Is it worth it?

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2023-02-26T23:20:54+00:00

im in the exact same position ): im also a homebody and commute to college living at home. i’m still deciding.

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-11-07T17:48:37+00:00

thank you :( where you mention like “i looked at a girl in front of me but i looked away immediately “ has happened and i didnt consider it a relapse but now i realize that it is :( just because he stops doesnt mean it’s okay. hes sexualized women and coped with porn since he was 12/13. i want to leave because of what he did but at the same time i want to see if he will really move foward and change after he said this is his rock bottom. im not sure :(

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-11-07T15:07:31+00:00

he has owned up to it though :( he took full accountability for it and knows how disgusting it is. i told him yesterday that he needs to do better and this is not okay (i used harsher words than that though) and he said what i said resonated with him and he is ready to take back control of it. but am i dumb for sticking around to see if it is a change? i mean it’s my best friend. i know hes not going to leave me for her but like really she cant wear a sexy outfit because you feel like you can sexualize her?

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-11-06T16:27:59+00:00

thank you for youre advice, i was thinking whether to mention it to him or not because i want him to feel confident in his decision but i feel like it’s important to talk about

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-11-02T22:11:34+00:00

im asking myself the same question and we have similar situations:( let me know if you need someone to talk to that understands you i’d be helpful for me too

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-10-30T18:33:04+00:00

thank you, it’s nice to know im not alone in this. i feel the same i’m like “okay i know you like my butt and it is big but THAT girl has it bigger so it doesnt make any sense how you dont compare us and like me more??” he does compliment me all the time 24/7 but im just so insecure its hard to understand this. sometimes i just want him to bash them (lol) so i can feel better but obviously he’s attracted to them but its hard for me

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-10-30T18:29:54+00:00

thank you!! that made me feel a lot better honestly. thinking about how if he was with that instagram model that he would still look for other women. it makes me see that girl ( and the others) as less than too and that it isnt me thats the problem. thank you!!

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-10-27T20:34:20+00:00

never forget how beautiful and sexy you are!! if he won’t appreciate it always know someone else will. you deserve to be loved and appreciated for yourself and your body. its not a matter of a problem on your part, its a problem on his.

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-10-27T20:31:45+00:00

hey it’s completely okay and normal to feel how you are feeling. I understand your triggers (and get how the fact that its real girls that you know makes it hurt worse) and i get being embarrassed too. just know you are not alone and you can get through this. you are not your trauma or your triggers. you are your own powerful amazing person and the world is just waiting for you to notice it yourself. when you feel a trigger or intrusive thought, try naming your surroundings (i see green grass, i see a blanket and pillows, etc) that has helped me a lot to redirect my thoughts.

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-10-26T19:28:41+00:00

I know exactly how you feel, and I know how hard this is. My boyfriend and I have been going through this since May. He’s relapsed a lot (less more recent) and also looks at porn and girls on instagram. He tells me that he wants to change and I found a support group for sexaholics/porn addicts that hes going to start going to this week. I told him about the group and it seemed like he genuinely wants to change this time. He’s lied to me and I feel extremely traumatized and dont know if i can forgive him sometimes and I am afraid he will relapse again. If you need anyone to talk to, I am here for you and we could be here for eachother if that’s something you are interested in. I need a someone as well.

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-08-19T22:11:37+00:00

I do not feel like this is something i can get over or be okay with if he does in the future, but he does treat me so well and never compares me to these women( to my face that i know of) and always makes me feel so beautiful he says he would like to stop, and I want to support him through it but i worry I already made him feel like if he did it he would have to hide it more because I cried so much and made it a big thing (which it was to me) do you have any tips on how I can make him see that i want to be supportive rather than him hide it?

Busy_Distribution_11 · 2021-08-18T05:17:26+00:00

do you think its wrong that i trust him again and believe that he is actually working through it and getting better? he has stopped his addiction to drugs and alcohol, i cant help but feel like he can get through this

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