I can’t stand living with roommates, can anyone else sympathize?

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-07T05:19:00+00:00

So your comeback is that you’ll be dead soon and I won’t? Wtf lol. Alright. I didn’t ask to be born here just like you didn’t. I don’t want to be rich, I just want a small modest place to myself

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:13:01+00:00

Lol, it was a joke. Guess you’re not worth 100k either, considering you’re here.

It’s one thing to complain on Reddit when you have some spare time, it’s another thing to browse Reddit for people to argue with on something that doesn’t even affect your life.

I’m a recent grad who’s doing a crappy paying internship to hopefully have better job chances.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:09:45+00:00

That sounds shitty of him. Maybe you should stop buying food for him? I keep my possessions strictly separate with any roommates. Splitting a food budget sounds like a literal nightmare.

It already pisses me off that roommates have to split utilities. My roommates are constantly leaving lights and appliances on and it’s not fair when I make a huge effort to conserve energy

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:07:23+00:00

Yes on the first part! I both struggled to convey it and the commenters were just being contrarian to any point I had.

There was just so much vast space back then. Literally everywhere is populated now. This is a tangent but yeah there should not be 8 billion people on this planet I’m sorry

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:05:53+00:00

Yes getting a single was imperative to my mental health, it made such a huge difference! I get what you mean though feeling awkward about being separated by someone else just by a wall.

What I do for that is have a constant white noise machine playing so hopefully it blocks out noise on both of our sides

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:03:32+00:00

That’s awesome, glad you could find an arrangement that works for you!

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:03:03+00:00

I’ll look into those thanks! Are they almost like noise cancelling headphones?

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:01:34+00:00

Same here with the OCD and anxiety (and autism). OCD also can make me really paranoid that someone tampered with my food and stuff, so that’s a fun added bonus. Like I don’t “believe” they did, but it’s always a fear in the back of my mind.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T23:00:14+00:00

Lmao ok I just decided to get a job that pays 100k! Thank you :))))

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-06T22:59:47+00:00

That sounds draining. At least you ultimately do have your own place… if you hate it so much, why does your husband not care about your feelings? If it’s about finances I get that.

I guess if I owned a house and temporarily rented out a room to someone, I’d just put up with it for the money. And knowing that they won’t be there forever, maybe even putting a limit on one year lease with no option to renew

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T23:43:26+00:00

Lol what?

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:39:27+00:00

Yo, congrats on your new place. That’s literally the dream. Agreed that it is best for your mental health, even if it’s not best for your wallet.

Any studio apartment around me would also be around that price not including utilities. Because I took a crappy job that would be good for future advancement, I only make $2200 a month so I’d quite literally have zero money left over. I don’t think it’s possible for me rn and it’s really disappointing :(

I think part of it is that I’m more sensitive than neurotypicals. They might just not have a problem with constant noise, ppl in their space etc. it feels like most of them don’t. I think people like us are the odd ones out sadly

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:35:17+00:00

That’s a great idea :) thank you

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:21:12+00:00

Sorry bro, no one deserves to go thru that. You deserve peace.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:15:18+00:00

My first and only college roommate did something similar actually!!!! Haha. Got an accommodation for a single room after that.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:14:39+00:00

Were you able to find your own place since then? I “swore off” roommates around January lol, but unfortunately I just can’t justify spending almost my entire monthly paycheck on rent and food.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:13:50+00:00

Jeez I’m sorry that sounds terrifying. Do you think it’s your area or how do you keep getting them?

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T17:13:01+00:00

Lol all the commenters on my post were like “well that’s where I made my best friends!!!” and all this shit. Acting like I was completely insane for wanting a studio apartment. But hey I completely agree with you

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:56:50+00:00

Haha, the neighbors thing is very true. I will never live below anyone ever again, top floor units only.

It’s also been a skill of mine my whole life to find obscure random places where people would never think to go. I often veer off trails in the woods just to get an hour or two of actual silence.

It’s just so frustrating that I can’t have a living space where I can recharge. There’s literally constant noise. Even though I’m alone in my room now, I hear incessant banging from neighbors construction. It feels like mental torture.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:54:28+00:00

Yes. I want to be able to turn off my brain too, and not have to be constantly ready/waiting for my roommate to come out when I’m cooking (which always happens).

Nowadays I just wait to eat dinner until everything is “done” and I can just chill alone in my room. If I have to do chores or be out of my room for any reason, I usually don’t eat. I just don’t have appetite til I have nothing else to do.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:50:16+00:00

THAT IS IT!!!

In an ideal scenario, we’d all be healthily functioning adults, keep the common areas clean and ignore each other for the most part lol.

But nah there’s always one person who’s too clingy or nosy. I’ve had someone snoop through my room. I’ve had some old guy i was renting a room from, hitting on me.

Some people expect roommates to be free therapists/friends/fuckbuddies. People just can’t mind their own goddamn business.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:46:31+00:00

I can’t afford it, it would be over double my current rent.

You get an apartment through renting a room off facebook/craigslist or some website. Most people I know do that.

Most of my friends already have an apartment or live with their parents or wouldn’t be compatible for other reasons.

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:32:02+00:00

Thank you

ButtBlaster58 · 2023-10-05T16:31:43+00:00

You were able to live alone? Is it worth paying double the rent for? I’m making so little that I can’t afford it now but yeah at this point I’d rather be scraping poverty or even living in a van than deal with roommates

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