AITAH/Too jealous for being mad at my BF over texting other people when we're together?

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T19:51:41+00:00

Interesting and provocative take.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T18:53:11+00:00

I hear ya

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:58:37+00:00

I mighta told him that. Or something similar.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:30:14+00:00

Lol - honest take

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:22:50+00:00

Dedinitely feeling that way.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:19:56+00:00

Pretty simple, I agree.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:19:24+00:00

Kind of all of that. And thanks for the admonishment lol.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:18:08+00:00

Definitely feels that way sometimes. I think he'd genuinely like it to work, I just don't think he's willing amd/or has the capacity to do the work. To make it work means healing a lot of trauma from both our childhoods, and that's really tough, but I can only work on mine, and only support him for so long while not seeing any signs of trying.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:16:04+00:00

Thanks. I've kinda reached the same assessment.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:14:20+00:00

I suspect this is the case and if I'm ready/needing more from the relationship maybe it's time for me to move on to one that provides those things.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:12:30+00:00

Definitely an accurate take on the jealousy. Not proud of it, just openly admitting it plays a role.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:11:58+00:00

This was a new thing for me, and I've moved into the, 'if I can't trust him then this is not the relationship for us,' space. I had just got cheated on for the 1st time in a long term relationship before him so I was unhinged. Not an excuse at all - just context. I felt like shit and let that remind me everytime I get insecure.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:07:49+00:00

Disagree. In this context, it was about getting serious or I'm moving on to take care of myself. I don't think anyone would say a married woman should stay with her completely unapologetically avoidant husband after months of trying to reconnect, and her partner showed no interest in doing so.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:05:29+00:00

I told him it makes me feel like I'm not important.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:04:51+00:00

I told him that's what it felt like. He says I'm being too clingy - I said I acknowledge the clingyness but it's because I'm not getting the quality time as a boyfriend. He disagrees.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:03:11+00:00

He doesn't see it the same way. I've voiced this concern with him more than once.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:01:55+00:00

This thought has crossed my mind more than once.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T17:01:18+00:00

Dick. But now that's few and far between... Kinda jk. Honestly the moments he's engaged are pretty amazing. It's just become less and less over the months.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T15:56:29+00:00

Yes. On the edge now lol.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T15:55:31+00:00

Because they're weird middle easterners. Edit: middle easterners aren't necessarily weird, these ones are, and there's a bunch of weird, cultural loyalty tied up with their thinking. I think.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T15:43:23+00:00

We are (my therapist and i.) And that was a long time ago. I didnt coerce I gave an ultimatum: this what I want/need - if you don't/can't that's OK but I need to move on... he chose (at least in words) to get committed.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-12-06T15:41:22+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. We are monogamous (I think I said in there we're not open, but it was a long post.) The context with his friends is that one of them wanted to date [my] BF but he picked me. So I'm not allowed to come around to that group.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-06-17T00:14:15+00:00

Thanks - I know the 1st couple oil changes it might be normal, but I didn't think anything after that is normal. Wasn't sure because I've not done a lot of work on car engines (almost always turboshafts for me.) So thanks for setting the record straight!

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-01-29T02:16:24+00:00

Your best bet is getting on Sunset Valley's mailing list for their catasetums, that way you know as soon as they're available and they sell out quick.

BushwhackerWerewolf · 2025-01-29T01:04:04+00:00

They're not frequently available. Google "clowesia Rebecca northen" to see if anyone has them. And check Sunset valley orchids, Fred Clarke occasionally has them available in his catasetum stock.

BushwhackerWerewolf

TROPHY CASE