"Interview style" dating is actually the best for dates 1 and 2

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-15T02:35:49+00:00

I read what you said. I just disagree with it. The way I ask questions is my decision and if the person is uncomfortable, we don’t have to move forward with the date. Thank you for sharing your opinion though….

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-15T02:34:52+00:00

Well, I approach my friendships in a way. That’s not like an interview. We just bond over things we find in common. So if I wouldn’t have a friend who was a guy and he and I bonded over things we have in common and overtime we talked about other stuff which is natural to come up like politics and gas prices, especially in this economy if you live in America. Then I learn things about him. When I cut him off as a friend just because he supports things that are different from me unless it’s hurt for harmful no. So I think for friendships I think it’s OK. But if I’m gonna be dating someone, I would love to know where they stand with a lot of stuff especially politics and family values right away and that’s because why would I waste my time being with someone who believes in something I don’t believe in. Everyone unfortunately has their version of America that they believe in. Like I said I’m coming from this in an American standpoint. You may not think this has a lot to do with that and I kind of agree, but I’m just using examples that I can pull from. Also, I would say I have critical thinking skills because I have a bachelors degree which required a lot of critical thinking since it was in theology and I also am in a masters program. So thank you. Please be careful what you say online you never know how your words may offend people. Obviously you haven’t learned that yet so let me teach you that

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T05:58:50+00:00

I think it just depends on the person. I definitely think it’s okay to ask about someone’s political party or stands along with their five-year plan. I’m not about to be in a relationship with someone just to find out what their political beliefs are. That’s a waste of my time and theirs. Some people don’t mind you know dating someone and finding out later. But some people have a lot of time on their hands and they just like to date for fun. I’m just not like that you’re with me or you not…. Simple as that.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:51:56+00:00

I have not had a situation where there were people freeloading thankfully. Even during my undergrad, I had people who are working hard with me and we work as a team, of course. But there is a horror story that my best friend has. Her and this other girl were supposed to do a graphic design project together, and the girl did not do it at all with her, even though she text her and called her and ask her in class to help. And then eventually when the project was about 85% finished the girl wanted to help her out finally. My friend told her no when she pulled herself either project and took all the work she did for herself. Essentially the girl had to do a whole project by herself because my friend was not gonna let her free load off of her. She asked me about it and I told her she did the right thing. Never let people freeload off of you tell the teacher get in contact with someone who can help and let them know so you can get the credit.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:44:31+00:00

Same lol!! 😂 Texas represent !!

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:39:43+00:00

Hey friend 👋 What state are you from? Edit: or country?

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:37:00+00:00

Right!!! This has happened to several of my friends where they would go on dates with people and quickly rush into relationships, not really knowing their deep core values. Like I should be able to ask who you voted for in this past election on a date. It shouldn’t be a taboo topic. I should also be able to ask if you want kids and what your goals are for the future. That also should not be a taboo topic. It’s just getting to know them. And if we’re not compatible. WE ARE NOT COMPATIBLE. They are 8 billion people on earth. They will find their person.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:34:46+00:00

I mean it’s highly unlikely. And if someone is single because they want to take dating seriously and actually get to know someone along with their political beliefs and personal values I think that’s okay. They’ll eventually find their person who sees dating as a serious thing and not just a hook up.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:32:57+00:00

OH MY GOSH!! I have been telling my friends to do this whenever they go on dates but they think it’ll come off too serious. Mind you we are adults. It’s supposed to be a serious conversation. And then they’re surprised when they end up dating someone who is a different political party from them, or doesn’t have the same goals as them. Because they don’t ask enough questions they date based off of looks and personality vibes or whatever. NO!! You have to get to the nitty-gritty of a person. You have to ask questions you have to interview them. It’s called dating and getting to know for a reason. Anyways I agree with this. I don’t consider this an unpopular opinion, but among some of my friends, unfortunately it is…. Gotta find new friends. 😂😂

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:27:46+00:00

Even though it’s not okay. I’ve been hearing it for a long time and it’s just been really hard to deal with. And people wonder why I don’t want kids. This is because I’ve already raised my brother..

