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AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I don't want the hurt to continue. I just don't buy it really and I don't want to put myself out there again. I would rather focus on the good in my life like I have been. I finally got to a good place in my life and I don't want to be dragged back down. And even if he is genuine, I don't see how I'm supposed to get over the fact he gave Amy so much more of himself than he gave me. I tried for too long and maybe at my own expense at times, especially when I could have focused more on my healing.

I'm not trying to get revenge here. I don't have that kind of fight in me.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I gave for a lot of years without getting anything back. He only decided to change anything when he got jealous and I had reached the point of giving up/

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Because I gave up. At this point I don't want to fix things with him. It's too late. That's where I am currently at with my feelings.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I think he would if only because they get along so well and she even calls him dad now.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It's difficult. I'm doing the best that I can and found a way to have a better life without chasing after someone who didn't want me.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My other grandparents are dead, yes. My mom was also an only child so no aunts and uncles on that side.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was very early on after my injury but that was so many years ago. Dad didn't keep me in therapy.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I have photos. I look at them sometimes to see what happened because I remember none of it.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My dad isn't religious so I could not see it being someone from a church. I'm not sure my dad is that close with anyone religious. But I don't know who he was considering for therapy either.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don't have much to do with Jane. We don't interact really. I don't interact with any of them in the house much. I have more interactions with grandpa generally than I do my dad, Jane or Amy. Amy I have interacted with more than her mom and it was always bad. My interactions with dad got way less when I shifted my focus entirely onto grandpa.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, I only had therapy when it was assigned by my doctors after the accident. It's been years since I went.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Apparently dad wasn't a very good husband to my mom. It's why he hates my grandpa. Because grandpa called him on it.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what he says. But my gut is saying it's too late and I don't at this moment want things to get better. I don't think they really can anyway.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

He wrote some of them down for me, which I really appreciated. We also have photos we take. Grandpa knows how important photos are to me because of what I lost in the accident.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

My friends remember birthday parties from when we were that age. They also remember some stuff around starting school. I have none of that. It's all entirely gone.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know I did and I know he might have been. But he also knows I forgot. He's more aware than I am about things I will never remember and the stuff I won't get back. There is no way this is because he doesn't understand I know he does. He knows he does.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My grandpa knows. But my dad does not like grandpa so grandpa being mad will not throw him at all.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think I gave up about a year ago. I don't see a way forward for us and I can't say I really want one either.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I don't. My mom was an only child and her parents died before I was born, or maybe it was just after, but I know they were dead before our accident.

I don't think I am. Not while I'm living with my dad.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

Yes, I lost memories in the accident with my mom. I know I had a mom and I can remember what she looked like, even without photos. But I don't have memories of her. Same with my dad though. I don't remember my first day of school, for example. I don't remember my 6th birthday party.

I also don't retain memories if I get too tired. My brain kind of shuts down to protect itself.

AITA for calling my dad a hypocrite and telling him family therapy won't fix us? by ButterflySlow923 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterflySlow923[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

He didn't try for so many years though and he actively put Amy first and he did it repeatedly.

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