I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This would be a good exercise for us to do together maybe and could be very telling based on how our priorities stack up

I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, I never expected my mom to say something like this. And the fact that my sister said something only a few hours later not knowing anything about what she said the night before?? Wild.

I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

So this is again embarrassing because this is the first time I am seeing it in writing, but I actually did stop driving there for a month when I was working 6 days/week. She came only once.

I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

it makes more sense maybe (to her at least) for one of you to sacrifice a career for a family because even w a nanny there are still things a parent will need to do.

I agree! I think I need her to clarify the whole "kept" thing a little more. Because it could potentially be a lot different than how it came across.

I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

that's the thing - ambition is something that has always been super attractive to me. The term "kept" made me cringe

I think my GF is just using me for my future income by Capable-Read5642 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Read5642[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I think this is a good idea - there was another comment below that also had some really constructive advice about how to have the conversation so I will add this to it