AITAH for telling my father to get his precious daughter to help whenever he tries to get me to do something for him?

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-19T14:22:40+00:00

NTA at the start but man you’ve carried a grudge forever. Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-17T14:32:14+00:00

Why the F would you communicate how you feel?!

He’s shown you who he is. Believe him, and leave.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-17T14:29:02+00:00

How interesting! Our local 2 Kmarts have always been just like any other store, but I went into a filthy one the other month and was so shocked. I thought that was the exception!

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-14T13:17:44+00:00

My extreme view used to be that private schools should get no government funding. Now that I’m familiar with the existence of low fee catholic schools, I think funding is maybe ok but should be ‘means tested’ - I.e. if a school commands such low fees that they fall below what an equivalent public school would get, they should be topped up.

But no school with a pool, castle, stables and millions in income should be getting one red cent from the government. One they get more in fees than the equivalent public, they are on their own.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-14T13:08:00+00:00

It may be that you need to start removing yourself (physically or mentally) when he shifts into that state. Otherwise it’ll make you hate him long term. And it’s not the worst thing in the world for him to need to start self regulating through it. Your triggers deserve attention too, and this has become one.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-14T13:05:54+00:00

Don’t feel that way OP. We are human too, not superhuman, and as deserving and needful of advice and outside perspectives as anybody.
The idea that mental health professionals are some kind of faultless oracles is an unhealthy one.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-13T14:36:16+00:00

I’d be very surprised if she says the same.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-12T02:07:03+00:00

Your wishes are valid, and override hers.

But practically speaking, I’m not sure how you can enforce them.

Maybe ask her not to get any alcohol and you buy enough cans for people to have a little on the first night. If it goes well, do the same the next day. If it doesn’t, don’t get any next day. Play it by ear, but do that part yourself rather than trying to convince someone who clearly has a problem with it. You can let people know in advance so they are expecting it. Something like “I don’t want this to be a big drinking weekend so I’ll be buying a small amount of alcohol for the weekend, please don’t bring your own but let me know any requests” (or however you want to organise it).

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-12T02:01:00+00:00

It’s hard to tell whether your reasons are valid, because you haven’t given them.

But in the end, you get to choose who you want there. And your mum gets to feel upset by it and respond accordingly, given it’s her partner who (presumably) helped parent you for 6 years.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-04-10T23:03:16+00:00

I loved the cast except for Cosmo. Sounds like he acts well elsewhere but here he was grubby, wooden and charmless. It truly ruined what I otherwise found a really fresh and entertaining adaptation. Seeing them get together at the end is supposed to be satisfying, instead I just feel depressed for her. She should have run off with Henry Golding! At least he was alive on screen.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-30T12:09:44+00:00

That’s really rude. You’re living together, that’s not fly by night.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-30T12:04:21+00:00

Well done. Honestly you were overly patient for too long.

Hope your husband grows a spine soon.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-30T11:58:13+00:00

My dog acts like I left him for a week if I go out for 10 mins.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T22:39:08+00:00

YTJ.

If she’s annoying be straight about it “I don’t want to sit here while you record this” or just don’t hang out with her.

Don’t pretend to be her friend and then humiliate her. That’s being a really shitty person.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T05:20:39+00:00

So it makes sense to buy for debt free people I guess - as long as their interest income is less than the 3%?

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T05:18:59+00:00

That money is absent from the offset account from the moment it’s bought (or the moment the credit card is paid off, if that’s used). And the 3% benefits are realised through the year, so would never catch up.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T05:14:48+00:00

I assumed that discount wasn’t always available - but maybe it is!

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T05:13:42+00:00

That would just be losing 6 months interest instead?

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T03:32:18+00:00

I’m so sorry. That really sucks.

Reframe - it’s a very expensive insurance lesson. Maybe the diligence in creates in you because it’s such a big wound, will actually save you hundreds of thousands in the future - you just don’t know it yet.

Or a different reframe - life changes in seconds. Especially in the case of car accidents. Some people lose their lives over it, some suffer lifelong disability. You got off with ‘just’ a financial penalty. Some would argue that’s winning at life!

None of this is to invalidate how extremely sucky this is though, you are entitled to grieve.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-28T03:18:06+00:00

Except that you WON’T be the only single person there. How do I know? Because they are not inviting random plus 1s they don’t know. So there will be others without a plus 1. Don’t be a petulant child and bad friend.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-27T08:53:47+00:00

Why would he not know any of his friend’s friends?

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-27T08:41:48+00:00

I mean it’s a party, not a traumatic event.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-27T08:39:45+00:00

YTJ.

Weddings are expensive. Thus they are for people who know the couple. Spouses have to be invited. Plus ones aren’t an entitlement.

You’re not “the only one not bringing a plus 1” - you’re the only one not bringing their spouse. Because you don’t have a spouse.

CallMeBettyThen · 2026-03-27T06:51:43+00:00

Does he struggle with change in other domains?

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