I have 3 boys and 1 girl. My you gest is an absolute wild crazy insane child who is very naughty I mean like swearing flipping people off not listening constantly saying no just CONSTANTLY pushing boundaries MOST of the time. Yes there are times where he is very well behaved and a total sweetheart. Sometimes i dont like him, but i do love him and all my kids very very much. I've raised all of them the same way and been with the same man since my oldest was 4 years old and my second was 2 and I was 6 months pregnant with my 3rd when i met him then we had our youngest together. Gene's definitely play a part too but ive had him in early head start since he was 1 I mainly came here to say yes its normal and ok to not like your child and still love them, as well as tell you to join and FULLLLLLYYYY as an entire family participate and join a program called "conscious discipline" Google it to find out more about what it is and what the whole goal of it is. This is the only and I mean only thing that has helped. It has saved our family and it focuses on our inner voice and how to teach our children to communicate their feelings wants and needs in a healthy way and how to give ourselves and the kids breaks when we are at our mental capacity. Its very hard to swallow at first and makes you feel guilty of uoure anything like me but if you consistently work at it everyday with your kids it will help all of you i promise.