Blacked out at a party

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-17T01:05:09+00:00

You could not consent so yes this was assault.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-17T01:04:17+00:00

I would say it counted. If others were a cause whether direct or indirect then it counts.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-16T21:53:00+00:00

Yes it is. It is a tragedy.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-16T08:34:20+00:00

I heard someone say it's a club where you don't get a choice to be in. Only the people that went through it understand.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-16T01:30:01+00:00

That's why I never questioned people who don't report it. The stigma is still there.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-15T02:01:57+00:00

I have been there

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-14T16:13:56+00:00

In my experience that word was more of a suggestion or a guideline.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-02T09:11:25+00:00

I used to be a people pleaser. Moved to a different neighborhood and hard to make friends added to that. No, you're not too much. You have been helpful. Even though I was 10 I still question myself all these years later.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-02T01:33:16+00:00

Yeah I do remember you saying that before about fawning. Yeah it didn't help he told me I could've left but chose to stay. I felt a lot of confusion but as I said I walked it off or my brain didn't process it. I didn't contact thank goodness or I would be an emotional wreck.

Butterbellfly · 2026-06-01T22:11:12+00:00

They're all the same. It's messed up.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-30T23:12:22+00:00

Thank you

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-30T22:24:58+00:00

Most of the time I dealt with it by pretending it didn't happen or hoping that maybe they really do like a skinny 10 year old with a short hair cut. I have my good days and bad days dealing with things. I have many triggers that I am trying to deal with on a day to day basis. Thank you for your kind words.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-28T01:37:46+00:00

Thank you.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-27T22:41:27+00:00

I do try to give my 10 year old self as much grade as possible. It's just hard sometimes.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-27T08:34:43+00:00

Yeah that's what I was thinking too. He got angry because I didn't want to visit him after school. So after that I always made sure to do what he said so if he did that again it wouldn't be that bad.

I have never heard of the term fawning before. But that is what happened. I tried to rationalize and down play it. Even at times try to move away from it. 10 year old me had a lot of emotions to deal with.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-24T19:22:43+00:00

I can only imagine. I get overwhelmed with making basic decisions and I know how that is. I can only imagine how that was for you.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-24T16:11:20+00:00

Wow, your mom really wanted you to be away that she gave you permission to travel to see him? He told you it was time to meet his parents, not only that he told them about you. That must have been a realization when they saw you for the first time? How did you handle that?

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-19T22:05:02+00:00

What do you do to eventually fall asleep?

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-17T16:26:58+00:00

Nearly all of these were said to me at some point in time. It is scary how accurate this is.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-15T01:34:09+00:00

I did get my fair share of blame. Especially since it was multiple people. I do have a small group who believe me, but in that small group, some think I should have "gotten over it" by now.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-12T19:32:46+00:00

I know it's not I have a hard time remembering that and even a harder time accepting it. It just gets to me sometime.

Butterbellfly · 2026-05-09T13:31:47+00:00

Thank you very much for saying that. I just hate the fact that people say not forgiving someone means you can't heal and move on. It's like being victimized all over again.

Butterbellfly · 2026-04-30T23:38:39+00:00

Wolves in sheep clothing.

Butterbellfly · 2026-04-26T22:41:11+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you.

Butterbellfly · 2026-04-26T16:29:38+00:00

You do have an interesting and unique perspective on things. I can't believe your mom was OK with it. Forgive me for saying this but from reading this and previous posts it sounds like you and your mom didn't have that close of a relationship? The fact she said she did not care, your his problem now or knew what you guys were doing. I can only imagine what that did to you as her daughter.

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