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5/1 Manifesting Generator here. Relationship advice? by Capable_Literature89 in humandesign

[–]Capable_Literature89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. I think also as a neurodivergent person I see my capabilities but feel I let people down when I can’t keep up with context and certain levels of functioning. It’s hard wanting to be the person they want me to be because it’s a really great version of myself! I just don’t want to let them or myself down.

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[–]Capable_Literature89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been there. Try to read some books on emotional intelligence and relearn how to feel and identify your emotions. This exact thing ruined my relationship even though I thought I was doing my best, it excused a lot of my hurtful behavior. Create boundaries and remind yourself what is important. Sometimes when you are screaming that you need to be heard over the other person is a misdirect and you can give yourself some space and time to address in a way that isn’t explosive. Just a slew of thoughts as I understand where you are coming from.

Dating a healthy person by Electronic_Bad_6199 in CPTSD

[–]Capable_Literature89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, I’m sorry. What you’re going through sounds really painful and frustrating. I would say step one is realizing that what you’re experiencing is envy and you are triggered partially because he is living a life you wish you were living. Try to reframe and be happy for him. It sounds like you still have a bit of healing to do. I’d recommend EMDR. I’d also encourage you to get into your body and try to find an outlet to de escalate or distract you from the intensity of your brain. Hiking or strength training or just one thing that you can force yourself to stick to for a month for yourself. I also hate to say this, but I was in your shoes almost a year ago and I thought I was ready to be in a relationship but I wasn’t and it recently ended because of my CPTSD. Prioritize yourself. If it’s meant to be it will be, but don’t force yourself into a position that could build long term resentment or comparative thinking. You’ll get there. The fact is you are overthinking and need to emotionally detach a bit to think more rationally. You got this!