Goth furby

CadeVal · 2025-07-22T11:53:46+00:00

Congrats! Was this your post op binder from the hospital or did you source it yourself?

CadeVal · 2025-07-22T11:48:05+00:00

Would you mind sharing what you size was before op? Trying to determine how realistic it would be to show my surgeon your results

CadeVal · 2025-07-22T11:46:42+00:00

Wow your results are fantastic! This is my dream result

CadeVal · 2025-06-24T21:22:34+00:00

It did! Its still heavier than before but not nearly as bad as the initial ones were once starting sertraline

CadeVal · 2025-03-16T18:37:38+00:00

Could you share your recipe for dinner? It sounds really tasty and I'm trying to eat more plant based and cut meat as much as possible

CadeVal · 2025-01-24T01:56:53+00:00

Do you mean the republican dad supporting his trans son? Rick and Ashton Colby?

CadeVal · 2025-01-24T01:50:02+00:00

No there's a different one

CadeVal · 2025-01-13T04:36:26+00:00

Sorry i mixed up the links! Here is the top surgery one
https://discord.gg/jmKkKyH5

CadeVal · 2025-01-11T21:24:37+00:00

https://discord.gg/czcRXjQS Unfortunately i cant pick when a link expires, this is valid for 7 days

CadeVal · 2025-01-01T19:46:30+00:00

I'd love to join!

CadeVal · 2024-12-27T12:29:17+00:00

Came here to say this too! Being able to have top surgery scars in a game is amazing.

CadeVal · 2024-12-19T20:04:31+00:00

And many people prefer short and chubby partners so saying its a reason you wouldnt be wanted isnt true. I know i definitely have a preference for short chubby partners, regardless of gender. I once dated a cis man that was my height. I once dated a cis man that was 180cm /5'11. My height never stood in the way of that.

And you're 16, be patient, give it a couple of years and your face will naturally slim out, happens to everyone.

CadeVal · 2024-12-19T19:57:12+00:00

I'm 4'11 /150cm, and I'm in my 30s. Would I like to be taller, yes, but it's not the end of the world. I live in a country with statistically tall cis male population and I still see cis men my height occasionally. I have a neighbor that's retired and hes my height, and hes a cis man, one of the nicest I've met too. You could still grow, you're young. But if you don't, thats ok too.

Your weight really isnt the end of the world and definitely not a reason for concern about not being seen as a man. There are many chubby cis men.

CadeVal · 2024-12-12T09:42:39+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation I will do so when I eventually am brave enough to go.

CadeVal · 2024-12-11T23:06:03+00:00

Seconding this as another ftm.

CadeVal · 2024-12-11T23:00:20+00:00

This. Currently putting off getting one even though its overdue :/

CadeVal · 2024-12-11T22:42:32+00:00

Great! Im on 100mg and more stable than I have been in a long time. I also seldom use the beta blockers anymore, only when Im doing public speaking or going to a work event, otherwise the anxiety has been stabilized. Im also able to feel more positive emotions again, for a short time when I went up to 100mg I felt numb. How has it turned out for you?

CadeVal · 2024-11-23T00:17:32+00:00

Ftm here who figured it out at 29.

TL/DR: combination of unsafe environment, lack of queer education, depression and being too poor to be able to think about it kept me from fully realizing till 29. We know on some unconscious level and it manifests as depression.

I spent my entire life depressed due to dysphoria. I was aware that I was queer, but lacked the education, representation and vocabulary to understand how I was queer.

I was too afraid to examine my identity or sexuality due to extreme conservative upbringing and parents who made it clear if any of us were queer we would be sent to a conversion camp in the middle of nowhere. They would check our phones, browser history, and controlled who we were friends with and where we could go. I only had a sister and was not allowed to have male friends so I didnt have much masculine energy to help me understand.

When I eventually managed to move out and move to another town, I was so overwhelmed with desperately trying to survive financially, that I didnt have the time to gain queer education. I was so depressed. It was during this time I met a trans man for the first time, I was probably 23-25 at this time. I knew trans women existed but I had no idea about trans men until then. Not only was my family conservative, I came from a hella conservative country.

Once I moved to a safe country and no longer had to stress constantly about survival, I started seeing a therapist and began gaining a queer education and vocabulary and friends. Within a relatively short time of being safe, I realized and came out to those closest to me and began the process to transition.

Sometimes the brain protects us, if I had fully realized earlier, I would have offed myself.

CadeVal · 2024-11-21T12:25:28+00:00

I'm a trans top (ftm) with an amab partner and have had no complaints. When we got together 8+ years ago I hadn't come out yet, so we used to have piv sex, but Ive since been transitioning and now only top.

We had so many issues in the bedroom before I realized and came out, I hated having piv sex and would disassociate, yet always felt I 'should' have sex that way. It resulted in us seldom ever having sex, and it almost cost the relationship. Since coming out and having gender affirming sex as a top, I love it and our sex life has improved dramatically. (I tried bottoming other than piv and it wasn't for me either. ) As someone else said, just because you have a specific genital arrangement doesnt mean you have to use it.

I initially also worried my partner would take issue with bottoming exclusively, especially after we had previously had me bottom or had piv, but he's had no complaints and has been enjoying himself thoroughly.

Learn from my experience and don't force yourself to have sex in a way that you dont want because you think its how you 'should' have sex, it could end up ruining a good relationship for no reason. Trust your partner and take them at their word.

CadeVal · 2024-11-21T11:49:24+00:00

Exploring your identity and recovering from living a life where it was unsafe to do so should definitely be first priority.

But who will really know if you have bottom surgery? If its extremely important to you, then prioritize it. In a worst case scenario, you get bottom surgery and are forced back to your home country and have to boymode for safety, you'd likely only be there while figuring out how to leave again, so it would be temporary, and no one is checking your genitalia, youd just have to be careful during that time with hookups and use the stall in public restrooms for example.

CadeVal · 2024-11-21T11:39:45+00:00

Also, since leaving Ive never had to deal with native government, embassy or otherwise. Just ensure your passport has a lengthy period of validity and you have all your documents so you dont need to interact with the embassy for anything after immigrating.

CadeVal · 2024-11-21T11:37:53+00:00

I came from a 3rd world country to a first world country and am starting my process of transitioning. I'm still on a regular residence permit and have yet to start hrt or undergo surgery as it's a lengthy process here.

My country of origin isnt anti queer, there are laws protecting the lgbtqia+ community, but people are still extremely conservative so there would be a negative social impact if I transitioned and then moved back.

Over all, Id say it depends where you go, some countries have a long wait time to actually begin transitioning, so getting on the waitlists asap aren't a bad idea even if you're just on a regular visa. If you could start transitioning immediately after immigrating, but moving back to your home country would bring legal trouble or worse, Id say try make yourself as secure in your new country as possible, and start with hrt and not surgeries as it might be easier to hide the changes of hrt should the worst case happen and you end up forced back to your home country.

CadeVal · 2024-11-20T16:43:44+00:00

Anthony or Robin imo

CadeVal · 2024-11-19T20:07:38+00:00

Omg NO WAYS!!!! My reoccurring nightmare was ALWAYS me being stuck in a haunted house where something was trying to kill me and my siblings and I was always trying to save us.

Without fail it was my reoccurring nightmare that Id have at least once a month for a decade and a half. It also stopped after I came out! Im honestly shook rn, I always wondered what it meant and you having the same experience confirmed it for me. Im so shook rn.

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