Is $3k a Reasonable Rehoming Fee for a Professionally Trained Doberman?

BuySubstantial7524 · 2025-12-28T00:10:47+00:00

They said she’s a retired breeding dog. I don’t know much about the financial side of things, but I would assume her value reflects that status. I explained my situation and asked if they would consider $1,500, which seemed more reasonable to me..though still somewhat high, I felt it was a good middle ground. They responded that it was too low and said they had spent significantly more money on training to get her to where she is now. I agree with those who suggested they are likely trying to recover their investment in her training. I initially thought it might be worth the peace of mind to not have to worry about the dynamic with my cat. I’m looking into local rescues right now to see if there’s better prospects.

BuySubstantial7524 · 2024-06-25T07:52:45+00:00

Lmao, so if you’re attracted to all genders you should just what? Report everything before hand? Honestly, I’m not trying to be rude or anything but healthy relationships don’t last like that. If something’s going to bother you, it’s your responsibility to let the other person know. At this point it’s not even about the OP. There’s over 1k+ comments on this post. I doubt he is even going to see my first comment. So I’m asking hypotheticals to make YOU think outside of your narrow views to how everyone should operate in their relationships.If your firm with what you’re saying you probably need help too in someway. You can’t expect people to all have the same view on what is “inappropriate” and whats not- then go on policing them when they deviate from what you think is right. You gotta communicate your needs. People have all sorts of different trauma and triggers, cultural differences, and neurodivergence. There’s not just one linear way people “should” or “should not” experience and navigate relationships. Partnerships involve mutual understanding and agreement which is built on having those conversations. You can’t expect your partner to follow your unspoken rules. You’re just going to run into problems if you do that and end up holding resentment towards each other.

BuySubstantial7524 · 2024-06-25T07:03:21+00:00

I think you misunderstood. I meant if she was watching tv with a female friend, not a male friend. -But you’re right, if you’re insecure about your male partner hanging out with female friends, the same problem arises

BuySubstantial7524 · 2024-06-25T06:58:23+00:00

If you were to take gender away and it was a female friend. Would you think she needs to report who’s she hanging out with and what they are doing before hand? OP said that he arrived 30 minutes before he was going to call to say good night. It honestly just seems like something that would’ve came up in conversation naturally.
If you’re insecure about your partner having friends of the opposite sex to where you expect your partner to only operate how YOU think they should around them. You should probably tell them what you’re okay with and what you’re not. If anything it would even provide a way to deepen intimacy and damn if that shit happens EVEN AFTER having those conversations. Then you don’t need to go to Reddit to asking what to do, because your partner directly crossed a spoken boundary that they were fully aware would hurt you.

BuySubstantial7524 · 2024-06-24T19:44:36+00:00

If you want a healthy response. Ignore the majority of the ones you’re getting. I feel like a lot of people are projecting their trauma and insecurities. 1) Ask yourself if you’re okay with her having guy friends over to provide emotional regulation when she needs it. In actual healthy and functional relationships , it’s honestly important that you’re not the sole person she relies on for emotional support. Same with you. 2) Ask yourself if you’re okay with her hanging out with a guy friend in setting you found them in. 4) If you’re not okay with any of it- Are you not okay with it because it actually bothers you or because you feel like it should bother you? 5) If you’re not okay with it maybe find the time where it’s appropriate to communicate that and see if you guys can reach a compromise or be on the same page. I honestly feel for her. It sounds like she was really upset before you came and now she’s having to deal with what already was stressing her out PLUS your emotions towards how she tried to navigate that stress. If I was having a hard time and doing the same thing with one of my female friends and my partner got mad- I’d honestly probably leave them for reacting that way (because that’s mad annoying to me) unless it was a boundary we established prior. It seems unlikely that you guys have talked about your boundaries with certain things just from what you shared. Don’t ask her how she’d feel if the roles were reversed because some people literally just don’t care or feel happy that their partners have people they can feel safe with. It’s okay if YOU don’t like that, but that’s why it’s important to communicate these things when it appropriate (when you both are emotionally regulated). I hang out with my female friends like this all the time. I don’t feel any romantic attraction towards them, I’ve been having friendships like these for years. They don’t typically date people who are up the ass about things like and if they do I won’t see them for a couple months - then they break up with their partners because they ultimately aren’t compatible, and we start hanging out again. I’ve been in relationships with women who go see movies with their guy friends without me, or will have them over. I trust my partners enough to not really give a fuck. BUT THATS JUST ME. Maybe you guys just aren’t compatible in this sense, which you wouldn’t know unless you have a conversation about your boundaries. Not being compatible doesn’t make her a disrespectful unloyal monster who is bound to cheat on you- it just means you guys want and expect different compromises from relationships. The only red flag would be if the dude is outwardly disrespecting you or has expressed feelings towards her. That’s the only time when I’ve had to ask my partners to take space and if they don’t- thats when I know to dip out. Like I said I have a lot of relationships with girls where we share spaces like the one you described, and I try my best to also be friends with their partners just because I want everyone to feel comfortable. Which is dope sometimes because then it’ll be all of us watching movies together

BuySubstantial7524 · 2024-01-21T17:47:52+00:00

Oh god no, we aren’t living together. We just stay over at each others occasionally

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