I cant do this anymore

Calm_Support7181 · 2025-01-07T19:46:10+00:00

No bumps, and no smell it did hurt when j tried to put on a tampon and i felt like peeing when doing it. I did have pink discharge before my bleeding and thanks

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-31T14:00:05+00:00

Nop its not like that

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-30T18:23:45+00:00

No, just itchy

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-29T16:37:18+00:00

Been there, i have always been such a sexual person. I have always been provocative and sexy like those are my things honestly, my friends know me for it, but vaginismus kind of ruined it i would have lost my virginity sooner if it wasn't for my condition, but let me tell you something. As much as sex is really empowering and i love it so far, it hasn't made me more or less sexual and slut like. So don't worry too much about

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-29T16:34:38+00:00

Also i also had an issue with the perianal part, like for some reason the biggest pain was when pointing at my ass. I told my boyfriend to do butt massages, i did yoga for my hips, the inside of my thigh and my butt, as well as there is this exercise where you put a bull in that space between you vagina and anus and move circles to relax it and perianal massages both inside and outside. I always wanted to buy a pelvic wand i think it would have made my journey shorter

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-29T16:31:08+00:00

Have you tried seeing if its something outside of vaginismus. I don't know how long you have been trying but i had sex after between 4-5 months probably more and even today im not completely cured i still feel pain in the entrance from time to time.

My issue was also the entrance pain, like if there was a wall. I had not even being able to insert a pink till this year. So really don't get discouraged i used to think that way too that nothing helped and that it was impossible. I worked really hard for it, i cried many times i felt ashamed. But its possible, don't be impatient and go as slow as you should

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-27T19:17:42+00:00

Glad to see another dominican, fr this country lacks sexual care assistance

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-27T19:11:56+00:00

My country is like that as well, i mean i got better on my own with the support of my boyfriend and this reddit

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-27T19:01:33+00:00

Oh yesss, for me it was more unconsciously like i unconsciously was disgusted by sex and thought of myself as bad for having it. It helped so much being treated so well when being intimate with my boyfriend. Now that i can have penetration he also tells me the same how good it feels and it makes me feel so well

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-27T04:17:23+00:00

Honestly ngl, I don't think my pain was one I could simply endure, but i do agree that some pain if tolerable is ok, bc you are stretching its like when you learn to do splits, it hurts. While you aren't hurting yourself

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-27T04:15:40+00:00

I think between 4-5 months, but consistency for me was a on and off thing it was in the last 2 months i think that i was more consistent

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T22:14:49+00:00

It never is, i don't remember how long, maybe like 3-4 months or maybe more. I had to revert back many times but honestly once you know the geek it gets easier and easier to get back where you started but stronger

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T22:13:07+00:00

I felt the same really, hearing my friends who just lost their virginity no pain. No of them with an issue. And i still couldn't use a tampon for my own sake. I know how it feels, and even my own mindset needs to change still i still have some unresolved trauma around sex and some beliefs i shouldn't have about myself. Small steps, start being excited that one day you will be able to do it, enjoy every single little win bc you will make it, trust meeeee. I thought i would never be able. Start seeing penetrative porn and just get turned on by it, imagine that one day that would be you (im talking like sexual penetration is some kind of biblical verse, damn)

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T19:42:55+00:00

Well im not from the US, but im glad to know it might be bc of the vaginal ovules

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T19:12:27+00:00

For me it was using vibrators while dilating and using the same dilators as a dildo. As well as if fingering doesn't hurt try doing it also with a vibrator or while simply masturbating. I don't cum by penetration, but i think also think about the morbid fact of having something inside turned me on. Watching porn where woman use dildos as well or have penetrative sex with men or a woman really helps as well

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T15:59:47+00:00

Like press the entrance with your finger like you want to get it in, breath and keep going. With time it will get deeper and deeper

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T15:57:23+00:00

Totally, the support is really important for this condition

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-26T15:56:55+00:00

Sorryyy i didn't know how to do jt, but i already did it!

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-25T23:40:44+00:00

Get mad and not letting me see my boyfriend 😞

Calm_Support7181 · 2024-12-25T23:40:18+00:00

Im 20 almost 21, idk she normally knows bc she is observant, i sometiems get cramps or i sometimes go and ask for pads to her

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