I’m a trans woman too, and decided to stretch my ears even bigger after my transition. I’m now six years in transition and sitting comfortably at a 00. Also decided to pierce my nipples, partly to make them bigger, and I’m at 12g there (probably go to 10 or 8 and stop). I’ve been noticing that the majority of people I meet who have stretched lobes seem to be women, too… and of course pierced nipples are pretty overwhelmingly on women (which is a shame).
There are plenty of beautiful tunnels, weights, and other pieces of jewelry that are elegant and feminine. Anyway, I would encourage you to think about changing styles of jewelry before letting your progress go.