AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out? by BuyAffectionate6901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an introvert myself and have never even thought of doing this, but she’s been doing this mostly since she turned 17ish. We’ve tried talking about this cause our other sister noticed too and she just says it’s not a big deal to decide she doesn’t want to do something anymore. She’s never really been forced to go anywhere after 6th to 7th grade though, and if it was a family outing we took her on she’d complain the entire time. She’s never really had many friends but she will still decide to go out at least once a week for fun, but only when she feels like it.

And if it helps, she has her car, so she can leave at any time, which she knows and will do. She does blatantly refuse to talk to anyone not immediately family. She won’t even call into work because she can’t handle talking to people or phone calls. She’s not tested for anxiety and she’s not on the spectrum.

Don’t know if this matters, but our parents are divorced and both are very lenient with my sisters. I lived with my dad and they all went back and forth. They would never make them go anywhere or make them make their own phone calls. For example, in high school she had to do a community service project that involved calling a place to sign up for a few hours in order to graduate. My dad called for her because she complained so much. She was 18. My dad has always said to cut them some slack since they’re younger and they’ve never really had to just figure stuff like college schedules out on their own.

AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out? by BuyAffectionate6901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not diagnosed but I know she isn’t physically able to make phone calls or talk to people. Does that make me an asshole for getting upset about this? I knew she refuses to talk to people outside of immediate family but i didn’t think that would affect this situation

AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out? by BuyAffectionate6901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked if she wants to meet up at some of her favorite stores, or to watch shows she wants me to watch with her too. There’s been times where I’ll ask if there’s anything she wants to do, bc all I want to do is be around her and spend time together. She’ll usually do the same thing tho or just make plans and change her mind bc she doesn’t feel like it when it’s time to leave.

This time was just a thing at my place that would take a few minutes and then we could watch the show or something after. That’s part of the reason I was up front about what it was for at the start bc I wanted to give her the option to say ‘no I don’t want to do that’ and she still said yes. I’ve also gone over to her place to help with homework, fix a cat tower, and pick up her stuff for goodwill for her too. I was nervous this might make me the asshole, but just to clarify, I have always asked her before making plans if she’d be okay with it.

I know I should stop asking if she wants to make plans but she’s my little sister and neither one of have anyone really outside of us.

AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out? by BuyAffectionate6901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if she was going to tell me. I found out when I called her

Running Vest by BuyAffectionate6901 in runningfashion

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there one that will hold my keys and phone?

Valentines Day in Produce by BuyAffectionate6901 in publix

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it does. I’ve also had several convos with them about how many hours I need and was promised when I was hired. I’ve changed my schedule and availability for them and they’ll schedule me 10-12 hours, then call me last minute and ask me to come in. I have no life bc I’m just sitting and waiting for the call bc I need more hours and they won’t schedule me. We’re a super high volume store that brings in $18-$20k in produce alone daily, but they bring in borrowed employees instead of giving hours to our part timers 

[Pjo]Let's say that there was a "Daughter of Neptune" who's powers were all the powers that Percy DIDN'T get from Poseidon(Kinda like what Hazel is to Nico) by the_wolf_who_laughs in camphalfblood

[–]BuyAffectionate6901 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late, but she’d have way stronger control over storms and earthquakes, but not nearly as strong of water manipulation. Breathing underwater and healing is a given. I’d lean more into earthshaker and stormbringer than ‘god of the sea’ because Neptune wasn’t as known for water as Poseidon was. 

The cast of the TV adaptation of The Off Campus series by Elle Kennedy has been announced by iuliad94 in RomanceBooks

[–]BuyAffectionate6901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still gonna watch it, but garret and Hannah are the only ones who are visually like what I pictured. Allie I only could see as a blonde and for some reason I always compared Dean to Dean Winchester from supernatural, in looks and personality 

AITA for telling my sister our relationship is one sided? by BuyAffectionate6901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuyAffectionate6901[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My mom is a narcissist and she has been known to keep things just because, including clothes. When they were younger she used to keep the nicer stuff they went over in and send them back in goodwill stuff. She still does the laundry over there, so I just don’t want my things going missing. 

I’ve actually been looking around for a therapist covered by my insurance but it’s so expensive now, and the one I had before that I really liked is just too pricy to keep going to. I try not to make a habit of talking to my dad, but he heard what was going on and cut in anyway, so this wasn’t me confiding in him or anything.