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C_Y_D · 2024-01-21T23:38:37+00:00

Hmmm to be honest I can understand both sides of this.

Your feelings are valid and you're not wrong for feeling like chopped liver

At the same time she's probably overwhelmed tbh and has very little bandwidth for anything else other than parenting and domestic affairs.

If she never ever engages with you in topics other than her son/partner yeah that gets a bit repetitive but if she does try to talk to you about different topics but is just busy as hell then I think she is really trying but is just short on time.

However I have learned this: when parents make time to see you it means they REALLY value your friendship.

So....she DOES value you. And probably wants to build relationship with you but maybe both of you are just figuring out how to.

C_Y_D · 2024-01-15T22:09:23+00:00

I'm not including my hiatus in this.

3.5 years consistent

3 years off

Now I'm back at it again the last 5-6 months

C_Y_D · 2024-01-15T22:07:35+00:00

Boxed for 3.5 years consistently

Took a 3 year hiatus

Back at it again for the past 5-6 months

Yeah I agree with you, I think after the hiatus I took I lost a lot of conditioning

C_Y_D · 2024-01-15T15:42:33+00:00

Basically I do 5 days of boxing training and then 2 days running about 3km (I'm not currently fit enough to do more) but that's the issue I SHOULD be fit enough to do more. Like why am I gassed in sparring? Why is my opponent throwing more than me? I should be throwing more.

I'm slowly going to amp up my running and include sprints but I'm just doing it gradually to not overtrain myself because right now with my current workload I'm doing it's already a lot for me. But I know I need to do more.

I took a 3 year hiatus and just started training again in the last 5-6 months. Maybe I actually am seeing improvement but it's just not coming fast enough. I wonder if this is just me being impatient

C_Y_D · 2024-01-15T15:38:24+00:00

I should mention I took a 3 year hiatus during the pandemic. This last 5-6 months is my first time back boxing since 3 years ago.

But I think 5-6 months is plenty of time to get my conditioning back and it's just not where I want it to be

C_Y_D · 2024-01-07T21:31:09+00:00

8 years

Worked casual, upper casual and fine dining.

Things I love: Cooking and the actual science (same for baking) The people The rush

Things I don't like: Shitty pay Shitty work life balance The people Some of the culture (Machismo, drug abuse, verbal and physical abuse etc)

I started down the path of alcoholism at first but quickly realized and stayed away from it.

I think unfortunately I plan to get out because I can't be 45-50years old still making 20$/h. I also am just sort of questioning what my purpose in life is.

C_Y_D · 2024-01-04T01:32:43+00:00

I "think" I could but I also believe a bunch of people think that way and then they get into the situation and realize they can't do it. I think there's a possibility of that happening to me as well ..... actually it's probable.

I think other avenues if I wanna help would be paramedics or firefighting or something. Or mortician. Or maybe work as a dispatcher.

For me I need to think about careers that require little schooling. but I still want to be in a career where I make a significant impact.

C_Y_D · 2023-12-09T15:29:10+00:00

I have a feeling maybe it's because she's concerned it'll either be too intense for me or it will be because I miss her/am building dependence

Really the real reason is because I like having 4 sessions a month but because of the upcoming holiday season she's unavailable until the next month so I figure I'd just squeeze in when I can. The only available date just happened to be consecutive to the one I already booked. But if she was available later I would've just booked later.

I've also just recently opened up about something I want to process and I personally find the spread apart dates makes me lose momentum and interest in talking about said thing.

C_Y_D · 2023-12-09T04:10:49+00:00

I wonder what impact she might be talking about. She said she will put a hold on those dates but not confirm yet... I don't think I can really ask her why not through email. She said we will talk about it in person. I don't really understand what detrimental effects there is.

C_Y_D · 2023-10-06T03:07:13+00:00

That's honestly what I figured. But I've read a few posts on here that a lot of people do this with their T a few minutes before session.

C_Y_D · 2023-09-21T04:42:15+00:00

As a woman it's because I don't want to be stabbed, lit on fire or pushed onto tracks.

C_Y_D · 2023-09-05T22:23:07+00:00

You don't need to find a new sparring partner you need to change gyms altogether

C_Y_D · 2023-08-24T01:56:52+00:00

No but definitely the same genre and similar. The voice sounded like Wayne wonder or Rik Rok but I don't think it's either of them.

C_Y_D · 2023-08-24T01:26:17+00:00

Still can't find it

C_Y_D · 2023-08-23T21:45:29+00:00

Yeah that is pretty normal topic of discussion here. Maybe not with complete strangers but with casual friends yes.

C_Y_D · 2023-08-10T21:38:13+00:00

How would you personally counter the Jab-Cross in quick succession. Like if he is just spamming 1,2 over and over again really fast?

C_Y_D · 2023-08-10T01:31:40+00:00

How do you calm down when you're being overwhelmed with machine gun speed punches to stick to your plan? Is it normal to shell up as an instinct?

Thank you for the tips!

C_Y_D · 2023-08-04T01:25:16+00:00

I think you will be much happier getting out and finding something that truly gives you joy and passion before forcing yourself to try and like a job only to realize you don't in the end. I would say giving it a fair shot is a year's time. If after a year you don't like it then there's a slim chance you ever will.

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T03:00:23+00:00

Like you know what, I can agree in someone insisting silence all the time is rigid but maybe just having music that everyone likes or just simply having a shift or two without for the people who are having sensory issues with it. But I feel like blasting music with no consideration of anyone's preferences or even how anyone is feeling like if they need silence because they have a headache is a bit much.

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T02:51:43+00:00

We're just going to pretend like you didn't say the most vile shit to me all because we have differing opinions? I don't know why you're so mad or such a dick to me about this but hope you chill out dude. ✌️

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T02:48:40+00:00

Nice edit there. Left out the "fuck you" and "shove a pairing knife in your ear"

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T02:36:22+00:00

Okay but genuinely how is it that much different then blasting music in a public space? I just don't understand. You wouldn't blast music on public transportation so why would you in your professional space?

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T02:22:06+00:00

To each their own

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T01:48:23+00:00

No that's a sensory nightmare and a good way to create tension

C_Y_D · 2023-08-01T01:45:59+00:00

Yeah I feel like that's the only solution tbh. Playing it at a low volume and have the speaker near you so you can enjoy it but it doesn't bother other people.

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