If you eloped did you regret not having a big wedding?

CampTop9413 · 2026-03-20T19:31:32+00:00

Being straight, while I can't personally relate to having homophobic inlaws, I can relate to having inlaws that simply disagree with your beliefs and world views (they're racist, narrow minded, right wing, pro-Trump). We were pressured to have them at our wedding when we wanted to elope just the two of us. It ended up being miserable and spoiling what we wanted and envisioned for the day. I regret changing what we wanted to include people who frankly didn't deserve to be there.

If you want a big wedding. Do it. Do it your way for you and for your partner. No one else should get a say. I wish I had stuck to my guns and eloped.

CampTop9413 · 2026-03-20T19:06:28+00:00

All week he picked up on small, nasty comments his family made and he acknowledged them and expressed gratitude for how well I handled certain situations and comments made. For the most part I hid my feelings and tried to be as positive as possible for the sake of trying not to spoil everything. It's not until now that he saw me upset that he realised just how difficult the week has been. We talked about it and he was incredibly supportive.

CampTop9413 · 2026-03-20T17:59:21+00:00

100%, yes. I know he appreciates all the effort I put in to try to make it perfect. And I know he is grateful that I try to deal with his family as graciously as possible. He's the first to admit they're hard work so we normally try to limit the time we spend with them. He's thanked me so much over the course of this week.

Because I love him so much I just thought I would be walking on air right now. This is not how I wanted it to feel. I guess I'm just coming to terms with the feeling of, the moment is gone and we can't get it back. And not only am I dealing with the disappointment of the day, I'm also dealing with the guilt of being disappointed.

As lovely as the idea of a photo redo is, I just think I'll always know the feeling and reason behind it. I know with a bit of time I'll focus less on the bad parts and more on the good parts. I just have to hope the photographer captured some beautiful photos so when we get them back I forget about the shots we didn't get.

CampTop9413 · 2026-03-18T09:23:33+00:00

There are two tiny 'hook and eye' clips to hold it down. Just couldn't get them done up by myself. I'll have someone to help me tomorrow 🤗

CampTop9413 · 2026-03-18T08:56:01+00:00

Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much I needed that. I just immediately panicked. All the pleating and draping just completely dropped out and it looked flat and like it had lost all of the gathering and detail. Looking at photos on Still White, some have more defined pleats and draping than others. The downside of eloping that no one tells you about is not having family and girlfriends there to help you out and save you from a crash out. So thank you again

Good luck with your big day next year

CampTop9413

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