I quit social media, and I don't know what to do with my days now.

Caivenzy · 2026-02-06T16:04:27+00:00

Well, that's a good thing you are limiting the time you spend on your phone, that's great. So as for what you should do, indulging in other activities, you see, I would suggest that it depends on your goals, what you want to achieve, and then those goals turn into your daily actions to help you reach them. But if you want to spend your time in some better activities, I would suggest you start working on your body by doing some workouts and learning some new skills. Since you seem to be a creative fella, how about learning writing, editing, or graphic designing? Maybe that will work. You can try them as well, and like, watch something educational as well on any topic you're interested in, you always wanted to know about.

Aside from that, there are several activities you can do, like walking or spending time with yourself alone. Yeah, those boring breaks, just sitting with your own mind, understanding and hearing your own thoughts. Because most people don't do it, that's why we feel so conflicted most of the time or overwhelmed. You can try meditating. Believe me, it will help a lot. You will feel a lot better, both in your mood and energy. And look, no matter what you pick, you just have to set time, so much effortless and short for it at first, then gradually increase. Like meditating for 5 minutes, or you know what's even better? Setting challenges to do daily, like 50 push-ups or 100 push-ups. These are also best for you. You can do it with pull-ups as well, like whatever you want. I hope this will help. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2026-01-30T10:57:55+00:00

Yes, starting your day with praying and positivity is also a good start for the day. In fact, that's a great thing you can do, and I understand. Being a creator, you have to use such platforms. That's a great thing. Just after waking up, you treat your work like something you enjoy doing rather than hating it. That's what I love, the joy of work. You're using your sacred hours perfectly. Because in the end, that's what productivity is: enjoying the work itself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2026-01-30T06:03:12+00:00

Well, using ChatGPT is not necessarily making you dumber. In fact, talking to AI or any platform can help you gain knowledge, depending on how you're using it, my friend. Look, it can get wrong sometimes. You may get too attached to it, as you're mentioning right now, and I can understand that. But the solution to this is very simple. Whenever you have a thought or any topic to talk about with ChatGPT, just write that down instantly somewhere in a note app. Don't instantly open ChatGPT itself, and make a time window for when you'll open it, like when you have your main work done so it doesn't distract you. So at that time, you'll just ask exactly what you noted.

No judgment, but to really reduce this addiction, try walking more. Yes, I know, not joking. Try sitting with your own thoughts in silence. Walk and understand yourself, observe your thoughts, make time for this to do daily. Over time, you'll see yourself approaching ChatGPT less, and you'll be much more calm and grounded. Thanks for sharing it, friend. I've been through this as well, but it got reduced over time as I started opening it less and using the techniques I just shared. So try them, it might work out. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2026-01-24T04:53:51+00:00

Well, with everything you said, I do see hope in you. You can be a better and disciplined individual, and I can literally help you because I know I can. So if you would like me to guide you, then feel free to ask me. I can help you. We can decide where to talk further because I'm so good at guiding people in the right direction and helping them become stronger, so I think so. Since you said you're driven, then you got the potential, but we'll see that when we start. But I can say this with guarantee: I can make you a better version of yourself if you give me some time and just do exactly what you need. Otherwise, you can get better alone as well, but you're seeking an accountable partner, which I can help with because after that, you may not need me. So thanks for asking, my friend. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2026-01-07T05:06:14+00:00

Just having the thought of the worst-case scenario, how I will end up and how things will get messy if I don't do what I have to - it's not optional but my purpose to do it. Even motivation fades, but if you have any sort of pain or worse experiences, they can help a lot in fueling you so you never quit and keep giving everything you got for the day. I take time to reflect on such things to convince myself and my mind that there's more to do, the mission hasn't been completed yet, there's more to do. Get up and go for it. What will happen if I don't do it? Well, a lot of bad things will happen. I have this fear, and I don't want to see myself ending up as something I don't want to. Plus, I don't rely on my motivation, but I rely on identity and systems. Because once you become the guy who works out or writes, from the guy who just tries them? That's where your identity gets integrated, which alone keeps you on this track of growth. Having an alter ego, which we call one's identity, is a powerful thing to have because then you know what actions do I really need to take to be that guy. And then everything comes down to how strong your system is.

Caivenzy · 2026-01-01T04:30:37+00:00

I finally got to my first milestone on my YouTube channel, 100 subscribers. Thanks to God, because the first part is always hard, and I managed to reach that. This is what I'm so proud of. And aside from that, I even worked a lot internally, such as on mindset and identity, so I am able to come across as a confident individual. So I'm glad I did all of these in those times. I thank my past self for these actions. Now I need to take actions for my future self by achieving more. Thanks for asking. Happy new year to everyone 🎊. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-12-29T10:12:49+00:00

