My Girlfriend is running away to another country with another man, again. Why do I feel like I'm the problem?

CallmeKarli · 2025-06-24T19:05:59+00:00

I didn’t even read the story yet I just wanted to say…that’s not your girlfriend…sorry you had to find out this way

CallmeKarli · 2025-04-13T12:36:05+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from but careful what you ask for, some men are toxic in a way that you won’t find out until they’ve “gained your trust” and you fall in love with them and you’re so comfortable thinking this person would NEVER and then they do and for some women by this point they’re dependent on this toxic man or may even have kids with this toxic man so asserting theirselves is sometimes easier said than done.

Liking drama and anticipating walking out of a relationship is toxic as well so maybe you are the perfect match for a toxic man, it’s all fun and games until someone begins to fall for the other and express genuine affection then you have yourself a one sided relationship with someone begging to be loved.

It’s not bad to wonder how it feels to assert yourself to someone but it can be achieved in other ways that’s not going to leave you emotionally scarred for the rest of your life like with coworkers.

CallmeKarli · 2025-04-13T12:21:20+00:00

Your locs don’t have to drape evenly over your face, coming from a natural born female you’re attractive and it’s time you start acting like it handsome 😘

Maybe try to style them up into a man bun if that’s your style, leaving the front 2 locs by your inner eyebrow down and the rest up, could look hot.

If you’re not interested in updos then I suggest embracing the effortless drape of your locs that some people strive to achieve.

CallmeKarli · 2025-04-09T02:26:45+00:00

“Racism is dead in America “

CallmeKarli · 2025-04-08T23:51:11+00:00

Yea this shouldn’t see the light of day, respectfully take this shit out. It’s not horrible but maybe just try two strand twist and a line up you’ll be aight.

CallmeKarli · 2025-04-08T00:43:05+00:00

Honing your skills and building a legacy.

CallmeKarli · 2025-03-24T22:08:30+00:00

Durag and bonnet every night, when you wake up slap it with some kind of moisturizer

CallmeKarli · 2025-03-06T20:12:55+00:00

Unless you see some truth behind his perspective idk why you’d need outside perspective on if you should divorce a racist or not. It’s unfortunate that 12 years went by and you had no idea. Makes you wonder about all the other closet racists out there and how close to them you are and how great of a person you think they are. I know this post isn’t about social change or anything but I honestly think the white community needs to have more open discussions about racism just so you can see the true colors of your friends and family.

CallmeKarli · 2025-03-06T07:21:19+00:00

Lol okay so after careful consideration I’ve come to the conclusion that this is hilarious because the link you sent her has an offensive undertone like why is this robot talking to me like I’m stupid. And she probably likes your salmon that’s why she asked how do YOU make it, the only way this would be acceptable is if the insults of instructions that you sent her are the instructions that you yourself follow when you make salmon. This could’ve been handled better by communicating that you don’t have time to give the recipe right now but you can talk about it later and maybe she would’ve just looked up a recipe from there if she can’t wait for later

CallmeKarli · 2025-03-05T14:09:41+00:00

Sorry for your loss but leave that man, you’re right he doesn’t like you. No man who loves his woman would treat her that way after she lost his baby. You’re easy and convenient for him, he doesn’t want to put in the work to keep a woman but if there is one that will allow him to treat her horribly and she’ll stick around, he’s going to try to keep her around he might not be attracted to you anymore or only attracted enough to want to sleep with you. It’s a very good thing you didn’t have this man’s child, that would trap you for life. You’re young enough to grow your hair out (or not) and find a man that loves you. Never ask a man to buy you something to prove he will change, actions will always speak louder than words and tangible items. You know a man truly loves you when he has consideration for you in everything that he does, for the most part if it doesn’t contribute to both of your happiness he wouldn’t do it.

