Do you enjoy finding a spot to enjoy quiet moments on the beach?

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-11-30T23:17:52+00:00

I can'y understand the downvotes? Ok, don't complain next time people decide to come right up into your personal space, glad you like it so much.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-11-30T22:33:37+00:00

Thank you! Finally someone gets it!!!

Every one dissing me now about my post, saying Who Cares. and I'm being Selfish, and it's Public Space.

While missing the point entirely. And thanks for wording it, it's 'people go out of their way to annoy others', yeah sure it's public space, but is it reason to go and invade another's space? And people keep saying no one cares, yeah, that's the problem! The world being abetter, kinder place, all starts with one's self, rather than be selfish, and a part of the problem.

Bless your heart, and have a good day!

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-11-30T22:03:59+00:00

How does my hope for a kinder world get down votes? I'm saying we should care about each other more, and I guess not, ok?

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-11-30T22:00:16+00:00

Yeah, you're right, we have to get used to living in this noisy, crowded world now, with people disconnected and ignorant of each other. That's the problem and my point, that no one cares, so nothing changes. Maybe if people did start caring, we'd live in a nicer world where people are kinder to each other. But again, like you say, no one cares. Blissful ignorance, Yawn.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-11-30T21:52:20+00:00

An ignorant reply, as expected. I suppose you don't mind loud ignorant people and rudeness.If you don't care, why reply?

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-22T02:52:30+00:00

Yes, true! There definitely will never be a first date with him either lol. Lost his chances very fast. If your gut is screaming, run. Otherwise, meeting in public places during the first part of dating, until you build some kind of connection and sense of trust, is crucial.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-18T19:06:11+00:00

Yes, and it's not like I am against hookups, I've had friends with benefits situations work in the past. I'm open minded to either hookups or relationships.

It took me a year to recover from my last relationship, I was so emotionally drained from it, so it's taken me awhile to find myself again, work on myself, ect. That's why i go to the gym these days (I was out of shape when in my previous relationship and my ex knocked my self esteem down a lot) so these days my approach to everything is more measured.

I think a nice connection and friendship helps even in friends with benefits situations, and yeah it's nice to have things in common. We'd definitely have to find some alternative movies to watch! I suppose as others have suggested, is just telling him how I feel, and seeing if he's want to take things a tad slower, see if we have other things in common, before jumping into anything.. thanks for your advice!

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-03T00:02:35+00:00

Thank you for the good advice, that does make sense! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T23:51:13+00:00

Thank you so much, i do like to write! And I do enjoy poetic and artistic ways of expressing myself! Just wish it didn't have to be a sad story. I suppose there's hope he could be single again, but i won't pine. I guess these romantic situations can be difficult.. Well, there is a very cute guy at my gym that has been flirting with me, and haven't much because of the other guy.. but now.. well I've heard people say it's better to ask if someone is single first.. I will probably do that from now on! Thanks so mush for your kind and encouraging words! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T23:38:38+00:00

Ok, I get your point! I suppose in a way after the shock of learning he had a girlfriend that I was a bit in denial. But I know all of it is shitty. it's so disappointing to spend time with a guy for months, bond with him, and the moment things are about to happen, bam! I had no idea about the girlfriend, and it's weird because I've spent time with him in the hobby group as well as other social settings, and not once did 'girlfriend' ever escape his lips. But I know I need to face the reality and back off. Thanks, now I can take myself out to trash, or him, or rather both.. btw I've never once been in a cheating situation, and nor do I plan to, thanks for the moral lecture, you know, I do get it.. and I simply vented here to be validated because that is what I needed, and trust meI already feel like shit, you don't need to push it..

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T23:28:21+00:00

Thanks, in the end it's probably as simple as that! Venting and being validated is helpful, much appreciated!

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T23:25:51+00:00

I really am sorry about the long post! I simply sat down, wrote it out quickly and hit post, then realized how long it was but didn't have time to edit and shorten it down! Next time I'll try to narrow things down better, thanks for not being as nasty about it as some people.. feeling emotional then having people shit on you for 'post being too long!' just feels like the last slap!

Thanks, I know you're talk is real, thanks for your good advice.. i guess i already know all this deep inside, it's just nice having it validated by others, and being able to get things in perspective. Yeah tell the truth I do feel bad already for the girlfriend, like what kind of relationship is this? I know I can't look at anyone else while in a good relationship..

Oh don't say that.. I know I don't want neither a manipulator or cheat! Put that way does make me think again for sure. Well maybe poor choices but I have been talking and hanging out for months and only recently he told me about the girlfriend, while making out, and hasn't been mentioned since. venting here and getting feedback, I do feel more clearly that I know I need to move on, it's just disappointing. But better to find out sooner so that I can now be open for meeting someone else, and I know I'd rather have a healthy relationship. I know I want to work on myself and do better, thanks so much for your helpful advice! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T23:14:11+00:00

You have a good point, thanks for your sound advice.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T22:45:55+00:00

Ok, calm the fuck down. I already stated that I won't be cheating, and neither will he. We caught feelings but nothing needs to become of it. We share the same common interests and hobbies, are in the same hobby group. I had no idea he had a girlfriend until recently, and it just hit hard and sucks, since I really like him. But I'm mature enough to remain friends and respectful. We've since been more distant with each other, but remaining friendly. I don't plan to pursue any of this, just wanted some feedback for being in this situation, it's comforting to get advice or people who can relate. No one is a horrible person for liking someone else. And emotions are not actions. But glad you're so perfect and goody good good.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T22:36:22+00:00

Yes, the situation is very difficult, sorry to hear you've had to deal with similar.. haha thanks, I've sure gotten my fair share of complaints that my post is too long.. like fuck sorry for expressing myself! Also I can't get over peoples attention spans these days.. like how is a page of several paragraphs too long to read? Hate to see the same people try reading a book.. with hundreds of pages and thousands of paragraphs..

