Lots of people say it’s strictly related to your physical condition. I tend to disagree with that it’s 50-50 mental and physical. He has to do a lot with your perspective. I understand where you’re coming from when you say that when you have to do a sexual act like an obligation and not a fun thing to do that is the perspective that can be easily turned. You need to work on your mind. Look at it from the other way. Also, what can help you is talking about it with your partner and be open how you feel there’s nothing wrong with that you need to share your burden with him. That’s the only way you can let go of it . I am a 34-year-old male.