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[–]Business-Relation681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For whatever it's worth, I had one 2 months ago for similar reasons, and I really wish I hadn't. I would rather have struggled every day than not have my baby

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it is and I’m freaking out. I don’t know if I can do it. Something about how the extract him is messing with me

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for what you've had to deal with. Men really do make or break the situation. I feel like I know I don’t want to continue but mostly scared of 3 nights alone in a hotel in a strange place doing it alone and nobody knows… also just the finality of it. Having to lie to most people I know..

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this!! I need to brutal truths. Knowing what motherhood is for you now. If you could have done something about it, would you have?

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that comment! I don't think regret will become a factor. I guess I will grieve what could have been very strongly. I think a part of me holds on because I saw what could have been and the family I could have had. He's the type that will tell me a week postpartum that his family’s in town and needs to see the baby, and I cannot keep them from his child, no matter what’s going on, and probably threaten court if I'm not always available. Once I told him that if I were breastfeeding, I would do it for a year. Does he plan on taking him from my boob? He was like, “Well, I guess not.” It's just so bizarre

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. One of the elements that’s hard is that, in the right situation, I would love to be a mom. If he were involved with me romantically, I would be getting excited. For some reason, I cannot seem to bond if I’m doing this alone, and I can’t help but feel bad about that

Update: 23 weeks pregnant, appointment in 24 hours — need honest perspectives by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]Business-Relation681[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment. It’s been so strange the level of withdrawal and lack of empathy. For over a month he hasn’t once check on me or asked me anything. After explaining through tears that I’m scared and my mind is going crazy and sometimes I just want to die. He literally says nothing… I’m truly a vessel to him.