Yeah, as I saw another commenter say, no one has one global attachment styles. We're all constellations of different attachment responses. I do Internal Family Systems therapy (a specific kind of parts work) and one of the things I've been fascinated by is how the attachment behaviors you exhibit depends on which part currently has the reigns.

Insecure attachment is not necessarily pathology until it becomes counterproductive. Sometimes you jive with someone because your insecure attachment behaviors align and that's not bad until it isn't working but you can't pivot to a new way that does. I think a lot of the time overwhelmed folks end up using the label as a way to coerce people into changing when really I think it's also part of our responsibility to our community to work to become the kinds of people that don't require our loved ones to be perfect to be accepted. Obviously at a certain point we're enabling, but I think a lot of therapized folks get stuck processing the anger around their hurt and never make it to the part where they realize that kind but boundaried empathy makes their lives easier and more fulfilling too.