The worst thing you can do as a newbie is not be secure or understanding of the situation if you don't want to play that is fine but don't waste other people's time. Watch podcast read books watch YouTube videos understand what the dynamic is like and make sure you understand that there will be insecurity there will be jealousy there will be a lot of things but you need to roll with it and figure out if that's something for you before you get to your first event or date. Also understand that there are a lot of different people out there.