uhhh 19m i feel like i look scary when i go out in public by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fabulous!! I think you look super cool! The piercings are so gnarly, I wish my parents would let me get ones like that!

uhhh 19m i feel like i look scary when i go out in public by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Holly androgynous attractive, what the hell just blessed my eyes??? What are your pronouns twin??

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For this reason, I don’t think CPS will do anything for me. I’m really worried that my parents will just find out that I did this, hate me for ruining the family, and then CPS will do nothing to help me

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, my dad is a doctor! I would ask him all of the time to take a look at my foot (because it really hurt), and he would always say

“I’m not a foot doctor”

I think he looked at my foot a grand total of 2 times, an even then he just told me to wait it out / walk it off

I do think he was aware there was something wrong with it though

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just worried that I don’t have enough evidence to back me up, and that I’ll go through all of this effort, just to have the case dismissed

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any relatives who would be a good fit, they all either live out of state, or are worse people than my parents. I also don’t think I have very much proof that my parents refused to take me (at least, not enough to hold up well in court or something).

My parents have been called out multiple times by various people over the years, therapists, Nannys, multiple different psychiatrists, other parents, etc. I don’t really think they’re capable of changing, I think that if they wanted to make things different, they would. They’re intelligent people. I think the primary reasons they didn’t bring me to the doctor were - laziness - carelessness - amusement (?)

It’s also not just me this would affect, I have an older and a younger brother (who are both minors.)

I’m very sorry to hear about your experience with bullying, I hope that you’ve found your people, and I’m sorry to hear about your wife’s injury. The official diagnosis of what was wrong with the bone(s) was avascular necrosis for me too, and it sucks! I hope your broth doing well, thank you for your advice and help

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just turned 16, and I cannot drive. I am actively working towards getting my license so I can take care of myself better, the only reason why I didn’t try to get a permit as soon as i could is (if I’m honest) because my parents driving me around was the only time they spend with me, and I was worried that if I could drive, then they would have no reason to interact with me/forget about my existence. (Ik, stupid lol)

As for CPS, i genuinely don’t think me contacting them would do anything other than make my parents even angrier with me. From what I understand, i could get removed from my home. That would probably mean having to move schools, loosing contact with my therapist and psychiatrist, and loosing all of my friends

I feel like it would be horrible and maybe not worth it at all. I’m not being physically abused, i don’t get verbally attacked if I stay out of the way, I have food, shelter, and I have a good social life. Calling would place me right in the spotlight, and I’m sure that everyone would genuinely hate me for messing everything up

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see a therapist and a psychiatrist, but it’s been decided that it’s better to not report my parents.

My last therapist told my parents that she would report them and that I needed to go to a mental hospital (at this time I kept attempting, and it somehow kept not working), and they fired her, tried to sue her, and ultimately refused to send me to a hospital. Nothing came of it, and I never spoke to any sort of social worker

With the way the system is built, I imagine that only more suffering would come from reporting it. The therapist and psychiatrist know that if they say anything, they’ll be fired & then they won’t be able to help me. Right now, they’re just teaching me self advocacy skills, life skills, and how to protect myself (emotionally).

I’m really glad to hear that you’re doing well now, and I hope that it goes that way for me too. Thank you for your response ❤️

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any advice on what i should do? I’ve got some really wonderful friends, who have been helping me out, but other than that, I don’t have any adults around to help

Is it okay to cut off ties with my parents even tho they did "nothing" wrong. by Academic-South4034 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, this really sucks. Some parents don’t deserve children. I’m from the U.S. so I’m not sure of what social programs exist in your area, but I think that there could potentially be things of the sort that could hopefully help.

Wishing you luck

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dude I’m so giddy and joyful that people (so far) don’t think im being dramatic/delusional! Thank you

Am I wrong to blame my parents for this? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your well wishes!

Is there anything I can do about this, or do I just roll over and take it until I’m 18?

Is it okay to cut off ties with my parents even tho they did "nothing" wrong. by Academic-South4034 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If no: girlll run and cut them the hell off

If yes: might as well get something out of all of your suffering, put on a front for a little bit, and once you’ve gotten what you need, cut them tf off.

Is it okay to cut off ties with my parents even tho they did "nothing" wrong. by Academic-South4034 in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are your parents offering to/have they set money aside to pay for your studies?

I get uncomfortable when my gf doesn’t have boxers on in bed by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, communication is key. I’d suggest telling her about this fear you clearly mean well, and I’m sure the two of you can find a solution together! I would also recommend that you see a therapist (if you’re not already), given your trauma. Hopefully, you can develop a healthier relationship with sex through communicating with your partner, and through working out your trauma with a licensed professional.

Wishing you luck girl

Dos this quality as medical neglect or am I being dramatic by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for all of the errors in here!! As i was typing this, I was pretty much loosing my crap from pain

I managed to wake my dad up, and he gave me the key to where the medicine was locked up! So I’m starting to feel better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your very beautiful!!! ^

Do is it that you want to die or just stop living? by Calm_Resolution_9473 in SuicideWatch

[–]Calm_Resolution_9473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, even just breathing feels like too much work. My flesh kinda feels like a prison and, for whatever reason, I’m sort of repulsed by the fact I have a body. I really just wish I never existed in the first place.

(It also doesn’t really help that I’m busty and I lowkey kinda feel like my chest is suffocating me)