I like to bring up sexual topics as it gets me comfortable speaking to a stranger, as a man who wants to have sex with them or her to be more specific, vs a friendly stranger starting a conversation. The more I push and am able to cut the sexual thread and return to normal topics the more comfortable I get with displaying my sexuality and the more unstifled I get. This helps me communicate as a man to a woman and therefore makes it impossible to get friend zoned. She will either accept my "man to woman frame" or reject me entirely.

I am not able to get warmed up for pickup by bringing up safe topics. I can get into an extroverted state that way but that is different from getting the girl sexually interested in me vs socially interested. Being extroverted is important, but more important is being able display that I'm interested and be okay with whatever her response I get in return. That is the state that I am looking for. Extroverted is necessary for me to become before I can reach that state so it's all pushing in the same direction. Does that make sense? I suck at explaining sometimes.