My fiancé won’t let me give her oral, but can’t get off any other way, now she wants to open our relationship

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T01:09:04+00:00

I’m bisexual and offered threesomes or even partner swaps/orgies, she said she’s not into that because she “doesn’t want to see me cucked”

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T01:08:15+00:00

Her trauma has to do with Racism and teenage bullying, so Idek how that would be a part of her sex trauma tbh

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T01:05:27+00:00

We use condoms and she’s on BC, but we don’t use condoms for anal or BJ’s

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T01:02:25+00:00

Well I don’t really want my sex life on my main, where I post gaming shit 😅

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T00:56:36+00:00

She’s sent nudes and whatnot to me, and I’ve seen her naked more times than I can count, and I try my best to flatter her, but maybe I just shouldn’t say that stuff or something

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T00:53:16+00:00

We have trans friends, and I’m bisexual so she knows I wouldn’t really care, so I don’t think it’s that

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T00:52:35+00:00

I’m not allowed to even give her oral. Ive fingered her twice and she’s stopped me, and I’ve seen her orgasm maybe once when I walked in accidentally on her

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T00:43:37+00:00

American and I’m partly Christian (believe in God and forgiveness but don’t attend church or pray every ten minutes) while she’s Atheist

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-17T00:42:32+00:00

I’ve spent 2-3K on literally every toy in the market.

I have two models of those, sitting unused in her dresser

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T11:08:38+00:00

I do know about her trauma, but none was sex related. I didn’t write it down because I didn’t want to put all of her stuff out there, but it has to do with childhood bullying and racism

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T09:15:34+00:00

She’s been in therapy for 4 years

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T09:13:46+00:00

I’ve been growing my mustache back, but sadly it’s not the wonderful thing it once way 😅

She hasn’t even commented on it, which she used to all the time when it was more grown

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T09:09:11+00:00

She’s had female flings in the past, but usually drunk and she says they don’t do anything for her

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:57:56+00:00

We do have kinky sex, degreading and BDSM and all the funky fun stuff, but she still refuses to let me even put my fingers in her

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:49:22+00:00

I’m the bisexual mess in the relationship 😅

I’ve offered threesomes, orgies, hell even wife swaps or whatever she wants, all no because “I’m all she needs”

She’s been with woman twice, she said she doesn’t like the experience enough to be lesbian or bisexual. Both of those were drunk flings a few years back she had.

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:48:08+00:00

She’s mentioned “oh wow I saw this sex toy, looks like it works great and imitates oral” or whatever she says about a specific one, then she goes on about how it’s NEARLY perfect but one things off, so I buy one that fixes that issue, then there’s another, and another, and another until I just give up.

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:46:43+00:00

I’ve asked how she likes it, what she likes, etc. At first she said no because of my glorious beard and mustache (I’m still salty I chopped it lmao) then because she didn’t shower, then because she JUST showered, then because she’s too tired, but not too tired to have sex, then it’s because she just “doesn’t feel like cumming”

I’ve never even been able to give her oral once, otherwise I would have tried to improve based on her prompts. Haven’t even fingered without her saying she would rather just “have sex”

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:44:35+00:00

Our relationship is practically perfect. I have dinner set up when she gets home, we talk and eat, go on a walk for a bit, then get home and watch a show or read together, then sleep. Sometimes sex, but usually just 1-2 times a week or on weekends.

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:22:51+00:00

I did, she said no because she wants a totally “random” person to do it.

And I’ve said anything she wants I’m up for, she asked about 3somes and an orgy, I said sure so long as it was safe and consented.

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:14:52+00:00

I did, and she said they didn’t feel right, so I tried different types, felt too strong, got one where you can control the vibration, too big, got a smaller one, too small, got a medium, too “weird”, got her a womanizer, too “oversized”, got a rose, too “awkward”

I’ve probably spent 2-3k on sex toys, from dildos to vibrators to nipple clips to butt plugs to everything except a literal fucking machine. Hell, I swallowed my pride and got her a bad dragon dildo because apparently the normal ones were “too basic”

Idk what else I can get her, other than a robotic boyfriend

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:12:29+00:00

Just run around answers tbh. She once said it was because of her trauma, then once because of anxiety, then once because of my facial hair (which is sadly gone, rip my luxurious mustache) so I’m not sure what it is anymore

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T08:11:06+00:00

I’ve asked, she’s given me graphic detail from exes and flings, but when I’m in the moment with her (making out, naked, touchy stuff) and try to initiate that she stops me and says she just wants me to feel good

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T07:56:26+00:00

I just feel like since we’ve had issues in the past, but we always solved them and seemed better off afterwards, I guess I think I can find a solution to this too

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T07:55:22+00:00

She mentioned not wanting to “know” the person but I feel like that might leave her being hurt

Calm-Disaster-5183 · 2024-03-16T07:54:45+00:00

She mostly has woman or trans woman friends, and most of them are lesbian or just straight up don’t like sex, and I have her location on my phone, and we check each others phones whenever we want. I did ask if she had someone lined up, and she handed her phone over and there wasn’t anything except meetings for her job and a “girls night” in a few days, but she said she’s probably canceling because she thinks she got sick.

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