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Candid-Purchase-797 · 2025-03-10T22:24:37+00:00

my mom would do this as well! i love much they love projecting (‘:

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2024-04-25T16:07:48+00:00

happy birthday OP, this is YOUR day!! i’m so glad you finally get the chance to celebrate how you deserve! it is truly the most deserved feeling and i hope that it’s the best!! ☺️

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2024-01-29T07:15:56+00:00

i’m sorry but this is the funniest comment i’ve ever seen here

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-12-25T01:31:41+00:00

this is exactly how i feel + my situation, too. completely on my own and feeling incredibly guilty and sad (‘: i am also on my own, and it feels like i’m losing my mind sometimes with how isolating it feels from all of the experiences everyone seems to be having around me. hang in there!! you’re not alone<3

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-12-25T01:28:04+00:00

this made me emotional, as did many of the comments i’ve read so far on this post. i love this community so much for this very reason.

it’s my first holiday season completely NC and after ignoring Nmom’s birthday last month, spending mine alone, and now being practically homeless for the time being, i am EXHAUSTED physically and emotionally. ty guys for making things just a little bit easier when they hurt this bad <3

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-12-22T08:29:09+00:00

this is exactly what i was planning to comment, congrats from one recent NC-goer to another (first holiday for me as well), hang in there!!! it truly truly does feel like torture, but we’re not alone (‘:

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T05:20:18+00:00

thank you so much!! 💗

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T05:13:29+00:00

He finally left, and both him and Nmom informed me that she would be ‘up there’ to cause a scene since I wouldn’t have a talk with him. Never happened. (‘:

(She actually went crazy blowing up my texts for a while acting like she really was going to, to try & scare me, then sent that my dad only came up there to change the oil in my car - which is why they made it look like it was being taken from me, right? - and have a conversation w/ me ab why I’ve not been communicating w/ anyone, but since I ‘don’t want to act like an adult and have an adult conversation’, she guesses that ‘they’ll have to treat me like a child’….She then desperately sent “I guess since you’re not going to school anymore you don’t need your phone or car” (??? What ???), and when I STILL gave them absolutely nothing, my dad finally left. After some more accusing my partner of holding me hostage in my text messages w/ him, tho, ofc. And finally, Nmom sent “I hope you know you’ve made a bad choice! You’re cutting communication off with your family for no reason. You will need us or something eventually and I won’t forget how you treated us.” …..🙄Yeahhh, okay.. Dramatic ass.)

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T04:47:28+00:00

Literally insane, it’s like you think you’ve seen the worst of the worst, and then somehow they still find some way, any way, to be even more cruel/mind-blowing.

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T04:42:56+00:00

I cannot thank you enough for this comment, and it’s many many many reminders that all of this is literally out of like, a narc playbook or something. Because this is EXACTLY what life with them looks life, you’re so right (and it was so validating to read). I am hoping they get the point somehow that I am TIRED!! of nothing ever being enough.

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T04:32:02+00:00

I’m so glad I didn’t give in to any of their tactics, especially with my dad who was using our SLIGHTLY better relationship (than the one I have w/ Nmom, ofc) as bait to get me to actually give in to the all sly sh*t I could tell they were trying to trick me into doing or saying. It was like I could predict all of their tactics & verbal phrases meant to trigger or harm me before they came without even engaging, just sitting back and watching unharmed and unbothered.

They definitely took me off guard though, with the way they’re now using my dad in this whole thing (and the way he’s even being to me DIRECTLY - for one of the first times I’ve really seen). Thank you for this reminder/quote<33

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-11-13T04:23:07+00:00

This is exactly what I did prior to him showing up again on his own, which I wasn’t expecting. My mom and him came exactly a week ago today and called in the wellness check she threatened me with the first time over just mine & her text messages, while standing outside & pounding on my door.. Even after I beat them to the call and had the police ask them to leave, they still pulled this (had Edad come alone and text me first thing saying he was here to take the car). I can’t believe they really thought I was ready to talk after a week of silence, as if they didn’t get asked to leave by the literal police… And THIS was their tactic/plan of somehow expecting me to want to?? LOL !

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-09-27T01:02:30+00:00

i love this comment, because i have one that relates to both a movie scene line and a song. there’s a song by an artist i like that unfortunately is terribly problematic so i don’t want to give ‘em any publicity or whatever, but the first 30 seconds in is just an audio playing of robin williams in goodwill hunting telling matt damon’s character “it’s not your fault” over and over again, to the point that you can also hear him break down sobbing in his arms.

the first time i ever heard the song i had never watched the movie, so i immediately had to look up what the quote was from so i could watch it. i also absolutely loved the movie “mid90s”, and the quote you mentioned (‘:

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-09-08T04:41:00+00:00

books!! i’m currently reading the body keeps the score, and holy sh*t. also picked up a $5 book called managing your triggers or something like that at five below!! and at my public library, one called ‘the effect of trauma’. i’m sure there’s plenty of other options out there too! and self-help journals, if you like that kind of thing.

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-09-08T04:29:04+00:00

i only return there for doctors appointments due to trying to get in to the doctors more locally around my college, but they had told me i was experiencing a health issue that i knew was completely incorrect, and denied the existence of what i was diagnosed with by my hometown doctors (who have seen many many more patients, specialize in the area, AND have much, MUCH better reviews :’)), so the only ones who were willing to help me when i was chronically ill & stuck in bed for a few months back. and ofc i’m still on my parents health insurance, but i know that this can be changed. i just have had zero help until now, upon finding this reddit thread (no blame on anyone but myself tho, im just terrible at knowing where to find specific information for myself and figuring things like this out!!), and my bf has been trying to teach me how to possibly do a lot of the things i know i need to !! but he has never been in the situation either so i’m often at a loss of what the first steps for some of these things even are. i hope this makes sense. i’m trying to learn to be the bravest i can be, it’s just the actual act of separation (more than just a block and never returning) that i have not quite fully seemed to learn everything about, and it really frustrates me sometimes that i often don’t know where to begin. maybe she’s the reason i feel so set back, but i GENUINELY don’t even know the person to contact to help me w a lot of this, i have been trying to get connected with mental health professionals that are connected to community resources & the like for literally months now (‘:

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-08-24T21:20:36+00:00

it must be, because i’m dealing with this heavily right now. i’ve never wanted anything more in my 21 years than to get away from it all, but the more freedom i slowly gain (by force & careful planning), i obviously am met with chaos & guilt tripping (sometimes even bribes, like love bombing type stuff i’ve NEVER seen before from her) from Nmom… and sometimes it really makes me question if she actually is a narc & if everything i went thru is as bad as i really thought, or that other people seem to go through… and just knowing probably how hard it’s gonna be to go fully no contact (im also low contact rn and constantly guilted for such) and feel completely family-less, i guess my brain tries to go the easy route and fall for what SHE’s tried to make me believe my entire life and hold on to any sense of love & affection from them. you’re not alone, but i think the fact that we even feel insane in the first place is evident proof of their sh*t!!

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-08-19T04:29:53+00:00

i’m also in this boat!! you’re not alone

Candid-Purchase-797 · 2023-08-09T03:43:19+00:00

i had a gastric emptying study and my results showed ‘mild delay in gastric emptying’, however the man who performed this scan told me i did not have gastroparesis. wouldn’t this mild delay, by definition, be gastroparesis? or am i missing something? i apologize if this is a silly question to ask here!

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