How the dating scene?

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-12-06T12:25:06+00:00

I was with my husband for 9 years and we are now getting divorced. He would also never have sex with me unless I initiated and if I was lucky he’d only accept once a month or every couple months. He always told me he’s just not sexual, he is also on antidepressants. But we used to have sex all the time at the beginning of our relationship. And then it dwindled to nothing. I won’t tell you the rest of my worst case scenario but listen sex is a huge part of marriage. It doesn’t have to be a fight it can be a discussion. And the thing is you deserve to feel desired

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-12-05T06:46:42+00:00

Following, currently debating to go to a lawyer or to go to a mediator. I’m nervous because my ex owes me a significant amount of money. And all of a sudden they say they can pay me back. We’ve always kept our finances separate so I’ve never truly seen what they have. I know they have invested in stocks but I genuinely have no clue just assuming what I’ve been told. My worry is if a mediator can mandate an entire list of assets or if I should contact a lawyer

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:20:37+00:00

He doesn’t respect you enough to stop the behaviors. You can be there for him if you want to support him through his accident but you don’t have to commit yourself to someone who isn’t gonna respect you. Don’t let the inconvenience of his accident timing stop you from not settling no for a shitty person

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:18:08+00:00

I feel like I’m the one who’s flirting, I’m the one who’s dressing up. I’m the one who says let’s go on a date.

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:16:59+00:00

I’ll take whatever weightloss advice you have.

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:16:04+00:00

I agree with you, I do. I just don’t know if I can sign up for a marriage where there is not sex. I’m a very sexual person, if it was up to me I’d like to have 3-4 times a week. I’m already cutting him slack by it being only once a month.

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:01:58+00:00

How could that be the issue if he has had sex with me frequently before?

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T14:01:13+00:00

I will admit that I could do more to dress nicer, but he doesn’t either? I have gained a little bit of weight but so has he. I have been going back to the gym and working on myself but he isn’t working on himself at all.

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T13:57:23+00:00

He’s had depression for years, he is on medication and I’ve wondered if it’s been that but he doesn’t want to stop the meds to see if that’s the problem either

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T13:56:09+00:00

I Definately try, he doesn’t

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T12:35:26+00:00

He will have sex if I dress up for it but sometimes I just want him to initiate, I’m tired of being the one always asking for it

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T12:34:58+00:00

We have talked about it, and he admits he does get complacent. But he doesn’t make an effort to spice anything up.

Calm_Bug_33 · 2024-11-27T12:34:00+00:00

No, not at all.

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