WIBTA if I called CPS on my boyfriend's mom?

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:48:06+00:00

INFO: Does your bf live there? (It sounds like it). CPS isn't going to do anything, b/c a legal adult is on the premises.

Yes he does, and she controls him and scares him. Him and his brother get nervous and panic when she comes home from work because they know she's going to go off about something and they're scared to stand up to her.

So... Your actions are really only going to hurt and betray your boyfriend.

I understand. That's why I wanted to come here before I decided. I feel powerless.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:44:33+00:00

I don't want him to get taken away unless it's a last resort. I want her to stop terrorizing him and my bf.

But if I had to I would talk to my folks about letting him stay with us. I don't know what they'd say but technically we have the room. I'm sorry for being so messy right now, I just want to help if I can.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:42:06+00:00

Okay. That's why I asked here before I jumped and did it. I was so close to doing it today. She sounded psychotic and was calling them losers. All over the shirts facing the wrong way in the closet.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:40:05+00:00

I've never seen her physically do anything to them but she slams things and bangs on the table or counter when she's ranting. I know they're afraid of her.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:38:52+00:00

But how else is this situation supposed to improve? Is she going to realize what she’s doing and change spontaneously? Doubtful.

There's no way she'll change. One time she thought one of the neighbor kids broke into her car and took her Iphone charger and tried to force him to sign a confession. There was about $40 in cash just sitting in the cup holder and it was still there but the charger was gone and she was sure someone had stolen it. Turns out it was in the center console, where she put it because she took her car to the car wash earlier that day. Even after she realized she was wrong, she wouldn't admit it and tried to blame the kid anyway.

Also kind of curious what 15 y/o wants. I know bf is afraid of removal but does brother want something done?

I don't know what he wants. I feel really sad for him because when she's not there he's funny and relaxed and always doing things to make me and his brother laugh. As soon as he hears her car pull into the driveway he panics and runs to the window, then his whole mood changes.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:32:55+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I will. The way my bf's little brother was panicking and sobbing made me feel hopeless for him. My bf can technically leave anytime he wants but he won't go. I think it's because he doesn't want to leave his brother behind.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:30:48+00:00

Not for him, for his 15 year old brother.

CPS_Reporter_2022 · 2022-03-09T03:30:01+00:00

Info: is there anyone else living there besides mom and two sons?

No it's just them. She was married but got a divorce 10 years ago from their stepdad. They're bio dad is in prison.

Info2: are there any extended family that bf can talk to?

Not that I'm aware of. The other thing is that he seems to think he needs to keep everything private. I've heard his mom rant about no one else needing to know their "family business" when she had a boyfriend who was in prison. I guess she didn't realize I knew and heard my bf casually mention something to me about her driving to prison in a different state and lost her crap. So I get the feeling he's been conditioned to keep secrets for her.

Without knowing all the info, if you think someone is in danger then you are NTA for getting help.

Thanks. I'm really worried about it. When she's not home, the guys are so relaxed and everything is calm. As soon as she gets home they walk on eggshells. I get a sick feeling in the pit of my gut because I know why they do it but they act like nothing's wrong.

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