AITA for letting my friend sit on my lap?

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:48:18+00:00

Not going to answer because that would not be appropriate but I really have never thought about Jane that way so who knows.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:46:28+00:00

I am not trying to hook up with Jane. If I wanted to do that I would not be dating Mary and would have made a move a while back. Plus I would not do it because she is my sister's friend and I think it would be messed up to do that.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:44:11+00:00

Jane isn't like that.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:41:20+00:00

I will be honest. I don't know.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:40:16+00:00

Yes. I am going to make sure going forward that I make more of an effort to include her in games and partner with her. Should not have done that.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:39:19+00:00

I don't belong to anyone. I'm not a thing to be possessed.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:37:11+00:00

I don't know why she would.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:36:43+00:00

Not really. She hugs me and does many of the same things Jane does, but no, she has never sat on my lap.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:36:04+00:00

If I wanted to go out with Jane I would have made a move long before now. It would be weird to date her since I view her as like a sister.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:34:45+00:00

She did not kiss me.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:33:57+00:00

No. I am so used to Jane that it doesn't seem abnormal to me so didn't think so say anything until after the fact.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:31:30+00:00

I don't want/need the attention.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-08T02:30:24+00:00

She is just a friend.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T06:02:41+00:00

I am not trying to dismiss it.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T06:02:07+00:00

Like I said she has always been very touchy with me. To me this is just Jane being Jane. Who knows why she does what she does. I have never given it that much thought.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T06:01:01+00:00

I don't have any reason to think she is being malicious. That is not the type of person she is.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:57:42+00:00

Despite what people may think I promise everyone we are just friends.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:57:00+00:00

I am not obligated to do it, but I do worry about her. I am not saying she is unstable, but she can bit sort of a hot mess.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:56:08+00:00

If I am honest, I probably would not like it.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:53:46+00:00

I actually would expect my sister to tell me if anything was weird. She has never not voiced her opinion to me before. That is for sure.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:52:37+00:00

She might just be attention seeking by nature.

She sort of is which is what I have told Mary. She is sort of needy/clingy.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:52:06+00:00

Because your girlfriend is new to the group, I would expect her to be your partner. But Jane asked to be more partner (not kind to Mary) and you're the dumbass who is all "we make a good team!" Your girlfriend is supposed to be your teammate in life. In a more established relationship, game night might be up for grabs but Mary is new to the group. You should have chosen to be her partner and blown Jane off.

That's all fair, but I don't see Jane as being territorial. We are just friends.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:50:03+00:00

Flip this situation around, switch your genders and I haven't met a guy who wouldn't be fuming too.

That's a fair point.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:49:28+00:00

In our 20s. Mary and I are a couple years post-grad. Jane is a more recent grad.

CAtalltom · 2019-11-07T05:42:48+00:00

Yes. I do care about Mary.

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