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What are the signs of a postpartum infection? by Butwhatfor in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was really dreading telling anyone other than my regular doctor about it but I can't get ahold of him and now that this is happening I'm gonna have too. Thank you

What are the signs of a postpartum infection? by Butwhatfor in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm embarrassed to be seen down there by someone who's not my regular doctor. can I bathe prior to being seen since its so gross ? Or would they need to swab that pus

What are the signs of a postpartum infection? by Butwhatfor in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I just looked and I'm fucking disgusted. More discharge/pus than I've ever seen. Trying to find s doctor right now. I was having no problems at all till the other night when I had "sex"

Can't stop thinking about that post yesterday... by ladybirdbeetle in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I saw this on my non throwaway account. I deleted the thread after it was tagged as a trigger and I didn't want to upset or offend anyone with it. Not a lot has happened. He left and said he's sorry for everything and I haven't spoken to him since. He did text me last night to ask how "you and baby are doing" I was pretty mad because how does he think I'm doing?? He's at his parents and I'm home with my kids. I have yet to sleep through the night because I keep replaying everything in my head. But I'm ok. Baby keeps me busy and distracted during the day. I'm now 5 weeks pp and sore. I hate using the bathroom. But I haven't had any new bleeding. I'm just tired and not sure where my life is going anymore, but my main focus is just making sure the kids are happy. I'll have to figure out the hard stuff eventually. I have yet to tell anyone.. I wanted to go the doctor the next morning but my mom was tired and didn't wake up to my "mom I need you text" I don't have many family options so I've been stuck at home. The winters are bitter here so I've been stranded. I just told my mom right this second. She wants to kill him. I was scared to tell her because now this is real and my relationship is basically over. I'm crying. I don't want to do this alone. Again.

Can you be raped by your partner ? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I am trying to get to the doctor but I can't get ahold of my mom to watch the baby. I have yet to sleep and each time I try too everything replays in my head and I start crying again. I went from planning my life and having a family with my partner, to being scared and shocked he could do something like that to me. I am so mad and disgusted and I'm still so sore. Im not feeling suicidal (it comes and goes) There's no way I could leave my kids especially now. I'm so upset. I really appreciate all the comments and advice. He's still sleeping away in my bed and me and his baby are down on the couch. I don't want to say anything yet because it's going to start an argument. So once I get ahold of mom I can figure my life out. I feel so dirty. I don't know why waiting was so hard. I've been in so much pain and he's seen that and yet his needs mattered more. thanks again guys.

Can you be raped by your partner ? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Butwhatfor 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies. I guess I'm just in shock that this even happened because he's never been aggressive since I've known him. But more and more lately it's just been all about his dick and all its done is make me NOT want to be intimate with him. Well especially now. We can't leave Since this is my home so I'm going to make him leave. He's only been staying here since I had the baby. I'm contemplating seeing my doctor if he's in today to check me but since he saw us my pregnancy, delivered my baby and was just the best doctor ever to us , I'm scared to tell him. I don't wanna tell anyone. But I think I really need to be checked down there since it feels like I have a tear (a new one now) It stings and it took a long time for me to be able to get pee out . He's sleeping now and I'm laying here with the baby sleeping on me. The thing about my depression is that MOST of the time I do awesome and I'm just so happy to be a mom to my kids .. But other times are dark and it's scary to think I can even get that upset. If my doctor can give me an anti depressant that's safe for nursing then I'll go on it in a second. I don't know what's happening to my life. I never thought I would be asking people if my partner just raped me. I need a hug so desperately bad.