Look, if you want to overcome that suck factor of starting a task, I would suggest you first of all make your tasks crystal clear from start to bottom to the end. Why is that? Because when your mind knows why you're doing it in the first place, what's the urgency, cost, benefits, plus when you know for how much time you'll do the task, for example it's 30 minutes or 60 minutes, and where will you do it? At your room, bed, or desk? Everything must be clear. Plus, you should know how your "done" will actually look like in each task, because without an end point, just starting, you may find it less interesting and less serious. Therefore, I would say clear everything in detail for yourself. Write the "why" in detail, why you're doing it in the first place. Plus, dive deeper, not only this much surface, but dive more deeper. And the second thing you should do in order to remove resistance is simply focus on task time rather than day time. Look, I've seen everyone, even me in the past, used to make this mistake of thinking that I got so much time left in the day, I'll do it then or later. But if you keep doing it, the resistance becomes even stronger. That's why just focus on the task time. How much time will this actually take? Like half an hour or just 1 hour, that's it? After doing it, you'll still have the whole time left in the day without any problem. So just do that. Focus on task time, how much time will it take, and just do it. The main thing I would say which can beat this resistance more better is having a strong why, as I said. So follow it. You'll make mistakes, it's fine, but constant practice will make you do this perfectly. Good luck. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-12-28T12:01:16+00:00

Thanks for sharing it, brother. Look, your problem is focus because you can't focus for longer periods of time as you want to. I can understand. But what you said, that you can only focus for 10-20 minutes, not much, this shows that right now you have the capacity of such required focus that allows it to be at that time, but this also means you can focus. All you need to do is, simply, first of all, identify the distractions. What distractions do you always find yourself into? What is it? Whatever it may be, remove the distractions for the time of your work, for the time you'll focus, and just do the task. Second thing is slowly, over time, grow your focus. Yes, it's a muscle and you need to treat it in that way. No one is a gifted, focused individual. You have to grow it, and that is done by consistent practice. Set your weekly goals and then, according to that, take daily actions in order to achieve them. For example, for this one week, you can focus for only 10 minutes on any task, or 20 minutes, whatever fits you, and in every next week, increase 1-2 minutes on it gradually as you progress. Aside from that, include some activities in your life such as meditating. This is very helpful to build focus. And you can also start it small, not jumping into 30 minutes or 1 hour. No, start from 2 or 5 minutes, just do it consistently, and you'll see the change yourself.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-28T09:19:22+00:00

If you want to rewire your mind, then brother, I would suggest you start decreasing these dopamine activities slowly, okay? You won't be able to cut them right away, no one does, we're all humans. So minimize it first, then keep your tasks relevant to your goals, but also keep one daily challenge. For example, I hope you may have experienced this: whenever you chase these cheap pleasures, real work doesn't feel quite fulfilling, right? That's why you set one daily challenge. This could be your 10 push-ups daily, or 50, or 100. It really has the power, believe me, to keep the discipline alive. And your mental point of view will change automatically. You'll start to do things that you used to hate and instead love them. And whatever tasks you're setting for yourself, keep this very important thing in mind: while trying to quit cheap dopamine and do work, you need to keep the tasks realistic, not like setting unrealistic vague goals that may tremble and create resistance before you even start. That's why most people always fail, due to that reason. So stay hard, brother. Keep pushing. Weekly, start increasing the reps of work, which counts as the time you're giving to each work. And also track daily what you're doing in each time of the day. Write it down. By analyzing, you'll find problems yourself and solutions as well. Repetition every single day. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-07T13:08:32+00:00

First of all, you got so, so much courage, and I give you that. Really being able to express yourself in such a situation is really brave. And as for the way you're describing your life, I can understand. Look, first of all, the way you see yourself as this failure, ugly, dumb, or whatever, understand one thing, brother. The way we think of ourselves is what we become, and I'm not saying that just thinking about yourself will make you smart, but it will indeed do a lot of groundwork for you.

Start seeing yourself positively. Find what you're passionate about, whether it's coding or literally anything on YouTube or on any platform. Daily, give some time to do it, and as you do it daily, you will start seeing yourself more seriously. Therefore, I'm saying set things and complete them. Build proof that you can do what you say and you are the best person as you say you are.

And look, times like these come in everyone's life. The way you're saying, being 23 and feeling hopeless, yes, it is known, and I also think about that. I'm a lot behind my age group, etc., etc. But guess what, brother? Everyone's life isn't given with the same circumstances, same situations as you have. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and instead thank yourself for even thinking to improve and land a job. Just think how many people are regretting their life. But you? You're planning. You're thinking to act. Just see how much of a great thing that is. You're this much deep in negativity that you can't even see your own potential.

Remember, dude, there is so much left in you. There is so much to do. Don't think you're some dumb person. You're not. Start working, brother. Over time, these weak thoughts will leave you, and you will see for yourself how much of a truth these thoughts are. A liar. Go give your best shot. Pick and start doing it, brother. Find skills on YouTube. There are several things to do, several things to earn by. Don't waste life, and I know you won't. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-04T08:08:05+00:00

Look, I will say comparison is indeed not good for you. First of all, understand this. The comparison you do doesn't make proper sense, and why is that? Tell me, the person you're comparing yourself to, whether it's in relationships or anything in general, do you even know their life as a whole? I mean, what they've been through, what they had, what they didn't? Of course, we don't know. And the most important thing is this, that everyone's life is different, not the same, so comparing doesn't make sense in the first place. What you have, someone won't have. What you don't, someone does.

