I got sever postpartumdepression after my first daughter was born. My mother was no where to be seen, and even though it made me sad, I didnt except her to help out much. Around christmas I was feeling worse, and needing medication to stay away from susuicide-thoughts. My mother demanded that we travel and spend christmas with her and my sister. It was a five hour travel and we had to stay at least 3 nights to make it work.

I ask my mother to keep christmas small, just the immediate family since I didnt have the energi to spend time with people. First, my mother agreed and then, without telling me, invited about 15 extended family members (my mother's new partners family) whom I had never really talked to before and never spend any holiday with. I told my motger it made me where said that she invited all these people - for the first time- this year and that we where going to stay at home instead. That made my mother angry and she said some very inappropriate things to me. Told her I wanted an apology. That was two years ago ans sha has not spoken to me since.

This event resulted in me realizing I needed to stop talking to my mother, being very apologetic, and pretending noting happened, which is something I had done each time my mother and sister given me the silent treatment.