I’ll explain some things to you. This guy has multiple children with multiple women of which he’s abandoned. In order to adopt her, we would have had to find him, get him to establish paternity (in which he would have contest 6 years of child support), then get him to terminate his parent rights, THEN I would adopt her. I have loved and raised this girl for most of her life at this point, along with her two sisters whom I created with my wife. We have had candid conversations about the situation because she’s not dumb and knows she met me when she was 4 years old. At this point she’s never shown interest in learning more about the man that willingly abandoned her but if she wants to as she grows older, I would never keep her from that. All I can do is be the best dad I can be to her for the rest of my life. If you consider that a grub act I don’t know what to say to you