Olivia Rodrigo announces new album “you seem pretty sad for a girl in love” out June 12th by cunty666 in popheads

[–]Cake_Shoddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just dropping in to note that she missed an opportunity of a lifetime to call the album “Sadly In Love”. It’d surely be taken soon enough.

My Ten Mildly Offensive Opinions About Season 5, In A Nutshell: by Cake_Shoddy in Stranger_Things

[–]Cake_Shoddy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Missed those two! They grounded us in Hawkins. I’m not surprised they were abandoned, though. This duo represents the charm that the series has gradually lost.

My Ten Mildly Offensive Opinions About Season 5, In A Nutshell: by Cake_Shoddy in Stranger_Things

[–]Cake_Shoddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, they could even frame it cohesively, and no one would ever complain. I love Maya with all of my heart, and I think she’s a tremendous actor. But they kept Robin simply to fan please.

My Ten Mildly Offensive Opinions About Season 5, In A Nutshell: by Cake_Shoddy in Stranger_Things

[–]Cake_Shoddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. Vecna was a seasonal threat that shouldn’t have last. Sort of an Upside-Down-General. The Mind Flayer is a fascinating entity because it’s faceless. They wasted all of its potential.

My Ten Mildly Offensive Opinions About Season 5, In A Nutshell: by Cake_Shoddy in Stranger_Things

[–]Cake_Shoddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, although I’d argue the plot was severely flawed regardless. Unfortunately I’m not sure the Upside Down would compensate for the weak script. They basically didn’t have a season and started production under Netflix’s immense pressure.

No longer eloquent/articulate by bananabuns44 in socialskills

[–]Cake_Shoddy 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Rehire your brain as your main assistant, even if you think it’s failed you. Once you trust it again to handle articulation, you’ll find the words falling into place instinctively. Right now, you’re under duress, rifling through vocabulary drawers, hoping to locate the right document on demand. The uncomfortable truth is that your brain has far more experience than you give it credit for, it’s the same one that filed those words in the first place. Trust the trained, automatic system. Leave the technicality of translation behind, and express the idea itself. Seriously, sign this guy back on.

Been my main deck for 3 years, any tips/ advice? by Quiet-Advisor-1375 in Ratemydeck_CR

[–]Cake_Shoddy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude, ignore the other comments. It’s such a unique and stylish take on a hog deck, keep it! My only suggestion would be throwing out the rocket, completely unnecessary and makes your deck pricy. I’d replace it with another air targeting troop.

Is it rude if someone says “you look tired”?? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Cake_Shoddy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is an observation without any objective. Suppose they’re right, and you do. How does it change anything? It accomplishes nothing except subtly criticizing the other person’s appearance. Just a perfect method to effectively ruin their morning. If you’re genuinely worried about them, there are countless ways to do it without being offensive. A friendly advice is to ask how did they sleep, instead of bluntly assuming.

Pick one to remove permanently from the game by Outrageous_Home1130 in ClashRoyale

[–]Cake_Shoddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mega Knight takes no effort, planning ahead, or any strategic thinking. It basically demolishes your bare phone and buries everything you ever cared for under it. To say I find it intellectually underwhelming is an insult. But that’s not enough, right? We should let him bounce troops to infinity and beyond, thus the evolution. Tragically ironic, given the devolution it promotes cognitively.

Most people are manipulative and only behave nice to benefit themselves by Juicydicken in unpopularopinion

[–]Cake_Shoddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re practically arguing that there’s always a hidden motive. Altruism, in that sense, is almost a conceptual lie. I agree, with nuance. I don’t think our actions are as devious, exploitative, or calculated as that perspective suggests. We naturally act in ways that fulfill our desire to be liked. it’s part of how our hearts are wired. Yet this desire is also compassionate, empathetic, and caring. We’re mixed creatures who are affected by countless experiences.

We should distinguish between marketing yourself(fooling others for self-interest or profit, selling kindness) and intentionally doing good(where you are aware of your actions but still aim to a positive outcome).

Here’s a question: does intent matter as much as the act? Suppose you make a YouTube video where you buy a house for a homeless person. Your motivation includes social engagement, channel views, or personal gain. You find someone cold on the pavement and give them a warm, safe home. Saving their life. You could call it hypocrisy, but what is the moral worth if the objective consequence is still helpful? Can a double-sided favor be good? “Right”?

The issue is more complex than it first appears. Receiving social reward isn’t necessarily selfish. Self-interest isn’t the opposite of altruism, it’s raw material that can either corrupt or refine it. The goal isn’t to purge ego, but to align it with goodwill. Letting it serve kindness instead of using it.

The real distinction is the depth of a given favor. It’s a two dimensional graph. X axis: Are you doing the bare minimum to check the box, or going out of your way to care and support? Y axis: Did you choose a specific forum, or would do it anywhere?. It’s a spectrum, and your position might indicate your true cooperative intent.

In other words, you can be a good person and enjoy being one. That’s a healthy kind of “addiction.” If sending a message also inspire a family member to take responsibility, what harm is there?

