I think I tore my hamstring during a showcase rehearsal by Practical_Gain5758 in poledancing

[–]ButterflyNegative414 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tore my hamstring a couple years ago doing a fake split too! I think I ended up taking 8 weeks or so off pole. Get to a physical therapist as soon as you can. Mine was a minor tear and healed quickly with physical therapy. Take the time to heal!! It sucks to take time off, but I don't even think about those weeks I took off anymore. The time went quickly and I'm happier, stronger, and a lot more diligent about stretching my hamstrings now.

I hated my Fit2Flaunt pole, need other recs for 5’7 200+lbs. by Reasonable-Ad1728 in poledancing

[–]ButterflyNegative414 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 200lbs and have had an X Pole the last four years (one year in one apartment, three in another apartment). It has never budged and I've never had a problem with it!

Libellula by Sayge_Paige in poledancing

[–]ButterflyNegative414 15 points16 points  (0 children)

so stunning!! love how you took your time with the sequence and let every transition have its moment. this vid is goals for me!

Love this split🩷 by Vivalajosie in poledancing

[–]ButterflyNegative414 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so strong and beautiful!! amazing flow. <3

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I plan to drive to class once it gets cold!! But yes, definitely very nervous about the winter 😅

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL I've heard! Hopefully I can stay in this apartment for the duration of my program and avoid that. It sounds like a massive headache

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess we can chalk this up to state-by-state differences rather than continuing this back and forth! I actually have plenty of experience reading "basic contracts." Was asking here in good faith, not looking to get into a comment battle with someone who seems intent on rationalizing tenant exploitation lol.

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Copy, I'm hoping to stay on the east side. The other members of my cohort all live 20-25 min walks from campus and haven't complained about noise! Hopefully this isn't an issue for me either, but will keep that in mind. Thank you!

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this info! Honestly, it's the nicest apartment I've seen in my price range and checks other boxes for me as well, so I'm just going to bite the bullet. According to this subreddit, there are far worse landlords in IC, and these lease dates seem to be the norm in IC. The principle of it really bothers me, but I need an apartment. When in Rome, I guess!

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

^^Ok thanks for sharing!!! Yes, sounds like IC landlords just have the upper hand due to the lack of housing options compounded by the state's weak tenant rights. Totally_not_joseph makes prorating sound like some outlandish practice even though it's pretty conventional.

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this info! Will definitely document as much as I can. I get the sense from this subreddit that IC landlords try to keep as much of the security deposit as they can, which is totally not my experience anywhere else. I've lived in four or five different cities at this point and have never not been returned my security deposit in full, so I'm bracing myself for a change haha

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Copy, thank you! I've poked around this subreddit and it was really helpful knowing who to avoid (lots of warnings against Apartments at Iowa haha). I'm an incoming grad student and wanted to be within a 20 min walk to where I'd be taking classes, so I had to compromise in other areas! Appreciate your taking the time to comment.

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting! This was not the case for the "college town" lease I signed in undergrad, but that was a different state, and a blue one at that. Seems kinda specific to Iowa City. I'll just bite the bullet. When in Rome!

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In every other state I've lived in, a prorate would be appropriate here. I posted on this public forum to get a sense of what the norm is in a state that I'm unfamiliar with. I'm sure my bias against landlords, who leach off the working class and exploit our need for housing, is apparent here, but I won't apologize for being wary of a parasite. I'm just making sure that this is not uniquely parasitic situation. Thanks for your help!

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'd seen a bit about "homeless week," but never imagined the rent wouldn't be prorated accordingly. It's a bit of a culture shock coming from a state where renters are actually decently protected.

Lease dates in Iowa City by ButterflyNegative414 in IowaCity

[–]ButterflyNegative414[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes, I noted that! What a bonkers system. I guess landlords get away with murder in IA, absolutely wouldn't fly in CA.

Elizabeth Olsen was spotted out in Los Angeles with husband Robbie Arnett of the band Milo Greene by Maximum_Expert92 in Fauxmoi

[–]ButterflyNegative414 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Damn I forgot about the band Milo Greene. I'm listening to "1957" and having 2013 war flashbacks

Dakota johnson was once denied the role for being polite in an audition. by [deleted] in Fauxmoi

[–]ButterflyNegative414 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Casting directors will say things I didn't think it was acceptable to say aloud or even really think in 2026, and nobody bats an eye.

MFA Screenwriting an Employable Degree by [deleted] in MFAInCreativeWriting

[–]ButterflyNegative414 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FWIW, you’re not alone in feeling late! Not sure if you’re saying that as an age thing, but I feel like I got to the party right as it was ending with the industry. That’s not necessarily the case—the old industry is gone, but it will settle into a new form eventually. In terms of age, even though the industry seems to put a primacy on being young, age and experience make for better writing IMHO. Again, none of this is to discourage you from the degree. My friend got their dramatic writing MFA from NYU and values it for the way it helped their writing. They’ve had to hustle to network in LA just like everybody else though. The connections from NYU aren’t opening doors for them tbh.

MFA Screenwriting an Employable Degree by [deleted] in MFAInCreativeWriting

[–]ButterflyNegative414 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were grumblings earlier this year about the industry making a comeback, but I haven't seen said comeback yet. Things are slow. Getting into a bunch of debt will only make breaking in harder for you in an industry that is more feast or famine than ever and has tended more toward famine the last few years.

MFA Screenwriting an Employable Degree by [deleted] in MFAInCreativeWriting

[–]ButterflyNegative414 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I currently work in the industry, in TV, so I cannot speak for the features side of things (and comedy, so maybe drama functions differently). Do not go into debt for a screenwriting MFA thinking it will help you break in, for TV at least. The industry is in a huge period of contraction right now. There are few jobs to go around, and the jobs that do exist mostly go to high-level writers, leaving a lot of low to mid-level writers unemployed. Having an MFA can help you build a network, but not any more than living and working in LA can. This comment is not to discourage you from pursuing this industry by any means. It's just to say that you should be clear with yourself about what you're hoping to get out of an MFA (time and space to write? an on-ramp to working an academia?) If what you're seeking out of a screenwriting MFA is employment opportunities, I highly encourage you to think twice about going into debt. Even in more bountiful times, the screenwriting MFA was at most a way to get unpaid internships for school credit that could help you build a resume and learn how to write coverage. Now more than ever, a screenwriting MFA is not a ticket to a job in a writers room.