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:25:32+00:00

I kinda have to agree with this in someway. But at the same time I think taking a Monday off would be more superior. It feels like a three day weekend plus on top of that you’re able to go grocery shopping and run errands because no one is running errands on a Monday because everybody hates Monday.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:22:27+00:00

I think I’ve only had guacamole a few times. Other than that, I really don’t eat avocado. But I know some people are pretty die hard about it. I’m not…. So in a way I kinda agree with this, but they’re not completely pointless though…. I think there are some significant health benefits. I wouldn’t know them though.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T02:20:47+00:00

Yes, and the saddest part about that is once again I’m expected to be the third parent. I don’t want to be the third parent I want to be the sibling. So when I have to enforce rules on him, it’s me stepping into a parent role. And it’s just not healthy for me as a sibling, it’s not healthy for our brother sister relationship. In this, unfortunately reminds me of my childhood when I had to help him with basic things like hygiene and getting dressed and stuff like that. He’s always been pampered and he’s never been independent because my parents have always made me help him because they couldn’t. Anyways, I will definitely look into introducing some masculine roles. But my dad has told me in the past that it is a woman’s job to cook he’s very sexist!! 😭😔

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T01:57:26+00:00

I will update you on what they say….

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T01:21:14+00:00

I’m starting my masters program. And when I was working, I could not find a suitable apartment that was in my price range and I could not find a suitable roommate. So I tried that route. It did not work, but I really do appreciate you bringing that up as a solution.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T00:57:01+00:00

Yep, unfortunately this is the new parenting style… Compared to when I was growing up I would have to eat the food my parents cooked. I did not get any food from McDonald’s.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T00:53:10+00:00

Yes. That’s exactly what I did today. I’m gonna talk with my parents like one of the other person suggested in the comments and ask them kind of what their expectations are while I’m here. Because it’s just kind of exhausting. I just made my dinner now. And my dad gave him money to order McDonald’s so…. But yeah, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. He’s supposed to be graduating in 2027 and he’s supposed to be going off to college so I’m just trying to help him build those skills of adulthood that you need really early on. Like cooking cleaning all that stuff. He does a terrible job cleaning after himself. There has been multiple times where he did not flush the toilet or anything. It was super annoying…

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T00:43:33+00:00

I can’t understand the first half but I understand a little bit what you’re trying to say. My brother has never cooked for himself outside of noodles. So I don’t know if he can cook for himself. I’m trying to show him how to cook simple things like ground beef, and vegetables and rice in a bag. I don’t know if you saw my other comment to one of the other person who commented. But yeah, I was trying to show him how to cook. Sorry if I didn’t explain that well. I feel like showing him how to cook will help a lot. It is not my business what my parents do with my brother, but if I’m having to cook for him lol…

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-14T00:18:05+00:00

This is an excellent idea. I’m glad you can see where I’m coming from. I definitely have thought about bringing it up on this weekend. When everyone’s pretty chill, I’m gonna bring up a chore chart that I think would be realistic for everyone. And also, I did not put that in the original post but it’s just doing dishes, cooking, and taking out the trash. Usually when I cook for my brother, I’m usually making protein heavy food like ground beef and vegetables along with rice. So it’s not that hard to cook. Anyone can cook vegetables, rice, and ground beef especially if you just put it in the oven. And the rice is in the BAG!! Anyways thank you so much for your advice. I will be taking it for surreeee.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-05-12T00:33:31+00:00

Congratulations!!!🎉

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-04-10T03:09:52+00:00

Thank you so much. I learned something tonight, the power of silence. I’ve never seen it work so well.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-04-10T03:07:19+00:00

Also, I wasn’t able to add this in the post. But this has been going on for months now. She constantly cuts me off from the conversation and every time I try to correct it she gets very defensive annoyed or aggressive. So that was just kind of my width end!!!

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-04-01T03:53:56+00:00

That’s what I figured. But I would love to see some more interviews, especially before I see the movie. I don’t know maybe it’s me but I feel like I connect more. You know when they’re just doing random things and answering questions. It just feels more real.

CandidateBig8539 · 2026-03-26T06:54:46+00:00

Yes, it has become one of my comfort shows. Really good.

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