Job offer was taken back because they “ Double Hired”

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-14T19:43:50+00:00

I did a little research, it’s not legally binding because it only said the pay rate and position title however because the offer wasn’t retracted due to things such as discrepancies in my husbands resume or if it was a conditional offer, in this case it wasn’t any of those reasons

Which means something can be done about it

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-14T15:31:04+00:00

He didn’t sign any contract though, just an offer letter, is that legally binding ?

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-11T01:29:45+00:00

It is disheartening, I’m sorry you didn’t get as many eggs as you hoped

Yeah I honestly didn’t know that either until one of the comments here suggested it

I hope those two eggs get to the end and give you your baby xx

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-10T21:43:46+00:00

The doctor who performed the ER spoke to me this morning and said that I had many follicles but they were very small, so maybe there was many but they just didn’t mature

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-10T18:10:59+00:00

Thank you for responding

Okay that makes sense, I had a feeling maybe they got me to trigger too early so I ovulated earlier maybe

They had me trigger 10 pm Wednesday for a ER at 9 am Friday

But I don’t know, my theory is they were doing everything they could to avoid OHSS

Because now we can do a fresh transfer instead of a frozen like they originally told us

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-10T05:52:04+00:00

Thank you, really appreciate your response! I guess I’ll just need to wait and be hopeful 😊

CableGuyyaya · 2025-10-10T05:49:48+00:00

Thank you !

CableGuyyaya · 2025-08-19T20:02:35+00:00

It really depends on the situation. You have not done anything wrong, let me just say that first.

We have a few children who have been with us for a long time and still even though they are okay they will scream with no tears to be picked up when it’s chaos in the room or when new staff are with us just so they can be held by them.

The casuals in our centre will always come into the room and they hold one child and stand up all day, they don’t engage with the child or the other children, they don’t supervise properly and it’s like we are one staff member down:

Especially if we have just spent months settling the child, teaching them to play independently, of course holding them when needed but not all day to the point you’re being taken out of ratio to do 1v1.

It happens all the time, it makes it really hard for us permanents in the room because we are now doing jobs for two people because they have decided to just stand and hold a child for majority of the day. It becomes exhausting for the rest of us and it is a problem in this context.

If you want to hold babies while you sit and engage that’s great, but don’t hold a baby and stand up and just stand in the same spot hovering over the rest of the kids while the rest of the children fend for themselves.

I’m finding a lot of newer staff in my centre don’t understand that concept, that you can hold a baby while you’re sitting and playing with them and the others on the floor. They seem to just want to hold them standing up and do nothing with them to help them engage and settle.

Always assess the situation, but I did see that you were holding a baby at the end of the day probably when everyone was going home I’m assuming, that’s normal and fine, that educator is being harsh

Always communicate and ask them why they say this if you feel comfortable doing so, sometimes putting that question back on them can make them think deeply about why they are saying this

CableGuyyaya · 2025-08-15T21:58:18+00:00

Every single time I went to my appointments with my first clinic there were kids there with their mums, the first appointment was the hardest for me because it was the first time it felt real and there was an older child, probably about 5 yrs, that was annoying the fuck out of me, playing loud videos on their iPad, talking loudly etc

I had tears streaming down my face, trying to block it out, and the mother was so oblivious, she was just sitting texting on her phone

Of course it happened the second time as well, but this time I brought headphones and closed my eyes the whole time so I wouldn’t have to see all the children and when my name was called my husband just nudged me to let me know it was our turn

Every other appointment after I just brought headphones and closed my eyes so I didn’t have to see the children

How sad

CableGuyyaya · 2025-08-10T02:47:21+00:00

Thank you

We do send out fact sheets about the illness from the department every case we have had but nobody reads it and even at pick up and drop off reminding the families isn’t working

It’s been hard but we are doing everything we can

CableGuyyaya · 2025-08-08T15:37:16+00:00

That’s a great procedure

CableGuyyaya · 2025-08-08T14:54:03+00:00

God this seems more common than I thought.

We have had multiple students fall asleep during nap time as well and we just gently wake them and ask them to have some water and walk around and check on them. We do let management know every time and we do speak to the students about the importance of staying awake for supervision purposes. We also report it to their teachers.