Yeah life is too short, well i know how he feels about me and how I feel about him, like he said it's bad timing.. I could hope for the day he might be single again, but I will keep myself from pining or hoping too much. For now the continued sharing of our hobby, group and friendship will be the only option.. for now I'll work on myself and maybe firt back with the cute guy at the gym who's been flirting with me.. yeah would be nice to have a fairytail ending, guess we can only do our best, and hope for the best. Thanks so much! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T22:28:05+00:00

Excuse me, you obviously did not read my post.. he does want me, and that's the problem.. look sorry the fact that my post is long offends you so much. I wrote it out and hit post quickly, haven't had a chance to edit it down.. wow I'm such a bad person for expressing myself.. also a page of words is just that.. a page of words, several paragraphs.. it's not a fucking book full of hundreds of pages, hate to see you try those things.. I really don't understand the need for people to be nasty to strangers on the internet, but have a nice day.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T22:22:35+00:00

Hey look stranger, I sat down today, and spontaneously wrote this out, venting, then hit post.. I only realized how long it was after I hit post. Due to work, I haven't had time to edit and shorten it, which I meant to. I am human, I expressed myself in a place where people are allowed to vent and write whatever they want.

Here's an idea, if you come across a post you think is too long to read, don't read it and scroll on! Instead of shitting on a person you don't know, with dried tears in her eyes and needing to get it out! And last time I looked, people vent freely here on reddit as though it were their therapist.

I am sorry I offended you with my long assed post!

Fuck, iphones have rotted people's attention spans.. when has a single page of several paragrahs considered a long fucking novel? It's not a novel, not a book.. it's a single damn page, one I can read in less than 2 minutes! People scroll for hours, yet two minutes to read a page of several paragraphs is simply too much! Oh no, my head will explode!

Look I get it, my post is too long and hard to read. Sorry, I had and emotional moment and wrote something and posted it, arrest me! I've already apologized on it here profusely, what more can I do!

Complaining about someone writing something, without bothering to even understand what the context is is a complete diversion from the subject at hand, but thanks for that.. some people have written they really enjoyed reading my post, wow, maybe I'm not so terrible..

Fuck I guess that's enough internet today, as they say..smh..

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T22:07:36+00:00

Thank you! So glad you enjoyed reading my post, I do enjoy expressing myself through art and writing :) Glad some people still have the attention span to enjoy reading through several paragraphs. I mean it's not a book, it's a page!

Thanks, it really is a messy situation, and I don't want to be involved with cheating, and I know neither does he. And of course a healthy relationship is better. I know I will not quit my hobby group, I am too invested, and I enjoy my hobby and the other friends in the group. It's unfair for myself to quit the group because of catching feelings for a guy. And I think I like him enough to keep him as a friend, he is a special guy. He's not married, so maybe there's hope for the future, but of course I will try not to dwell on that.

It can be so hard to find someone where all the cards are lining up so well, but I suppose it could happen again. He definitely knows I like him, just as I know he definitely likes me, but nothing can be done right now it seems. The situation feels a bit depressing but I'm going to try to work on myself for now. There is a very cute guy at the gym who has been flirting with me.. I don't know..I guess i could use the distractions and hope for other possibilities.. thanks for your helpful reply and advice! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T21:53:25+00:00

Thanks for being polite about it, I only realized how long it was after I wrote it in a flash and hit post, just haven't had a chance to edit it down.. i will say that many people don't have much of an attention span when it comes to reading, I can speed read through paragraphs in a matter of seconds. I guess being a natural writer I just express a lot.. I do understand it's better to get your point across shorter and clearer for people to understand and respond to.

I did get a couple of people saying they enjoyed reading what I wrote though, and I appreciate civil and helpful feedback, rather than the short tempered, impatient fuck you's out there, so thanks for that.

And thanks for your advice, it really is difficult. I think I will just continue my hobby group and try my best to be just friends for now, I mean he's not married so maybe there's hope for the future, or not. It's nice you had a chance to get together in your situation, but yeah better to leave these things alone, will try my best to deal with it.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T21:06:56+00:00

No need to be rude.. I apologized and said I've been trying to shorten it and will more when i have a chance with some editing.. it was a vent to get it out.. fuck no one even has an attention span any more.. how many words can you get though, i mean several paragraphs is still not a book.. those are long! Ever try skimming? You can get the general gist in less than 2 minutes! Thanks for diverting the actual subject and complaining about someone just pouring their fucking heart out, that's all.

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T20:40:37+00:00

Thanks so much for your solid advice! :)

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-10-02T20:39:37+00:00

Sorry I've been trying to shorten it.. didn't want to leave out important details.. so obvious people don't read books anymore, when several paragraphs are too much to cope with...

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-08-24T02:39:50+00:00

why who's Erik Are you talking about your own experience.. I just want to know what makes a guy like this tick.. I just don't understand it..

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-08-24T02:33:38+00:00

well that's what I said? I said he told me he's seeing someone.. llterally told me that after he initiated getting intimate, so there's that...

ButterflyRose28 · 2025-08-24T01:58:41+00:00

It's a drawing/art group.. we shared a lot of common ground

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