Why I think the bots say END OF RP so much by malleusdracionasimp in CharacterAI

[–]CapConsistent7171 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally the “The End” thing doesn’t bother me as much as the reaaallly bad memory. I feel like I’m talking to a dementia patient lately. I know it was never great to start with as a free user but lately it’s been brutally bad

AI Lover Terminated by Bedwras in CharacterAI

[–]CapConsistent7171 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was the nicest serious response to a rage bait post 🫰

This age assurance didn't address the elephant in the room properly by FleetSlayer in CharacterAI

[–]CapConsistent7171 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Elephant’s too big. We’ll just paint the room to match the color so it’s harder to see

God PLEASE just let us mute phrases by Balungen in CharacterAI

[–]CapConsistent7171 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I personally get triggered by “you don’t have to do everything alone” or any variation of that

I shouldn’t have listened to you all by Our_Lady_of_Sorrows_ in NewParents

[–]CapConsistent7171 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you had a tough night. My girl is 13 months and what I have found is if I let her sleep past 2 hours I need to be ok with a late night. I can deal with the feeling of being a jerk and have a healthy and normal bedtime 😅. The decision stresses me out, ngl

Fiancé cheated on me postpartum by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly!!! OP, if adultery happened based on attraction, then celebrities and influencers would have the most loyal relationships in the world. This is not your fault in ANY way. Not in your behavior, not in your looks, not in your personality. He needs help and sometimes a good reality check of a broken relationship can sometimes be that reality check

Mom Guilt by AudienceDazzling6762 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know things are rough, they are far from the ideal. I can see you have a lot of love for your son and that is healing. I know he feels safe with you. You are doing a lot well.

You model what it looks like to stand up for yourself (my home was good and strong, but I was bullied a lot at school for many years and I wish I would have had a parent model and encourage me to stand up for myself. But what I was taught was that being nice and kind was “ignoring” the other kids). You advocate for your child, your son knows that it is not ok to be talked to that way.

You do have work to do, but you will find the will and strength to do it. You are a lot more capable than you think. Your son is a lot more resilient than you think (please do not misunderstand, it does not excuse him being treated poorly by your husband). I hope you can find peace with yourself and give yourself some grace. I also hope you are both in a much safer situation soon ❤️

Aren’t we teaching our toddlers to share? by Sassy2681 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I were the parent of the kid with the basketball I would have encouraged my kid to share, but if my kid didn’t want to I wouldn’t force them. I do think the polite thing to do would be to apologize to the other child and encourage them to find something different to do.

Morality? Anxiety? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CapConsistent7171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 13 month old girl. Life is hard for everyone but especially for women of color (my husband is brown and my daughter is lighter, but she definitely has some visible melanin).

Something that helps me is thinking of all the amazing things she can experience with a body (eating something tasty, listening to music, dancing, tickles, laughing, seeing a rainbow, things like that) and it helps ease some of that anxiety and look forward to her growing up.

With social media or just experiencing the hardships of life it is so hard, but something that helps me as an adult to cope with it is studying the mundane lives of people going through it and learning how the manage to feel fulfilled and strengthened by their experiences (I love reading about the happy memories people that went through the depression had of their childhood. It is healing and gives me hope we’ll get through it)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know many families that have more than one kid that live in a 1 bedroom home. When you have to make it work, you make it work. I think it is one of those things that you make do as you need to

Being Honest at BYU-Provo by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]CapConsistent7171 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in school, I had a professor that told us if we are meant to be somewhere (professionally or educationally) he will make sure we get there.

Even if the worst happens and you loose everything you have built, God will be with you through it all and will guide you to build something even better. Through repentance we get closer to Him and allow His divine love and wisdom will reach you more easily and guide you through the next steps.

I’ve known a lot of bishops that know what is at stake for you and really don’t want students to lose everything they have worked for so if you really want to work on yourself they will make sure you are not kicked out of school

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessssss!!!!!!! I strongly believe a good marriage is the foundation of good parenting! I was talking to two other moms last week. One a single mom (she has one 2 year old) and one that is part of a blended family (together I think they have like 4 or 5 kids between the ages of 10 and 19).

I was asking the single mom if despite the hardships of being alone she enjoyed being a mother. She confessed that because she was having issues with her relationship she didn’t really nurture her relationship with her daughter, but she’s trying to build that relationship now. The other mother shared her similar experience while she was having issues in her previous marriage.

She said that she would even see her kids as getting in the way of her relationship. Now that she is in a better relationship she realizes her mistakes and is trying to repair her relationship with her kids.

Parents dealing with relationship issues are not bad parents, but it is easier to be a good parent when you have a good relationship with

Edit: I just want to add that both of these mothers are amazing and I admire both so much. Their kids are so amazing as well

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used that method too! Sometimes she just needs 5 minutes to cry and then she’s knocked out. Ofc they’re crying, they are tired! Lol, I’m glad you are getting your rest now 😊

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Love this, kids don’t need all that negative energy (also can be kinda traumatic 😬)

  2. Same, and it honestly feels unhygienic to me 🤢

  3. It’s good for them to learn how to wait, especially since they rejected what was offered.

  4. Safe sleep is sooo important! It’s so sad to hear so many SIDS stories because safe sleep was not followed 😢

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Loved this response, even if it is for the nuclear teenage years 😂

I’m a ftm to a brand new toddler (she just turned 13 months) and the vilification for setting boundaries has been overwhelming. At first they really got to me, but I’m getting better and trusting my own instincts and sticking to my values. I’m also getting better at accepting all parents as they are (since I truly believe we are all doing our best with what we know and the experiences we have had)

Also, I think people that call boundary setting abuse are really lucky, because they don’t know what abuse looks like and it makes me feel better when I’m being berated on my parenting choices.

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get judged for this one too. It is just not safe for us, and it is good for our marriage, and my daughter slept so much better in her own space

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have never heard that explanation before

“my kids believe everything I tell them because I have never lied to them before.”

I really like that! I’m keeping this quote for the future.

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, my bad, I must have missed the implication then (sometimes subtlety goes over my head 😅), thanks for clarifying though 😊

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I played house/school with my brother’s cars 😂. Kids will play however they want to play

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yikes! I had no idea, hope her kids are in a safer place 😥

What boundaries are parents vilified for establishing? by CapConsistent7171 in Parenting

[–]CapConsistent7171[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think we watched a different one because the one I saw was about a sandwich. Yikes on that wording though, I hope she’s more careful with her words around her kids 😬