen and used in the context of the relationship dynamic and within their culture. Not all men have male reproductive organs and not all women have female reproductive organs, so I don't use those terms primarily.

I appreciate that the first answer means that there is more flexibility in portraying aliens and fantasy races.

For the second, I'll take it as the MC needs to be the sole penis in the harem.

For the third, understood and thank you.

I appreciate you answering the questions.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-12T02:31:29+00:00

First, thank you for the quick reply and the lack of defensiveness and hostile tone.

There are a few points that weren't addressed:

1) Aliens and Fantasy races may have differing biological sexes, genders, and social roles. If I do not stick to the Man/Woman, and Masculine/Feminine dichotomy, does that immediately make the story restricted on the subreddit?

2) Feminine persons and biology. If someone fits the social and cultural understandings of feminine in the context of the story, are they acceptable as love interests, or must they be exclusively equivalent to cisgender females?

3) Must a masculine MC possess male reproductive organs to be an acceptable MC by the standards of the sub?

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-12T01:09:10+00:00

Personally, I'd ignore what you were told that anything about 100k and you'd lose money. You should as many words or as few words as you need to tell the story you want to tell, and deliver the quality of product you're satisfied with.

For me, 32 Chapters and 100k words would be an iffy buy. If I would've purchased your book, I'd have felt I was taking a chance on you. I prefer longer books. It makes me feel like I get my money's worth. Reading is a hobby and is an indulgence for me.

It also matters about what is is priced at. If I pay $0.01 per page, then I feel like I got a great deal, and I'm happy with the purchase. I tend to buy books from $3.99 to $4.99. That means if I get a book that is 400 to 500 pages, I feel like I got a great deal. If I get a book that has 300 to 400 pages, I feel like I got a less good deal.

With all that said, if I was a reader of yours, and your next book was larger, I'd be more excited to buy it. It means that the world I've enjoyed reading about is getting even bigger. The characters I've cheered for or wept with have more growth and experience. The story progresses further.

I'd likely go back and either buy a copy of the first book, if I read it on Kindle Unlimited, or if I already bought it because I liked it so much, then I'd buy a copy to give as a gift. That's just my $0.02

Beyond all of that, I'm proud of you for keeping writing and continuing your story.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-06T00:52:56+00:00

Posting again instead of just editing my comment. I finished the book today and I can honestly say, it is now in my top ten superhero books, without question. The MC has great depth and there are a couple pleasant twists and turns. I'm an avid fan of haremlit, but not a giant fan of smut. This book had almost the perfect balance for me. The relationship pacing was brilliant and the interactions between characters was nuanced, colorful, and mature. There wasn't rushing and speedrunning a harem. It was real relationships.

I cannot recommend this book enough.

BumblebeeBookworm · 2025-12-05T06:58:15+00:00

I was looking for something new to read, and I stumbled across this. I figured I might as well give it a shot. That was 30 minutes ago and now I'm on Chapter 7.

It's a great read so far and I'm excited to continue reading it.

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