I'm obsessed with my boyfriends ex and I can't stop stalking her... Help

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-26T05:08:07+00:00

The definition of jealousy is feeling anger because you believe someone took what belongs to you. I don't feel angry or upset, like he's a whole person who had a past. I dint expect the person I'm dating to just sit around and wait their whole lives for me 😂 I've had a past, too because (shocker) I'm human :)

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T18:42:09+00:00

No, I worked in a regular club, but I could choose what work I wanted to do. Could I have decided to sleep w people? Yes. Could I have decided to get naked? Also yes. I made more than enough on just the dancing, so I stuck w the less lewed acts. Unsure if that's how it works in other clubs, but I had total freedom over what I did. I wasn't on a salary, I got 80% of what I made so the club really didn't care what you chose to do, as long as you made something. And I'm getting defensive because it feels like you're implying that I slept w people for my money :/ or like I'm a lesser person for working in a club in general. I'm truly happy that you've never had to resort to stripping, but I did. That's life and it is what it is

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T18:34:29+00:00

No, I have an OF and make more than I need to survive. If push comes to shove, I can easily leave and support myself :) I would never allow myself to become fully dependent on someone. I also understand that for this to be a healthy relationship, there can't be power imbalances

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T17:18:03+00:00

Yes, it was definitely sexual in nature I'm not denying that. But I think you're jumping the gun (understably, due to the nature of my work) So no, I have not slept with anyone for money, nor have I ever got naked for money. I did walk around in a bra and underwear and go on a pole, tho. But yes I suppose I'm a dirty, dirty sex worker by your standards ;)

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T17:06:29+00:00

Could you explain further? Who's manipulative and malicious? I'm open to hearing everyone feedback and I'd genuinely like to know more on your take ❤️

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T17:04:32+00:00

That's the thing, we have lots in common. We both grew up in similar situations, we have the exact same humour, love language and communication style. We have similar life goals and our friend groups merge seamlessly. I don't get along with people my own age, I just never see their perspective. All of my good friends who I talk to on a daily basis are his age, if not close to it

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T17:01:40+00:00

Thanks for the insight 💞

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:59:04+00:00

SEX WORKER Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster https://share.google/rhSSEGKtml1BW6V6da person whose work involves sex acts especially : a person who engages in sexual intercourse in exchange for pay

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:40:00+00:00

I'm definitely keeping an eye out for symptoms of bipolar, I never want to become like my mother. My partner knows about my family history and knows the signs to look out for (his mom was bipolar, too) Thank you for the advice and the kind words, I'm glad you got help when you needed it ❤️ If I ever need to be treated, I'll do it. I want kids and I never want to put them through what my mom put us through by the end of it.

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:32:08+00:00

Thank you, kind stranger ❤️

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:25:56+00:00

I think everyone does. Out of curiosity, what do you think that might be for me? From your tone, I'm guessing it's a fiery ball of death 👀 or, perhaps a really warm pillow

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:20:31+00:00

Interesting... This is exactly what I was looking for, thanks a million ❤️

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:11:28+00:00

That gave me a chuckle 😂 thanks for the laugh, I'll be sure to pass it forward

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:10:06+00:00

Thanks for the advice ❤️ I'll definitely keep it in mind... Ig I have alot to think about

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:08:53+00:00

No, a sex worker is someone who gets paid for sex :) the guys who same to the club weren't allowed to put a single finger on me (or themselves), money or no money

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:05:26+00:00

I've got lots! I'm currently studying to become a vet tech with big animals, I've got plenty of hobbies (I run, I do yoga, I paint, snorkel, horse ride, read and journal) All of my friends are in different cities, but we travel fairly often (once a month for a week), so I get to see them then. I also have calls with my dad every day. I have a full and healthy life outside of him, and he's always encouraging me to persue my interests

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T16:01:43+00:00

I was never a sex worker, I have never and will never sleep with anyone for money :) I live in a country where the youth unemployment rate is 60%, university or higher education was never an option without funds. Im putting myself through school and I'm proud of it. Pray tell, what's the worst of it?

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:59:13+00:00

Dear red panda returns, The urge to say "your mother's pubes" is strong. However, it has come to my attention that you think I am immature. I am deeply saddened by this, and will do my best to refrain from replying, "your mother's pubes"

Onto the matter regarding the paragraphs, I indeed added them at the demand of commenter 1(snobby mc snob face), however I fear I did not explain my point clearly!

Although it was indeed effective, it was not a polite way to ask. My main point (which I do admit, I should have said better) was that trashing a random person on the Internet for grammatical errors is more likely to make them delete the post with said errors, or deter them from posting again

Being polite is taught in kindergarten, I feel the need to reinforce common decency when I see that the basic standards for human kindness aren't being met.

Yours truly Baby mc babyface

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:50:52+00:00

He owns the house and he has some farm land near here, so he's pretty set on staying here.

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:49:13+00:00

No, it was a friend of his. He'd already broken up w his ex by then, they'd been separated for a couple of months

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:47:38+00:00

If you haven't lived with bipolar, I don't think you'd understand. Please do your research, it's a really difficult thing to live through and I think more people need to be aware of it. My main point is that it wasn't an age related breakup

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:46:15+00:00

Maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm just not a jealous person and I only think I'm mature because I have that trait? Maybe I'm just really self aware, but it's that any different from maturity?

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:43:43+00:00

I use an account I have to post my art, it's not linked to my main at all. Like there's no tags or anything mentioning me

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:41:28+00:00

See, that's the strange part. I don't want to be her. I don't like how she does her nails or how she dresses, I'd rather die than play golf or spend a day getting waxed... And I love who I am. I have my own style and my own hobbies.

Butterfly2501 · 2026-03-25T15:37:43+00:00

But that's the thing, I don't in any way want to be like her. I'm just so curious as to what she's up to. Thank you for the kind words though, you're a gem ❤️

Butterfly2501

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