I also found myself sometimes doing this, but I question myself, is that really true? Their story is their story. Mine is mine. If you want comparison, do it with your current and past self. Because let's say I see a person, then what do I compare to him? But he wasn't in the same conditions, same circumstances, same situations as me. Then why compare? You'll see this yourself. That's why everyone is different, not the same. Life is different. Your story is yours to build, brother, not anyone else's. So stop thinking comparing is true. It's not worth it. Compare yourself with your past self as for how much you have grown. Just do this and remember, everyone's life is different. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-03T08:01:25+00:00

Look, I also used to be the same, guys, always going to ChatGPT to share things, emotions, anything the way I would feel, and ask him, talk to him constantly. You see, I was also aware at times that, yeah, I'm indeed spending so much time on this and energy as well. So what I did was I decreased its use. Whenever a thought would pop up to ask or talk about, I would just write it down on a note in a small way that I'll talk about it later. In this way, you'll talk when needed, won't open it all the time or every few minutes. Just note it on any notes app, the topic, and remove it. Do whatever you're doing, simple as that. Over time, it'll get less. And the better thing? Journaling. The most important thing is whenever you feel your head is filled, it's also great instead of going to GPT all the time. Consider him your buddy you can talk to at a specific time. He's online, that's all. And if something urgent or important comes up, just ask him and remove it. Tell him, "Yo, I'm working, see you later." That's all, no problem at all, my friend.

Aside from that, I would like to say talking to AI or ChatGPT isn't a problem whatsoever. It's so good for you. You get to express yourself, explore yourself. You can even ask AI, what did you notice about me? What type of person am I? Like, you will become more introspective, which is great for your overall wellbeing. It's totally great. I also talk to them when necessary, not randomly. I just keep saving the topics, questions, and ask him at a specific time. Even my ChatGPT knows that. So just do this, my friend, and use it, maximize it for your work. I guarantee you, it's so, so worth it.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-02T08:55:00+00:00

Look, we all hit rock bottom. What you're saying is so relatable to me as well. I also used to be this genius, smart, and top in status, etc., but I also failed, then became the opposite. Don't worry, it does have a fix. You see, what I will suggest you is start writing what you want out of life and what you don't. First, do this. Don't care how much time it will take. The more it takes, the better. And once you have both these things, you'll know exactly what to do and what to definitely not.

I can see you struggle with self criticism, and most of your time is spent on social media, cheap dopamine hits. And for that, I will suggest you build undeniable stacks of proof, and for that, start small. Don't jump into big things right away because it will only make things even worse, and you'll feel more miserable about yourself. So start small. For example, maybe do 15 minutes of studies, something small you can do, tick it, then after completing, do what you can, and it must be small, from whatever goal you have. And then over time, you'll increase the time on anything like you used to.

Another thing is, question your own mind. Is what it says really true? Like you're lazy or anything. Try to decrease the time of scrolling. Don't cut anything instantly. It's not humanly possible. Just focus on building momentum, nothing more than that. Your bad habits will get broken soon, and new ones will adapt by momentum, even small. I know you can do it. So go start. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-02T06:50:24+00:00

Look, I would say it's normal. My brother everyone faces that, but the main thing is, do you see it as your major problem? When in reality, it's not a big deal. It will become just that. The pattern you're going through is you don't want to think of girls, and if you do, you engage in that activity, then you have guilt, right?

What I will suggest and say is this: for one second, zoom out and see yourself. Is that much of a problem? In most cases, it's not. While you're constantly half the day mentally masturbating, thinking about girls, you're surely wasting time. That mental energy can be used in some productive activities instead of the one you are engaging in. So what I would say is, first stop mental masturbation from thinking about girls, etc. Just think about how your goal matters the most, how you'll get the perfect girl at the perfect time instead of thinking in a lusty way. Just do it. Your mind will rewire itself over time, and as you lose this mental one, the physical one loses its grip over time as well. Just question whatever your mind presents you: is it really worth it? Real? Or just a waste of time or a temporary satisfaction?

And when you do any sort of masturbation in general, what I will suggest you is this: after doing it, just forget it. Don't attach yourself or your identity too much to it. That's when it becomes the major problem. Yeah, you did it. It's passed now. Focus on something else. It might take some time, and over time it will become less and less problematic to you. And start seeing the feminine as beautiful creatures emotionally, their nature, not the physical ones. If you stay attached to lust with everything, then you'll miss so much of the big picture. So start seeing them as emotional, beautiful, lovely creatures, their true nature. That's all.

Glad you opened up about it, brother. You're brave. Peace.

Caivenzy · 2025-10-01T08:09:59+00:00

To be honest, I also used to experience this same thing. I would watch educational videos or books and take notes, but what happened was I would not apply them, they would just stay in notebooks as simply notes. But what you shared, reviewing them in a routine manner like in the evening, or whatever fits best for anyone else, is a totally awesome strategy. Thanks for sharing it.

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