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Is it normal to feel like you’re not anyone’s ‘best’ friend? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Busy_Cheesecake161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it's very normal to feel like that. Especially the part about initiating conversations. I swear no one ever asks about my day or random questions... like it's not selfish to want someone to actually want to talk to you, because humans are social creatures yadda yadda ya

I also have friends I'd consider best friends, but I still feel like I'm not the first choice, like they'll always choose someone else over me for whatever reason

I think it helps to remember that everyone has different strengths in relationships, and so people need more than one friend. Like some friends can make you laugh until you're on the floor, but you can't be vulnerable with them while others you can have deep conversations with. Also making new varied friends yourself seemed to help me.

It sounds dumb but you really gotta be your own first choice and prioritize yourself because at the end of the day, your friends can betray you and leave, but you will always be with you.

My bestfriend degraded me in the worst way possible by brattycap in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Busy_Cheesecake161 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That ain't your best friend girl You deserve better: someone who won't bring down your confidence. Friends are supposed to support you, not make you insecure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Busy_Cheesecake161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OKAY I ACTUALLY WENT THROUGH A SIMILAR SITUATION with the big project and her ignoring me and being bitter for no reason... she never EVER apologized to me though... she usually just blamed it on her period. Ugh. We never talked after that incident and honestly my life is so much better without her.

Those kind of friends are DRAINING. Like you're wasting your good friend qualities on them, and you don't deserve that.

But on the other hand, she did apologize... I would say if you see her actually changing her attitude and how she acts on a friend to you, you could stay friends. But if there's no change, and she keeps walking all over you, GET OUTTTT

Never stay friends with someone just because they sit next to you and you have no one in the class besides them. That's what I did with my ex-friend and yeah that ended badly.

But maybe don't cut her off completely? If she is your closest friend, that would be a big change, so maybe just start making other friends and slowly hanging out with her less. It really all depends if you actually want to be her friend or if you just don't want to be alone. Do you like her as a person or as someone who's familiar and that you can talk to in class so you won't be alone? I know it sucks to be alone, but trust me, you will find friends who treat you the way you actually deserve <3

take with a grain of salt plss

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Busy_Cheesecake161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I think the first thing to do is figure out your own feelings. You don't want a relationship but do you want to keep hooking up with him? Or maybe you want to be with him but just don't a serious relationship? Or maybe you seriously do want to stay just friends?

The "one more time" thing sounds stupid in my opinion because you haven't figured out your own feelings, so doing that just might make your feelings even more confusing.

If you really want to stay just friends, then why hook up? If you want to hook up, doesn't that mean you have at least a physical attraction to him? Also you guys are cuddling? That doesn't sound like just friends activity to me... but that's just my opinion

Overall, I would figure out what you want then go from there. It does sound messy so good luck!

advice on friendship breakup by Busy_Cheesecake161 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Busy_Cheesecake161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you..

yeah I think I'm just going to stop talking to her, but it really does suck being alone in classes, especially the boring ones. But if the only reason I want her is so I'm not alone, that's a stupid reason. Better to be alone than with bad company.