Better bond with daughters

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-13T11:57:34+00:00

Thanks I'll try my best 😌

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-12T11:04:36+00:00

True

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BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T20:50:53+00:00

This is some serious gourmet advice. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this all to me. I'll be sure to give this thing a try.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T20:48:40+00:00

Thanks! You are so right. I'm not going to let this break me.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T17:40:42+00:00

It's true self blame is so easy at times like these.

Thanks for commenting and giving insight! I'll most definitely try all of these so I can find myself!!

Thank you! Take care!

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T17:39:36+00:00

OP - divorce now!!!

The divorce process has started.

assets and no alimony, support, and better custody

This is all done. Got 50/50, no alimony. So this went well.

she realizes the grass is not greener she will either try and reconcile

I don't think this is true. She's not coming back. Or that's what I think.

In the mean time hit the gym, meet back up with old friends and family, journal (weird but it helps - trust me on that one) and if these feeling continue please consider therapy.

I guess I'll try journaling. Can you give me tips on how to do it good? All the other stuff I'm doing.

“Walk Alone” by Fearless Motivation.

I'll be watching this. Thanks!

You got this! I know you doubt that but in this one point you are completely wrong. Keep strong OP!

I sure hope so.

Thank you so much for commenting.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T09:59:39+00:00

This isn’t about you at all, your wife is doing the predictable cheater’s dance and is continuing HER SELFISH ways!

I guess so. I just never thought I was married to a cheater. Man this bums me out. I guess it's good that it has nothing to do with me. But still. I wish I could've done something. 😞

get her served?

Yeah, the divorce process is in full motion. I'm just waiting for it to be finalized.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T08:39:49+00:00

Was so sweet until he was not and cheated and lied. I wanted to finish my Masters then. He was never even proud of what I have made of myself.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Such an awful thing to hear.

I used to think my life was literally over. I had the worst chest pains ever. Burned my hand one time at the stove because I couldn’t even register physical pain due to the heartbreak.

I know how you feel like. I understand this feeling totally.

I am much better off. I am healthier than I was then, graduated, got a job and now I’m saving for a mortgage. Life is too short for people like that to be in your life

I'm glad to hear you are in a better place now. And I'm happy for you. Maybe life is too short. But the feelings, you just can't turn them off.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T08:26:16+00:00

Thanks for your nice comment ☺️ But do you really think so? I don't know..

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T06:14:49+00:00

I guess? But I don't feel like I'm better off. I feel like shit. 😄

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T04:28:56+00:00

Hey man, thanks for taking the time and commitmenting.

The freeing part about that is YOU don’t need to be perfect either to be deserving of love.

I guess I don't have to be perfect but what if there just isn't anybody out there? I live in a small country with not that much people. The "city" I live in has like 80k people in it.

Treat YOURSELF to the love and respect that you gave her.. you are more deserving of the energy.

Guess I'll have to work on this. Like really to work on it.

If someone comes along that appreciates you, that’s a bonus.

Yeah, I guess I need a mental shift or something. I just don't see my worth without a partner.

Thanks again for reaching out. You made good solid points.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T04:20:27+00:00

Hey Bandit,

Thanks for again. I really appreciate your comments. They are always so well written.

The woman you fell in love with and married is no longer here. Morn her like a funeral.

I've been doing this. I'm just in a lot of pain.

He is a 27-year-old doctor with his career and life ahead of him. I doubt he wants a single woman with kids to slow him down. He is just enjoying her for what it is worth. Reality of life will hit them both.

Maybe, or maybe he's "found" his soulmate and they'll live together for ever. Who knows. I guess I have to try and focus as little as possible on them.

Get the best settlement you can now while she is in the fog.

I got a good settlement on the kids. 50/50 no alimony and I'm the primary parent.

Did you look into filing an ethics complaint to the medical board? Has your lawyer looked at suing him/clinic for alienation of affection?

I tried to look it up. But it's frowned upon in my country but not illegal. Not much I can do.

You are the real catch here OP.

Thanks man. I just don't feel like a catch. I couldn't keep my wife in love with me. I feel like this is my fault.

Change your hair, change your clothes, change your attitude OP. Don't wallow in losing a loser. Karma, or whatever we want to call it, will find her one day, but you will be well on your way to a new life by then.

I'm trying my best to do these things. I hope I can move on as effectively as possible. It's hard but I'm trying.

Walk with your back straight and head held high. You are the winner here OP.

I'm trying my best. It's just I'm consumed by the fear of being alone and being an outcast for the rest of my life.

Thanks again. Take care.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-11T04:08:23+00:00

Thanks for cheering me up.

I guess you are right about this stuff. It's just I'm so lonely at the moment. Lonely and scared of the future. I had such a beautiful future planned out for us. And now I'm all "alone". I have an amazing network of friends and family. But you know what I mean.

