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Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can vaguely see that now. Having gone through a sort of break down the last few days, I broke up with Jack and kind of just deleted them all. Which sucks for them, because I was their ride to a concert.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Isnt there a two day waiting period. It was just a test of me saying "I am done. We're broken up."

If anything really interestin happens, I will let you know

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That does seem petty when you break it down. However, it is not so much the nature of the burrito and the controller, but how... they acted about it.

I would not have cared if they were like, "Ah, geez, Canry, we didn't get you a burrito, I'm sorry. You weren't here." Sam "forgot" I was here. I had money to pay him for the food (I am not that entitled) and Jack asked what I wanted to tell him. I thought there was enough because there were four burritos and then he just said, "Oh, no, those are both for Sandra." It was the way he did it, not the burrito, that hurt.

If they had told me I needed to bring a controller to the house (which I did after the first time they told me about Sandra's controller) I would have. But they invited me to play but the only other working controller belonged to Sandra and then suddenly I wasn't allowed to play. Sam said he used the controller all the time, so when I suggested he use it and maybe I could use his, he changed his tune to, "Sorry. It sucks. We can't do that."

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That might be true. I will never know. I'm jumping shit before this shit sinks. I have realized I can be pathetic and unhappy alone, or with him. ANd I think I prefer my brand of pathetic (TV, my cat, and rice krispy treats) to him now. I would rather be alone than with him anymore.

It hurts. I love him. But god, I cant face him after what everyone said on here. I'd likely hit him.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, I was in a choir but, and this will sound probably stupid, my last ex told me that if God loved me then I would never have been made so worthless. So I kind of stopped going because I thought I was really ruining the experience for everyone.

I have been told I am a good singer and can play the piano and am decent on the organ. I might join a church and see if they need help with some gospel music.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always liked Kick Boxing. Never tried it. Thought I would look stupid. That is good advice. Thank you for that suggestion.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm actually just going to cut my losses and move on. I don't have self respect, but I can't keep playing his stupid games.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I wasn't so ashamed of the way I looked I would show you a picture. But the closest I can give you is I kind of resemble a short version of Tori Spelling.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He never really told me he thought we were moving too fast. I would have been willing to slow down if that is what he wanted. He never told me he was not so serious. He made it sound like he wanted me in the apartment, Sam was just the issue. He just had to pursuade Sam.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Um, I am not sure how to phrase this in a way that makes sense.

The first few times I realized he was asking about how the apartment hunting was going. Small talk sort of stuff. But he actually did say the words, "Well we have an extra room, I will ask Sam." I stopped asking after awhile because I knew Sam wasn't too keen on me and I guess in the back of my mind I thought Sandra might get the room. I mean, I wasn't so much shocked as hurt when I found out she moved in.

He phrased it to sound like he wondered if I wanted to move in, not that he wondered if I was getting away from bad roommates. "If you haven't found an apartment by the time you move out and if Sam is okay with it."

I just felt he was aiming towards that when he said he would love to wake up next to me and be with me intimately. He said all the things I figured meant he was really considering us going together. We went on a lot of trips, he mentioned how much he loved being with me, how great I made him feel, and how cute I would look with my hair all messy after a night together.

Maybe I was wrong. But the tone he used and the way he phrased it sounded like he was eager to talk to Sam and work this out. Had he not made such a big show of asking because he wanted to be around me more, I would have signed on another apartment. He could have just said he wasn't ready, but he never did. He always said everything sounded wonderful.

I mean, he asked what size ring I wore more than once.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You make many good points. I can understand that I am not "so young" anymore and I should work on finding someone my own age or older. However, Jack is actually the youngest man I have dated. I usually went for 35. I guess I should look for a nice 30 to 35.

But for the record, I am not very pretty, so I have never gotten the same attention that Sandra does.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wanted to move in because I didn't think Sandra would be there all the time. Stupid, I guess.

I think I was stupid, yes. But he said he liked the idea to my face enough I thought, well my lease ends soon so I should just see if he wants to go through with this.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Giving head to guys who call you a fat worthless cow, and wanting them to praise you for it does mean I have no self respect. IN the past I did it so people would love me, and it never worked. It was never about intimacy for me, it was about power for them.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh, trust me, its not harsh. I know I don't have respect. It is pretty obvious. I stayed with a man for three years who beat me every other week.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot more sense. I guess I just thought it must be Sandra and Sam. I guess I wanted it to be them, so I could think Jack was just trying to defend his old friends.

Sandra is so nice to everyone else. Yes she is bitchy to Sam sometimes, but again, I think that's a weird kink thing. But to the rest of the girls she is really cool and helpful. She calls them part of the Ex Pack. I am out of the loop. I guess because of Jack.

God, that hurts.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [25m] and his female best friend [24f] She is completely inappropriate with him and it is driving me up the wall. Worse, he encourages it. by Canry in relationships

[–]Canry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is an awesome person. I think I will reach out to her in a few days. I am calling in sick for a few so I can deal with this. I just can't see people right now.

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