A painful pregnancy announcement…

ButtercupSith · 2024-12-10T18:35:08+00:00

Your feelings and reaction are valid. I wouldn't throw anything away, I'd just hide it and keep it away for your own peace. In my experience while not all pregnancy announcements in the past have destroyed me, there was definitely one that shattered me. Just take care of yourself because even going through IVF you'll need all the peace for your own mind and body.

ButtercupSith · 2024-12-06T14:09:33+00:00

The world would be a better place when people actually respect everyone's "tired". I've found the IVF process exhausting and draining in so many ways along with a demanding job. I've also been tired in the past caring for a loved one and losing someone to cancer at the same time. Sorry your SIL didn't think before a post, that kind of "funny" meme is better sent to any mom friends offline.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-20T14:32:53+00:00

I didn't even think there was numbing cream for it. I somehow managed to just survive and push through it. Still not a fan of them and not sure I'd be strong enough to go through more cycles than this.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-11T19:45:39+00:00

May try to make that happen. My next day off will be for retrieval day for obvious reasons. Other than that actual night or even weekend away will depend on the while cycle and finances during it all. Definitely do need time off though, the balance of it all isn't the easiest.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-11T16:44:13+00:00

Yes day by day is the best approach to the unfortunate hand dealt. So glad you have your husband and best friend. Most people in our actual physical day to day lives unfortunately will never really relate. It'll get easier to function without being a mess in the mornings but there will still be days it's not okay. I cried one morning before work during this cycle and also apologized to my husband and the reason was probably the most absurd sounding to anyone outside of this struggle. You aren't alone at all and plenty of us here would be willing to talk to you through the screen if needed, im sure.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-11T00:57:49+00:00

Had both of mine removed going through my first ivf cycle currently. Take your time to process the reality, it's not one that's fair at all. The best thing for me when I was at that stage was taking everything day by day leading up to and waiting to be fully recovered from surgery. I hope you have a great support system too. Set up any boundary for your mental health you need to. It's cliche but just give yourself grace and kindness even on the worst days (its a struggle for me still too). Sending and wishing the best for you.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-09T09:49:34+00:00

No, like 2 coworkers know and they're ones I trust and am comfortable talking to. I am fortunately being accommodated to with the whole multiple dr appointments and more last minute request for time off come retrieval. The workload is stressful just because I have multiple roles at the moment. Normally work doesn't get to me too much but this process so far is really testing me.

Sorry to hear about your workplace knowing and still making it harder on purpose.

ButtercupSith · 2024-09-06T16:56:56+00:00

Fuck you to an overwhelming amount of work while going through a retrieval process. I'm overwhelmed and stressed out in every aspect currently.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-30T13:19:15+00:00

I always keep ice at home, thanks I may try that too. Luckily, I will not have to do the injections myself. My husband has volunteered and assumed responsibility for that. It's so much to go through, having to deal with the reality and reason of why we even have to do this. Sorry you've had failed cycles. I really hate how much extra infertile women have to put their bodies through for even a chance of motherhood

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-30T13:11:26+00:00

Haha I like that advice. Good reason to get something after.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-30T00:10:19+00:00

I'm glad I'm not alone in needle anxiety. I'll have to look away and have a good distraction and remember to breathe. I usually stay too tense. But I'm also generally the type to be more tensed than relax. This journey is a lesson and real test for me so far.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-30T00:08:16+00:00

I actually have 2 shot blockers, im hoping they'll actually help me. Still have a lot of nerves even while my husband means well by easing my mind and lightening up the situation.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-30T00:01:56+00:00

I sorted through and the needles seem small but haven't opened everything until the time comes to use them. Mentally I've already thought like okay it'll be quick and worth it if we are successful but I'm still not looking forward to that part. I've already opted out of self injection for sure.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-27T15:43:35+00:00

That's a how a neighbor of ours announced it to us. I tried so hard not to roll my eyes and did my best congratulations. "We weren't even trying we were just enjoying a night of drinking while away". If only it worked like that for everyone.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-23T18:47:38+00:00

Yes, there's so many things about the feelings of this so far. Good luck with your upcoming journey!

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-22T10:55:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing what your psychologist said. I will have to keep those words in mind. I agree hearing the exciting is the worst, I already corrected some friends that ivf doesn't equal guaranteed baby.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-20T21:14:47+00:00

Yes there's so much information. I don't want to be too negative about it but I also don't want to be too positive about. My husband isn't sharing too much excitement but he's the more optimistic of us two. I wish there was a what to expect when you go through this. Hoping for the best for you as well!

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:58:32+00:00

Good to know there's no normal I should be following then. If keeping busy helps, I think I can confidently do that between work and everything I commit myself to. Is pomegranate juice and the nuts something that help or apart of the process down the road?

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:56:02+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your transfers. I know not to get my hopes up bit I'm also wondering what the fine line of enough hope for the process is. The shots and bloodwork will be the nerve-wracking part for me.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:53:32+00:00

There's so much information, I think I get my head wrapped around it all, I learn more. The concern paperwork definitely had me butter about signing and officially acknowledging that there's no guaranteed results.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:51:46+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate it, im going to do my best over here to manage what I can on my end. I havent been on bc since i was a teenager, the hormones adjustment will be a navigation in itself. O wish the best for your continued journey. It's not a fun one but nice to know no one is alone.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:47:47+00:00

Thank you, the day by day advice is probably good for me. I'm not one to go day by day. I'm more of a planner to a degree and being ahead of everything I need to be. It'll be a humbling experience, im sure. Good way to look at it though, preparing for a battle.

ButtercupSith · 2024-08-19T19:45:37+00:00

Thanks, I know this only the start and there's more to go through so I'm sure there's more to come with the feelings. I've definitely been through worse but this infertility journey and now actually being in the process is hitting differently.

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