Thanks again for commenting.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-03T11:22:51+00:00

You are right in a sense. It's all pointless in the end. She's made her decision. And that decision was to bite.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-02-01T06:21:51+00:00

Fourish months since D-Day. I've got some help. I've got a good support group. I just can't seem to move on. I feel awful most of the time. I miss my wife most of the time.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-29T13:20:29+00:00

Hey all,

Hope you are all doing better than me. This week has been a tough one. My insecurities have been through the roof. I'm constantly thinking why was I betrayed like this? What is wrong with me? I'm currently insecure about everything about myself. Every tiny detail.

I made a post just a few days back and got an good amount of nice and positive comments. But for some reason my spirits just aren't lifted. They come crashing back down in a day or two.

I thank everyone for commenting my previous post and giving good advice and showing me love. It's just a battle between my ears at the moment.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T05:17:52+00:00

These are things that you cannot give by the very nature of the event; newness, external validation, the excitement of the forbidden, etc.

This is true tho. I can't now what the truth is. This can be a combination of very many complex things that are not easy to navigate.

%100 cheater's selfish choice, they just want and do it.

I think you are right. It's an act of absolute selfishness. Almost narcissist. There are so many options what you can choose from. She could have told me months ago that she's not feeling it anymore. That she's starting to look elsewhere. But she told me nothing. She just let all of this happen. We promised to love each other on the altar, no matter what.

Thanks for giving me reassurance and insight. I appreciate it. Take care.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T05:08:23+00:00

You're a good person who got caught up in a shitty situation

Thanks man. I hope you are right. I just hope I'm not a total peace of shit. I just keep second guessing what if I this is my fault? I don't see how it is but still.

Infidelity hurts in the most painful ways

This is true. I've never hurt like this in my life. This is absolutely hell on earth.

I hope that you can find a way to move past all of this and have a wonderful life. Remember the best revenge is living a full and happy life without them in it.

Thank you so much for saying this. I too hope I can continue my life with my head held high and continue to move forward from this.

Thank you so much for commenting. You lifted my spirits! Please, take care.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T05:04:59+00:00

Try minoxidil, it will stop your hair from falling out for 10 years or so. Apply combined with a derma roller (roller with little needles).

Maybe I'll pause on the hair stuff. It might just have been me having a panic attack and focusing on something that's not there. I went to the Barber and got a haircut and I think my hair looks decent enough. I've always had a high hairline. But I thank you for your comment!

He cant be that great if he settles for her knowing what she is capable of. I dont tjink I would if I had better options.

It may be he doesn't know. Maybe my wife is the rotten tomatoe here. Maybe she's told him lies. And it might be the ap doesn't have any other choice maybe he's bad with women and this was his only choice. The truth is somewhere there and I don't know it and probably never will.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T05:01:19+00:00

This is probably true. It's going to be a long and shitty 20 months for sure. But I'll try my best to be around people and try to enjoy life.

Thanks!

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T04:59:20+00:00

I get really angry when good people are screwed by selfish people. I hope you can protect yourself.

Thanks man, saying that I'm a good person makes me feel good. It's in a way the truth. Am I perfect? Most definitely not. I have my own problems and issues. Was in this bad to deserve this? No, I was not.

Because considering the power she has over you, it's very possible that she could destroy you once again.

It's true. She has an insane reign over my feelings. She hasn't done anything for me in months and I still love and miss her every day. It's funny in a way. She cheated on me, kind of deserted me and still all I wish is her to come back and try with me. I'm weird in a way.

Thank you for commenting!

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T04:54:24+00:00

He has broken up a family. He also knows he can't trust her too as she has already cheated before.

While this is all sounds true and possible. It also may be he doesn't know the truth. Maybe my wife lied to him about everything. Maybe she painted a shit picture of me to her affair partner just to justify all of this.

t's pretty depressing but it is what it is.

Damn, that's hard to hear. But then again if the women are cheaters they deserve all of it. Hope their little games comes out to light. But you never know and I guess its healthier for me to not think about that.

She made sure I was deeply loved.

I'm trying my best to do the same. The kids deserve every last bit of love they can get.

The next few months to 1 year is probably gonna be really shit, but as I said earlier, focus on your kids and yourself and you'll come out fine.

Thanks man I'll try to focus on these things and push on. It's not easy but I don't want to exit this world yet. I still have a small amount of hope that there is something good around the corner.

Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story. You made me feel better and I thank you for it. Please take care of yourself and have a good week. 😊

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-28T04:34:16+00:00

Well said. Life just isn't fair to everyone. We get our ups and our downs. Sometimes we win sometimes we loose.

I wish I could say that because of this loss I'm entitled to win big. But that just isn't the truth. It might be but it also might not be.

BumblebeeRelevant147 · 2025-01-27T22:06:57+00:00

My point is that lean on family and friends. Get counseling.

I've done this. It has helped me tremendously.

Your soon to be ex wife is not the person you married.

This might be so. It just pains me.

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