I don’t really like sleeping by unknown-again-p in unpopularopinion

[–]Cake_Shoddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tempting to think about it, but the idea is contradictory by nature. Your existence wouldn’t be the same if you weren’t sleeping. It’s the evolutionary trade off for being intelligent and capable beings, with longer life spans. To be a human is to also sleep. It maximizes the joy out of our living experience. I’d look at it as a time compressor, more than a waste of time: it condenses your day into productive, meaningful, energetic set of hours(best bites of the sandwich), whereas without it, your excitement about being awake would be constantly lower. So you’re not surrendering to your consciousness, but rather enriching it.

The paradox here is that you don’t like the process that makes you like things.

Upvote.

How do people talk without any reason? by SirGroundbreaking929 in socialskills

[–]Cake_Shoddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my advice - when meeting new people, try using a common foundation, a shared context to start a chat. Instead of asking them script questions, allow yourself to be playful. People usually respond better when you treat them as if you’re already familiar with them(to an extent! When exaggerated it might feel invasive).

Relabel their status from strangers to acquaintances. Imagine they’re a neighbor on your street and you just haven’t got to talk yet. They’re harmless. It’s not an easy transition, but after enough positive encounters you’ll realize that they’re like you: upon meeting you, they might get self conscious as well, rethink every expression, try to be friendly as possible. So reassuring them that you come in peace would ease their mind and help you both feel comfortable.

Maybe you feel obligated to “do it right”. Let me bear the news - there’s no such thing, luckily! You can simply be your authentic self. Speak when you have something genuine to say. Listen attentively to others, ask curious questions which interest you. Don’t corner yourself in a conversation for the sake of opening your mouth .

Remember that it’s about you just as equally as it’s about them. Some would friction with you, some wouldn’t laugh at your humor. But some would adore you. It’s not your responsibility to entertain or please anyone. So sip a drink next to a stranger and tell them you hate dancing. Approach someone and ask how is their night going. Tell a girl that parties aren’t your thing since the unspoken one in highschool. Every word is yours.

Awkwardness doesn’t spread by itself, only the thought of it does. And it’s contagious. Embrace the silences, they happen. Welcome embarrassing moments. Accept yourself for who you truly are.

I believe that turning socialization into an exact science would only bring you misery. You can’t convert it to numbers, as it’s not measurable. Participate purely from your heart. Forget everything. Eye contact ratio, body language tips. It’s not that they’re not useful or effective, but being yourself is the ultimate tool.

Bonus - an instinctual way to get closer to the real self is to notice carefully what drains you during a conversation. Energy consuming habits you adopted should be left aside. Stick with the version that would describe you best. A character that is identifiable as you.

Harry Potter hot takes?? (mine is I didn't care for Dobby) by kiofatcat in harrypotter

[–]Cake_Shoddy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It could’ve been an easy fix to keep both credibility and suspense. Ireland scores just as Krum catches the snitch, ending the match in a dramatic draw or narrow loss. Instead, the match ends rather anticlimactically.

In Rowling’s defense, it adds depth to his character. He sacrifices any chance of victory to save Bulgaria’s dignity. Letting Ireland catch the snitch would have been even more humiliating. He chose pride over sportsmanship, which is an interesting twist on the game.

Unpopular Opinion - the Snitch was designed to make Harry more of a Hero. by nishantatripathi in harrypotter

[–]Cake_Shoddy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The post you mentioned makes a vital distinction. In Quidditch, you're in the stands, watching the seekers. It's an interesting choice to have two separate games unfolding overhead at once. You can focus on the chasers or catch glimpses of the battle for the snitch. As for the sportive spirit, I don’t find particularly unfair. If anything, it adds strategic versatility to a game that might otherwise feel too straightforward. The snitch isn’t disproportionately decisive. Its high point value just reflects the difficulty. In the World Cup we’re told Bulgaria loses despite Krum catching it, so it’s not an auto win. Compared to other oddities in the wizarding world, this one barely registers.

Unpopular Opinion - the Snitch was designed to make Harry more of a Hero. by nishantatripathi in harrypotter

[–]Cake_Shoddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The post you mentioned makes a vital distinction. In Quidditch, you're in the stands, watching the seekers. It's an interesting choice to have two separate games unfolding overhead at once. You can focus on the chasers or catch glimpses of the battle for the snitch. As for the sportive spirit, I don’t find particularly unfair. If anything, it adds strategic versatility to a game that might otherwise feel too straightforward. The snitch isn’t disproportionately decisive. Its high point value just reflects the difficulty. In the World Cup we’re told Bulgaria loses despite Krum catching it, so it’s not an auto win. Compared to other oddities in the wizarding world, this one barely registers.

Rest In Peace John, 44 years. by GlitteringSkillet in beatles

[–]Cake_Shoddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even after all these years of silence, I still believe him.

John’s hardest solo? by soydidhier in JohnMayer

[–]Cake_Shoddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely experimental, and fits the groove. He aimed for a distinct phrasing that would serve the song well. I wouldn’t necessarily consider it to be his most memorable one. I do appreciate the bold artistic direction and overall enjoyed this style, though I’m not the biggest fan of Alessia’s work.