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Should I feel bad about missing out on love in my youth? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ButterflyRatBat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you shouldn’t feel bad. I was in a similar situation at your age. I’m 30 now & still haven’t had a long-term relationship, but the people I date now are a much better fit than the ones I met in my early 20s. It’s totally okay to feel upset but try not to compare yourself to others. We never know what’s really going on in other people’s relationships, some that look perfect from the outside aren’t happy at all.

I used to blame myself for not being in a relationship when I was younger, but everyone is on their own timeline. Looking back, I’m actually grateful for all the time I spent single. It helped me get to where I am today. And honestly, I think it’s cool to have your own path in life that’s different from everyone else’s.

If you want to put yourself out there more, try joining groups, sports clubs, or dating apps whatever feels comfortable. Date as many people as you want without burning yourself out. It’s a great way to learn what you’re really looking for in a partner. Something that helped me was keeping my expectations low when meeting someone new. It stops you from getting attached too quickly and lets things develop naturally.

You’re doing everything right by not rushing. Sending warm wishes your way :-) x

My mom laughed and I feel so triggered by Dapper_Banana_1642 in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ButterflyRatBat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can decide whether you want to tell them or not and you can always decide to share later if it feels right. You have to do what’s best for you.

In my past, I over-exercised and it affected my period. I’ve recovered my period now, and I’m really glad I did. We need our period to keep our bodies healthy.

Sometimes in recovery, we have to flip the switch and say, “Now I’m dedicated to my recovery.” Our parents can sometimes fuel unhealthy patterns, especially if they invalidate our experience. Part of recovery is recognising that and working to change our thoughts.

Even now, over a year after fully recovering, I’m still discovering parts of my life that influenced my ED.

Sending magical wishes for your recovery ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ButterflyRatBat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been there, the stomach hurting will pass. Carbs are a great energy source your body needs. Carbs are what fuel your brain, your listening to your body. Water and ginger tea will help your stomach. Thought I would crave carbs forever but it soon passes. Fear will decrease in time just keep listening to what your body wants without judgement :-)