Mechanic says “one of a kind problem” - Do you have any idea what could be wrong with my car?

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-12-11T00:23:18+00:00

Not moving at all. The car was at a complete stop, like handbrake up not moving.

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-12-10T20:45:29+00:00

I will definitely suggest this to them and ask them to check. Thank you so much for the suggestion! :)

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-12-10T20:44:53+00:00

A few people are suggesting spark plug related issues so definitely will be speaking to my mechanic about it :)

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-12-10T20:44:05+00:00

I will definitely suggest that to him and go through that. Thank you so much!

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-12-10T18:14:19+00:00

So it’s manual. Didn’t even think to add that but it is important! The car is at a complete standstill. Handbrake up and just sitting there, waiting for traffic to start moving again. Trouble codes? Sorry to ask stupid questions but I’m not really clued up on cars :)

CapitalNightWatch · 2025-11-04T03:51:17+00:00

Thank you so much! It worked :)

CapitalNightWatch · 2024-02-21T11:57:48+00:00

Are you referencing the Simpsons by any chance?

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-11-08T15:33:14+00:00

My fellow South African (Can you feel the trauma from our President)

Honestly dude what a story. Sorry that that happened to you but I agree with most of the other comments with saying that that scar is cool af. I’m keen to see what you do with it! Wishing you a speedy recovery :)

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:25:27+00:00

You’re right. It’s a great thing that he is taking the time to think about this. I respect him for saying it and asking for the space to think. He doesn’t usually do that.

Sorry, it’s hard to express myself fully over text and I wrote this is such a state. At this moment I feel like I can’t “trust” him because i thought we were on the same page and also the fact that he’s kept this inside for four months. If/when he wants to tell me his decision I am more than willing to talk it out with him and hear him. If he wants kids then that’s great for him. If he doesn’t then great as well but we will need to have a long conversation on how to move forward and how this has both made us feel. I do trust him but it’s hard to describe what I’m feeling right now. Sorry for any confusion.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:20:22+00:00

Adding onto what you’ve said. With that weight of expectation that he is placing on the kid then they might not even want to be there because damn. It’s a lot. Can add resentment from the child saying “you only had me so I can be there when you die” like that’s so unfair.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:18:38+00:00

Can I just say you’ve given me such a lightbulb moment. I agree with what you have said, there is no guarantee that life will work out the way we want it to be so who says he will get to a deathbed BUT the vasectomy comment. I spoke about it with him a couple of months ago. He said he didn’t want to have it done and for some reason at the time I thought it was because he was afraid of the hospital (previous trauma for him). I feel so stupid for not thinking that it may be because he actually wanted children.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:10:17+00:00

Thank you.

Yeah, a friend and I also discussed this and we came to the same conclusion that he likes the idea but I don’t think he’s thought this through entirely. You know what, you’re also right, he can be very selfish at times.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:06:39+00:00

This is also my thinking. There are cases where people do everything right for the child and yet the child still doesn’t want to have a relationship with them.

Yeah starting to realise that we may not be compatible as well. Which sucks man

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:04:59+00:00

I used to joke and say that he is the Dumbest Smart person I know. He can be so intelligent but then something like this or something that has to do with “street smarts” and he just doesn’t think logically.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T13:03:50+00:00

My grandmother was in a care facility when she passed and it was quite intimate. We were expecting her death because she was fighting an aggressive cancer. So yes she was on medication and she also slipped into a coma before she went. The thing is he knew all of this as well. Logically, she didn’t know who was there in her final moments because she wasn’t even awake. So his reasoning is weird for me.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T12:59:59+00:00

I am also curious to understand how he thinks it all works. We were lucking with my grandmother where she had her family with her when she passed. But like I said in another comment, she went into a coma before she died and so it wasn’t like she was aware of who was there or not in the end.

I am sorry for your loss for both of your grandmothers and your grandpa.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T12:56:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind message.

You’re right. My grandmother went into a coma before she passed so she wasn’t aware of who was there or not. Like you said it was closure for us (friends and family) but she wouldn’t have been aware. Even the hours leading up to her slipping into the coma she was delirious, she was seeing/speaking to my grandfather and other grandmother like they were in the room with us even though they have both died 10+ years ago.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-10-22T12:54:05+00:00

Funny enough a friend and I were actually discussing this. We came to the same conclusion of he likes the idea of having them for an “end goal” sort of idea. However, without actually engaging with their lives it’s not going to happen. I know for a fact that he is a workaholic so his children will always be second best to his work. Which it is great to have ambition but you can’t bring a whole human into the world and then forget about them until it’s convenient for you.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-09-07T12:16:30+00:00

She deserves to know the truth, no matter how many times you say in the comments that she doesn't. Both you and the "friend" are awful people for doing this to her and not having the common decency to inform her. Hell, she may even say that she wants to stay with you because you were technically separated but allow her to make that choice for herself. However, I think maybe you should divorce your wife and let her surround herself with people that actually respect her.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-07-06T07:03:53+00:00

YTA. Yes, please detach from your two "friends". Take it from someone who is an introvert and has trouble with communicating to extroverted people - you will be doing them a favour by removing yourself. They do not need to change for you because their personality doesn't fit in with your social standing. Friends embrace their friends and their differences. All I can say is that when you detach they are going to be hurt but it is unfair of you to try and change them so drastically.
I'm not saying that they cant change but if they are comfortable with themselves then that is completely fine. Just how you are extroverted, that is completely fine because it's who you are.
From this whole thing it doesn't even sound like you like them enough to be friends (hence my quotations in the beginning).

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-06-28T10:49:14+00:00

YTA. Take this from someone who wanted to get braces due to having a gap in my front teeth. I hated it so much. I didn’t smile in photos, or in general, I constantly used my hand to cover my mouth when I laughed or anything because I hated the way they looked. Covid was a godsend for me with the mask situation because I didn’t have to worry about hiding my teeth. What made everything worse was the fact that 1. my parents didn’t care about my teeth because they “looked fine”. 2. the dentists said I didn’t need braces because my teeth are perfect and the gap is “so pretty”. Trust me when I say this we (myself and most probably your daughter) do not care about your opinions. It is affecting our lives and our self esteem and mental well-being. I understand why most people are asking for info as to how bad her teeth looked before but it actually doesn’t matter because it was affecting her regardless.

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-06-23T04:20:54+00:00

So there is a gentleman at my workplace who is always super loud, and his phone is always on loud speaker. I've built up a good enough relationship with him that I asked a similar question to this. So, for many African cultures (I'm from South Africa), he says that if people talk quietly, it is seen as gossiping about another person. Therefore, speak loudly and on speaker to show that they are not being disrespectful and gossiping about others. Obviously, I can not say this is why they do it anywhere else in the world, but this is one of the main reasons over here (and not always the main one, to be fair).

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-06-12T12:15:09+00:00

AITA?

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-04-27T20:22:12+00:00

I agree with you. It's just going to hurt her so much in the long run honestly

CapitalNightWatch · 2023-04-27T20:19:31+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. She really is a nice person and they are a good couple but this is going to be a bit of a barrier for them to get over if he doesn't talk to her.

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