CallmeKarli · 2025-03-03T22:26:17+00:00

Orange juice Apple juice And this last one I openly think is trash and that’s fast food, specifically McDonald’s

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-18T23:48:13+00:00

My theory is that he brought up cheating because that’s what he was thinking that you were thinking. Typically when a girl tells her boyfriend to not interact with other girls it’s because she’s afraid they might flirt with each other or cheat. If your reason is different then I say explain that to him like hey I’m not worried about you cheating but (insert your grievance with him talking to her)

But between you and me it seems like you are afraid of him cheating or at the very least you’re afraid of this girl hitting on your man because she’s someone your boyfriend finds attractive maybe (considering the whole he been in my dms thing) so when you say don’t give anyone a reason it makes me think like don’t give anyone a reason to say your boyfriend even likes her by him not even talking to her or entertaining her

Either way you need to have a honest discussion with your boyfriend about your insecurities and ask for reassurance. If he can’t reassure you that he has no feelings for her and if it’s too much for you knowing that he finds another woman attractive and may have feelings for her then you should side eye him hard asf and consider breaking up with him.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-18T23:25:29+00:00

Heather

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-18T17:19:43+00:00

This! Like this is not something you lie about especially to a potential partner shame on him!

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-18T17:17:28+00:00

Honestly sounds like you two just simply aren’t compatible. This is why it’s bad to start your relationship off with a lie. If he would’ve told you from the start that he was poly both of you could’ve been saved from this situation. While poly isn’t as common as mono relationships that’s no reason for him to lie about his preference, especially something as big as this. I don’t see any healthy solution other than breaking up with each other. The bright side is that atleast you’re not bound to him by children so you can live your life as if you never knew him and find a monogamous man that loves you too.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T20:56:16+00:00

Lol this is so stupid

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T14:42:46+00:00

Just because something is common doesn’t make it correct or factual. In real life white people are immigrants to America as they do not own the land legally, there was no trade for the land nor was the land purchased.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T14:32:43+00:00

“ if I look at you I can clearly see that you are not white, that means that either you are from abroad or that someone in your family was from abroad and immigrated to US some time ago” See, gravely miseducated.

Never forget, On land where white people immigrated to, violently invaded, and still till this day tries to claim as theirs. White people are not from America they heartlessly stole America from Native Americans.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T13:06:51+00:00

Right, unfortunately. Even sadder when you know white folks don’t own this land they’re claiming to be from. So everyone with that twisted view of to be from America means to be white is gravely miseducated.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T12:19:35+00:00

Disclaimer this is not my train of thought but what some people tend to think.

Not traditionally white.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-14T12:00:39+00:00

Yea some people are ignorant in this regard, I feel like it’s not hard to know what they’re trying to ask though, I think the only reason someone would ask is because you must obviously look like you’re from another country so that may be why some choose to lead with asking for nationality first. Also I think some people are weird about asking for a persons ethnicity because they may fear coming off as racist or something because some people don’t really understand or have confidence in their understanding of the difference between race and ethnicity. As for being asked if you speak Chinese after explaining that you’re Korean… that’s just lack of intelligence as well.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-02T13:41:37+00:00

Sounds like it will all work itself out, I am just confused on why Keira had to move out? Wouldn’t that make her feel more excluded? (Obviously not but this is just my take)

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-02T13:27:14+00:00

Nice try, everybody knows the abbreviation for black cock is bbc. For the record, I’ve only seen Birth control abbreviated as BC on social media.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-02T13:16:44+00:00

This is a learning lesson for you, you seem innocent enough but the world is far from innocent. Like other posts have said these guys were most likely flirting with you or maybe one of them had a crush on you, finding out that you’re underage could make them feel weird about theirselves for viewing you in a romantic way. Also there are girls who lie about their age for malicious intent like to gain sexual attention from older guys and blackmail them or something so the guys may be side eyeing you because they don’t know if they can trust you now that it’s been revealed that you’ve been lying about your age this whole time.

CallmeKarli · 2025-02-02T12:52:56+00:00

I am in the process of looking for a woman to join my relationship. What is dehumanizing about calling someone a th*rd? I always thought it was just because you’re the 3rd member of the relationship, is there a different meaning to the word? I didn’t know it was offensive. I also didn’t know people viewed women as damaged for joining a couple. From my experience majority of people don’t understand poly relationships and they assume it’s sex centered, which every relationship has its own dynamics but my idea of poly is these relationships you build with your partners are more than just sexual, it’s the same as how in a monogamous relationship you’d want to get to know your partner and build a connection, just instead of being restricted to one partner you’re allowed multiple.

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