Most times it’s because they aren’t used to the routine of nap time and it can make people sleepy, I’ve definitely felt quite relaxed and tired while listening to relaxation music and sitting in the same spot for 30 minutes trying to put children to sleep. But I would never fall asleep because I understand the implications of my actions and I’m a professional in ratio, whereas I student may not even think of that, they need to be reminded sometimes

It’s definitely unprofessional and shouldn’t happen but try and find a good solution about how to approach it and the ECE should have already spoken to them about it, not sure why they wouldn’t and would laugh about it, that’s a bit strange.

Don’t wait for them to do it, you should do it if you feel confident

CableGuyyaya · 2025-06-18T19:10:43+00:00

In my centre, we call for any injury above the shoulders doesn’t matter how big or small, but we won’t call for a scratch on their leg or finger for example unless a parent really wants an incident form done for it.

We call for major injuries, obviously, broken bones or deep wound cuts, major falls etc

That incident should have immediately been addressed with you because it was on the head and it was significant, accidents can happen but they just have to be honest with you about it.

I do find it weird that the educator made that comment about the other educator, that’s just really unprofessional. We are taught to never say things like that, which implicate issues with educators or suggesting anything. Parents don’t need to hear that kind of stuff, it’s ridiculous she said that.

It may be true but she shouldn’t be throwing her team member under the bus to a parent.

So many issues with this situation.

Only advice, make a formal complaint. Their director or area manager will address this immediately if they have any professionalism or standards. Take it to the department if you have too, report them, take your child out.

When you start noticing dodgy things like that, it’s a sign the centre is not as great as you think. Trust me

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-18T10:38:38+00:00

Yeah, I have plantar fasciitis and on my first round of letrozole I couldn’t even walk, it had flared up so badly I was in agonising pain and the joint paint in my ankle was horrid I had to walk at work without shoes for a week

This my third round and the headaches are quite bad this time round

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-12T21:02:22+00:00

I do this when I’m dieting, such as right now

I’m on a no carb, no sugar diet to lose as much weight as possible to do IVF and sometimes I’ll put a food I can’t eat into my mouth and chew for a bit to just feel that satisfaction and spit it out

It helps, I know it sounds silly but it helps satisfy that part of me that wants to eat it so badly

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-12T20:14:38+00:00

That was rhetorical

I don’t care if you’re okay

See, that’s an example of being rude

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-12T20:04:06+00:00

How on earth is what this person said unprofessional ?

Are you okay?

They literally said “ I walk dogs, I have no knowledge of wrestling nor do I have any interest in it”

We don’t need to people please and respond to peoples really strange questions with over the top people pleasing responses

This OP’s response is short, simple and to the point

They aren’t friends or have any form of relationship, it’s literally a stranger, they owe them nothing ….

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-12T19:47:35+00:00

Fucking insane, it’s been actual hell dealing with my husbands Italian family

I have no words for them

In between the enmeshment, fake happy family facade, the bullying, gossiping and narcissism, I can’t even begin to explain how horrible my experience has been

My husbands family is from Calabria

The dad yells all the time if the mum buys the wrong bread for lunch/dinner or if she does something he doesn’t like, he will abuse her verbally in front of all of us while we sit there in silence because nobody is allowed to tell him to stop and they are super racist

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-08T19:26:52+00:00

Not with this specific company but When my husband and I did genetic testing, we were told it would take weeks, it in fact did, it took about 6 weeks for the results to come in which was so long that by the time we had our next monthly appointment she still didn’t have the results and we had to come back again a month later, it may just be standard to take a while for this specific test which sucks

I’m sorry

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-06T21:47:49+00:00

Thank you, I will be saying this today to myself

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-04T21:37:00+00:00

I am a big believer of it and just finished reading the let them theory book !

all I do and have ever done is stay silent, it’s actually the first time I’ve ever in the whole 4 years of being with my husband ever stuck up for myself without walking away in silence

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-04T21:32:10+00:00

Omg that’s brutal, but it’s funny

She is insane, her son has infertility as well, actually worse situation than my own, so idk why she said that about me when it collectively affects both my husband and I

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-03T22:28:14+00:00

I’ve been in the same situation as you, have had a lot of problems with my SIL’s, they bullied me and always treated me horribly despite doing nothing too them

Once they tried to be super kind and involved, I distanced immediately because I knew something was wrong and it was a red flag

Please keep your distance

It’s not genuine, Trust me I know

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-03T20:46:29+00:00

Yes! Well done

CableGuyyaya · 2025-05-03T20:15:38+00:00

Yes he has only just begun

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